Not One Opportunity In 4 Years Of College?

I'm 22, never been kissed (unless you count that time in 1st grade...), never been on a date (except for the time this year when I bought an acquaintance I was interested in at a date auction, but that didn't go anywhere...), never been asked out (unless you count that somewhat ambiguous email from a friend, also this year), and I've been fretting about it for at least 8 years. I am a shy person, had emotional problems and no social life in middle school, but I've grown so much since then, especially in college, and for the past couple of years I have been truly happy with my social life. Well, except for this one area, that is. Boys just don't like me. Sure, there have been a few that I found out were intrigued by me, but those never had any real potential either because I wasn't interested, or they were the type who just hooked up with a lot of people. So I guess you could say I've had opportunities, but not nearly as many as my friends, and I am at least as attractive, looks-wise and personality-wise, as many of my friends. So what I am saying is that I don't know what I can do differently. I have definitely been "putting myself out there" more in recent years (I bought that guy at the date auction and then told him I liked him... very ballsy of me), but no luck. I swore I would resort to the drunken hook-up if necessary, but alas, I have just graduated from college and haven't even managed to do that. I am not okay with this. I am ready to have my first kiss, first date, first other things... like, now. kthx

I don't know what good it will do to post this, but I really wanted to vent. Sorry I don't have any advice for anyone. But I will say, to the people who are fine with never having been kissed, good for you. I wish I could say the same about myself. Maybe one day I'll be okay with it, but I'd much rather just get on with it already.
slomodove slomodove
22-25, F
1 Response Aug 1, 2010

im in college now and a junior. im a guy and from my perspective it does not get any weirder for you. im a virgin not by choice but cuz i cant get a girl to like me and im just plain weird in general. i have no communication skills. every time i get near a girl i tense up and dont know what to do or say. i dont have any friends in college so it doesnt get any better. what i can tell you is that guys in college are either getting with ***** or not getting any at all. guys dont want to waste time trying to get with a virgin girl but rather get with a **** because it is easier. guys dont talk to you because your too hard to get or they are just scared to talk to you. =)