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I Have Never Been In a Relationship

Hmm..advice Anyone?

By: xxstarchildxx
Written on October 17th, 2007
i'm 19 years old, never had a bf, never been kissed. should i be worried?! i know people say to wait & it'll be fine (i'm ok with waiting, i mean i've kinda got used to it by by now lol) but i just feel so *weird* about it. it's just- aargh! i can act fairly confident on the surface and my confidence around guys (and general social confidence- i used to suffer society anxiety & not be able to speak to anyone much) has improved TONS. it's just that secretly, the thought of kissing a guy scares me to death. this is ridiculous, i am 19!! and definitely attracted to guys, just something's stopping me..any suggestions? i don't wanna hook up with anyone just for the sake of it btw. otherwise it would have happened a long while ago.. :S
By: xxstarchildxx
Age: 16-18 , Female
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5 responses
  • TashLee
    TashLee

    I feel the same way as you do! I even like the idea of kissing but I feel like I couldn't go through with it simply out of fear.

    Jan 20
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  • restart80
    restart80

    I'm a 19 year old male suffering from love-shyness. I can, maybe, sort of relate to what you've said.. except just talking to a girl really scares me. I feel like all my free will has been taken from me because of how severe my shyness is..



    You'll probably find someone though..

    Sep 12, 2012
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    • ecofox
      ecofox

      Im 20 same stuff. I talk to girls, run away and can be a walking wreck at times.
      Just like romantic stuff makes me really nervous everything else is ok.

      Nov 17, 2012
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  • isittrue2012
    isittrue2012

    I agree with BleuJean. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. All good things come in time and you will meet the right guy that you feel comfortable with.

    Aug 19, 2012
    1 like
  • BleuJean
    BleuJean

    Don't worry about it. I didn't have a real boyfriend (not just a high school dance date) until last year when I was 19. I will agree.. kissing someone on the lips that you don't know if you have feelings for can be kind of awkward. But you know what? you have to know an awkward kiss before you know a good one. Ask anyone! So don't put so much pressure on yourself. I think if you like a guy, just go on A date with him and see how you feel, take it from there. and breathe.

    Apr 29, 2009
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