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Hmm..advice Anyone?

i'm 19 years old, never had a bf, never been kissed. should i be worried?! i know people say to wait & it'll be fine (i'm ok with waiting, i mean i've kinda got used to it by by now lol) but i just feel so *weird* about it. it's just- aargh! i can act fairly confident on the surface and my confidence around guys (and general social confidence- i used to suffer society anxiety & not be able to speak to anyone much) has improved TONS. it's just that secretly, the thought of kissing a guy scares me to death. this is ridiculous, i am 19!! and definitely attracted to guys, just something's stopping me..any suggestions? i don't wanna hook up with anyone just for the sake of it btw. otherwise it would have happened a long while ago.. :S
xxstarchildxx xxstarchildxx 16-18, F 6 Responses Oct 17, 2007

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Sounds like you need a practice buddy for small talk...small talk is so important because it allows people to break the initial barrier of social awkwardness... there more people talk to each other, the better the get to know each other, the more they know each other, the more comfortable they feel around each other, and the more comfortable they feel around each other, the easier it is for them to be intimate with each other. Also having something that smells good/fruity will be a good excuse to share a locking of lips XD lol

also I wasn\'t in my first \"legitzy\" relationship until I was 19 myself, your not alone :)

You are still young, I'm 32 and haven't had a relationship. Not that I don't know how to talk to ladies, but sometimes there's no mutual interest. Focus on making more friends and perhaps the right one pops up along the way.

I feel the same way as you do! I even like the idea of kissing but I feel like I couldn't go through with it simply out of fear.

I'm a 19 year old male suffering from love-shyness. I can, maybe, sort of relate to what you've said.. except just talking to a girl really scares me. I feel like all my free will has been taken from me because of how severe my shyness is..<br />
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You'll probably find someone though..

Im 20 same stuff. I talk to girls, run away and can be a walking wreck at times.
Just like romantic stuff makes me really nervous everything else is ok.

I agree with BleuJean. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. All good things come in time and you will meet the right guy that you feel comfortable with.

Don't worry about it. I didn't have a real boyfriend (not just a high school dance date) until last year when I was 19. I will agree.. kissing someone on the lips that you don't know if you have feelings for can be kind of awkward. But you know what? you have to know an awkward kiss before you know a good one. Ask anyone! So don't put so much pressure on yourself. I think if you like a guy, just go on A date with him and see how you feel, take it from there. and breathe.