Over Analyzing

I’m a 20 year old college student with a perfect G.P.A. Whenever I’m in a social situation I tend to panic, and start to carefully think about what I want to say, what implications that the statement might make, and how it might be received ( stupid, boring, dull). Before I know it there has been a long and awkward silence or the topic of the conversation has changed. As an adult I understand the importance of social networking for professional reasons, as well as the basic need for all of us to create and maintain meaningful relationships. I feel as though I don’t know how to do these things. I simply have very serious problems communicating with other people, keeping a conversation going, and building and maintaining meaningful friendships.

I’m a very open, caring, and strong person. I feel like I could add to people’s lives in a positive way. However, I have no idea what to say to people to keep a conversation going. My mind draws a blank. Can anyone share some advice on how they keep a conversation going or how they make and keep friends?

I know you’re supposed to be honest, to listen, to have good body language, I think I might be overanalyzing?!

It’s frustrating. I don’t have any friends at all.
unmovedmover unmovedmover
18-21, F
6 Responses Jul 26, 2010

Exactly, I agree .

Yea.. Its good knowing that we're not alone in this situation.<br />
But Actually.. its also sad to hear, that someone feels the same way.

Thank you so much for responding. I didn't have good grades in high school even though I'm applying myself and doing really well in college. I really wish I knew how to make friends too. I wish we could help each other with this. But you are right.. we are just like each other. I guess we can take some comfort in knowing we're not alone in not knowing how to make friends.

Hm.. I just feel like you.<br />
I just left high school, with great grades.<br />
And I was almost my whole ''high school'' life friendless.<br />
Im still friendlesss.<br />
And I also prefer animals to human companionship.<br />
I also wish how to make friends<br />
I just really don't know how, I wish i could help you, but.. im just like you. :/

Thank you so much for your response. It does sound like we're in the same boat. I do think there are some real benifits to animal companionship as opposed to human! I guess nobody can really tell us exactly how to make friends, because that would be making friends on someone else's terms, and that dosen't seem like the way to go about it. Your comment was helpful :)

Don't worry, I am like you. High grades, smart, and friendless. I did have one friend, but she moved recently, so we are in the same boat. I don't really know how to make friends, I am mildly antisocial and prefer animals to human companionship. I actually wish someone could tell me how to make friends, but I don't really need them since I have my cat. I wish i could help though....