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I Just Do Not Have Any Friends I Can Rely On...

im  a college student with a good part time job... i have moved around my whole life and just now i come to realize that i  absolutely hate the fact that i have no close friends.. none! no one to rely on... im so exhausted of always tyring to be sooo nice and sweet to everyone so that hopefully they'll like me and wanna hang out or be my friend. The fact of the matter is that girls in their early twenties already have their "clicks" and "best friends" all s et up and usually don't care for making more close friends..

The one friend that i considered myself close to has let me down and bailed out soo many times..because of  her other close friends and other people in hr life. I do not consider her a close friend anymore. I just don't understaat I can do! ?! I think im fun to hang out with and not weird... i just don't get it! i've had a couple of close friends through out my life but i've always lost them due to my parents making us move. thosse friends loved me and wnated to hang out with me and do things.. they didn't choose everyone and everything over me! y is it that now.. i have none no friends.

I've been trying hard to make friends.. and this girl at my work who is my age asked me to goo to vegas with her and two of ther close friends.. i said ok, and was really excited to just go to vegas with a bunch  of girls.. then the next day shI'e just says sorry my friends thought they might feel awkward because we're all very close! im like...great!!!

then, my friend whome I've considered a close friend asks me to go vegas with her and i say ok ..and once again i get my hopes up ..then she tries to say that we should go another time alone bla bla bla.... and finally se he just says that her bf doesn't want me to go with them, because the girls that she was going with...one of them is the mother of his child... and he doesn't want EVERYONE to know about his personal life... so my friend basically just listened to him and told me i can't go...

(sorry if im just rambling on and on and on... ) this was my spring break week and i really wanted to just go out and have fun...but everyone just keeps letting me down and bailing out on me..

i just cannot seem to find a best friend .... im just sooo bummed out at the moment...

 

i do have a boyfriend....but that still doessn't help the fact that i have no close friends...oh yea he's got no close friends for the same reason i don't..he's new to the state i live in..

idonothaveclosefriends idonothaveclosefriends 22-25 4 Responses Apr 8, 2010

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I completely understand how you feel and I'm literally in the same position you are (almost word for word). It's like at one point I was surrounded by so many people but in the end I came to realize that none of them were good friends, people that I could actually depend on. I just want at least one quality friend who I know will be there for me through thick and thin. <br />
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I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you! All I can say is that you're not the only one that feels this way. You just have to keep trying and get out there.I'm thinking that you have to meet a good person eventually right? But then again, I'm trying to stay hopeful as well. <br />
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Good luck out there! Wishing the best!

This is really good! I finally found a fellow guy online whose experiences and thoughts about those experiences are similar to mine.<br />
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I can totally relate to this "...i absolutely hate the fact that i have no close friends.. none! no one to rely on... im so exhausted of always tyring to be sooo nice and sweet to everyone so that hopefully they'll like me and wanna hang out or be my friend. The fact of the matter is that girls in their early twenties already have their "clicks" and "best friends" all s et up and usually don't care for making more close friends.."<br />
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How true for me too!<br />
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But one thing that stands for you is that you did enjoy close friendships in the past. I have never had any close friends at all. Even till now.<br />
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I wish you all the best in finding a close friend (or better still more of them) in your new environment.<br />
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Take care, idonthaveclosefriends

thanks for both comments.. nice to know someone understands me... @lunaluv... that sounds like a great idea!! the only problem is where do i find one lol... I used to have a gay guy friend a long time ago and yeaaa he moved away .. of course! but thanks for the advice i'll definitely will try that if i'll have the chance!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I've moved away from everyone that matters and ended up in a place with people who just don't share similar ideas about life with me. I've had a couple people who I used to consider to be close friends but they ALWAYS choose their friendships that they've had the good fortune to maintain for years over ours. It's so frustrating not to have someone to share things with.