Friends Betray...

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Those that betray weren't friends. Be strong. You will need to be.

I hear you! It happened to me too. My best friend became my biggest enemy. He cheated with someone I also trusted.
The thing is that they think they gain points or win awards by showing how much they "love" someone, as if to say, "I am so deeply in love, I would even cheat on my best friend."
That of course is BS because they can't distinguish the difference between love and sex.

What bothers me most is that the cheaters then walk around with the fake attitude of, "I have no regrets."
That too is BS, and those liars live their lives in denial and never experience real life with full consciousness.
They do whatever they can to stay busy, by getting involved in various projects so they never have to face what they did.

I have been betrayed. I am still journeying. Take great care to not let the damage of the betrayal linger such as anger, hatred. That is your real enemy. It will keep on hurting you long after the actual incident. Do anything to get out of yourself. Get lost in a productive activity. A hobby, learn new things, travel, do charity, help others, anything. Just get involved. This will take you away from the negative state of mind, away from the hurt. Once your state of mind changes to calmness you will understand why the betrayal happened. It is a shock to the system. Something was not working though you wanted it to work badly. It is simply growth though painful it is. Change is painful. The friends and associates you are hanging around with are perhaps no good and have been no good for a long time. The shock comes to awaken you, to make you aware. Embrace the change, move on, make new friends, but do not forget to change othewise this betrayal is just waste of energy.

God bless you on your journey.

Yeah I'm doing the same thing.

The evil betrayer is exactly like someone who buys a ticket for a boat ride. She sits or, He sits with a hundred others and then in the middle of the boat ride, takes out a drill and drills a huge hole under her seat.
Everyone yells at her, "Evil idiot! You will drown us all!"
She answers, "I paid for my seat and I can do whatever I feel like under my own seat because this seat is mine!"
Also, these lying cheats always end their evil acts swearing, "I have no regrets!"
Total BULL!!!
They don't even know how to tell the truth. Also, even if they see five psychiatrists and have five friends , they never, ever tell anyone the whole truth. Many times they have told so many different stories, they begin to get confused over who knows which story.
Liars! Cheaters! Self absorbed insecure narcissists all!!!

Yes, I can truly sympathize with you on this subject. But, Sweetie life does go on and just because you've fallen off the horse a few times doesn't mean that you can't get back up on it. Sorry to be so blunt and so forward with my words, but I have been betrayed my whole life. I am 51 years old and it has happened to me so many, many times. But, not all people are the same. Trust your instincts to tell you so. Don't allow these people who have hurt you to win. Stand up and fight back. Show them what your made of. I don't mean for you to take revenge here. Just by being yourself and don't let them affect you. Yes, easier said than done, I know. If you don't stand up for yourself, no one else will. You've got to love yourself first, if not no one will love you in return. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I do have friends and they are good close friends and I wouldn't trade them for anything in this world. Look, Sweetie we all make mistakes. Forgive them and move on. Don't let them chase you away. I bet you can be the best friend anyone has ever had. You remind me so much of myself. Best of luck to you and I do hope this helps put somethings into a better perspective for you. Love yourself and then things will find a way of working out, they always do. Just have FAITH!!!!!
Blessings to you,
Inurlyfe725

It's rough when you find out there is no sisterhood. My sister and mother were always mean to me. And I still tried to make friends with women. I'm 50 now and I can only think of one woman who was a true friend to me.

The thing women do to other women that hurts me the most is that they tell your secrets when you confided in them thinking they wouldn't tell. I've had "friends" bring up my flaws and secrets in front of others in my presence many times. I've stopped trying. Most women are just mean.

I know some seemingly nice women. But I keep them at arm's length. It's just too stressful.

I'm the type of person who is always wanting to help people. I do it because it feels good and I hope it will make them a better person and they'll do the same for others but this rarely happens. I could write a book about betrayal of friends and even family. I've even let＂friends" live with me for free and even they took advantage of this. I keep thinking that this one's a good person and they turn out to be a user and just out for themself but every so often I find a really good person. So I hear ya. There are good ones out there, so don't give up. The people that responded sound wonderful. : )

I really understand how you feel. I never had my so called"best friend" take my boyfriend or husband. But, I have had "friends" been unkind, selfish, self-centered. They want you to call them but put no effort to be your friend. I say HECK with that who needs it. I don't so now I keep to myself and do not look for so called "friends". People need to learn that evrything in this lfe is "two ways" not one. If you want to be appreciate it you need to appreciate others. I consider mydelf a good person and never have gone out of my way to purposely hurt anybody else on purpose. I believe on whatever comes aorund goes around. My best friend in God because he keeps me at peace and unselfish.

Thank you for your honesty. Although you may not understand this, anything in the outer world that happens to us is always a reflection of what's going on within us. So in this case, being betrayed by friends tells me that you are betraying yourself. Now before you deny this, please hear me out. You are a spiritual being having a divine human experience and you've come here to the planet to remember who you are. And who you are is the divine spiritual being. If you take some time to get still and quiet and tap into a compassion that runs deep within you, you can share this compassion with the aspects of you that feel betrayed. In other words, if you begin identifying with who you really are, then you discover a love within that you never knew you had (but it was always there). And guess what, those aspects will leap with joy because they've been waiting for the real you to show up. Now when you do this an interesting thing happens in the outer world. People no longer betray you. This is natural law. And the reason is that you are no longer betraying yourself--all those hurting aspects that you've been pushing away. Love them and your outer world will have something new to reflect. Blessings dear one for you are a beautiful spirit. :)

I am alone at 48 yo. Depressed sometimes. My last fiance' of 8 years left me 3 years ago for a customer she met while at work. I havent had a significant relationship since. I am in great physical shape, so, I think maybee the hurt is obvious. I have never been more willing to change and compromise, but, it seems, women my age are very set in their ways and not willing to get to know me. I believe the previous suggestion; get involved and buisy, and dont let the past hate, resentment and hurt effect you, was excellent! But, I dont know how. I am a hermit now, so sick of consistant rejection for 3 years. Gawd people can be so selfish and uncaring.

its hard to forgive ..

May be we can call any one Cheat just with our own mind and attitude... May be have done something wrong with wrong morals..
I am not confronting or supporting the addresed the person who Broke your heart .

But the point is ,, your friend just got her drilled by your friend , she used him as a toy .. dont we have sex , just to satisfy our mind ? to satisfy our sinful character .. why we do sex...?? have we ever thought about it ?? No .. i wish we could first think about it . may be it the sin we want to commit with some one .. why we dont get aroused when we see our mothers ,, our sisters ? if some one does,, then we label it sin .. arent they opposite sex ?

just think ,, i hope we could follow up as well.. shouldnt leave our loved ones , for just having sex with someone .. may be your friend was just using your Fem,ale friend or just wanted to show her the ground .. that she has no worth . ! Think positive .

Listen. Don't close your heart. It's easy. Just will say to yourself when you meet someone new: "This time I won't be a victim". And then repeat those words every time when the doubts will posses your mind. When you will know that now you are not a victim and you should not turn to show back you will be out of harms. But at first it takes some efforts and needs your lil courage to get some strength from the depth of yourself. And it works.
Good luck !