Is Marriage Becoming Extinct?I am a news junkie and I was reading an article that reported Cameron Diaz declaring that marriage is a “dying institution.” She added, “I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships ba
I guess instead of marriage people are shacking up or just changing "sex partners" every couple of years. No need to actually mean the words we say anymore." I love you" has definitely changed its meaning lately. I hear stories about how many many years ago when someone said they would do something, they did it. People would help out strangers without being afraid they were going to kill them.
We are teaching our kids to strive for education and less and less about finding that special someone and spending life with that person. These are values that usually only the parents can portray to their kids. Why can’t we as a society have both education and healthy relationships? Shouldn’t we be learning to be educated emotionally enough to handle commitment. It makes sense to have one partner to me. I mean we only have one real mother, one real Father. Why not one companion?Why are we producing offspring not emotionally healthy enough to commit?Why are we taught as a society not to take responsibility for failed relationships because they just weren’t “the one.” So people move on from one relationships to another, one “sex” partner to another.
Why haven't we trained our kids how to love? Why is America trading committed love for a love that easily changes its mind?The act of committing to someone else teaches us more about ourselves than anything else.It is totally unselfish and not something that a lot of society is good at (obviously).It is directly opposite of a modern view of “do what is best for you.” Because you have already committed to doing what is best for another.Yuo cant always do whats best for”your” career, “your” life, “your children” because now there is an “us” instead of a “me.”
It seems like American society is going from one extreme to the other-or at least it seems like it. I mean only about 50 years ago the divorce rate was a lot better than it is now. I’m just worried about where we are headed .I’m all for rights, but no one is really fighting for marriage or commitment these days. Even parents are persuading their children against trying marriage because they themselves weren’t committed enough to make theirs work.
It may just be me but I think there is a lot of pressure on young adults-not to marry but to stay unmarried. All the advice I hear is negative. No one says it will work out if you truly commit-they always state the negative. There is a lack of adults that have stuck it out themselves and even fewer that could even begin to teach the younger folks how to do it.
On the other hand(since I can never make up my mind) I applaud the fact that now most people are less afraid to leave abusive and unhealthy home situations than they must have been in the 1950s.We as a society have embraced freedom of choice in marriage and relationships(I just wish they would work on the destructive financial part a little more).
I mean could you imagine living in a society that would put a stigma on you for the rest of your life if you had enough strength to leave an unhealthy family situation? Now every other house is a woman that’s been divorced at least once. I’m always shocked to hear when people have stayed together.
What do you think ?