Don't Feel Ready Yet

I'm 22 and I'm very embarrassed that I've never been in a relationship with anyone. Hell I've never even kissed anyone! I've always been very insecure and I still am. I have very low self-esteem and I find myself to be very ugly. Feeling like I'm not attractive is I think the main reason why I don't want to date. I can't imagine anyone being attracted to me and wanting to go out with me. I feel until I can overcome my insecurities especially about my physical self, then will I be ready to date. Why date if I hate the way I am or look?

I feel so awkward that I've never been in a relationship. I feel like I can't relate to people. They all talk about their relationships and I just feel so left out. When I do feel ready to date I feel like its going to be so uncomfortable to admit to any potential guy that I've never been in a relationship before. I think that's something that might alienate most guys. Am I right or wrong for that?

RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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you're not listening!..

lol.. sorry.. those are just opinions back then..

even i usually don't listen to myself.. hehe,, :P

I feel the same way and I just turned 21. I really would like to have a boyfriend sometime soon but I'm really insecure and probably too picky at times. :s

first rule of dating for virgins.. do not over analyze. you can now stop being such a paranoid.

second rule.. do not think. just be who you are, it's like take it or leave it. who cares. you are not desperate.

third rule.. do not choose. it's just a date, not marriage.

another rule.. do not date. forever if you cannot follow what i mentioned above.

stop whining and start dating..

ps. insecurity is an enemy of dating..

That's not least it wouldn't alienate me. That would actually be a turn on for me.

That's not least it wouldn't alienate me. That would actually be a turn on for me.