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Friends Betray...

I've only ever experienced betrayal from friends, so I choose to no longer have any, and I'm happier that way.  My best friend slept with, and got pregnant by, my husband.  That was the last straw.  Because she wasn't the first.  I'd lost boyfriends to "friends" multiple times over the years.  I couldn't do it anymore.  So I'm a loner now, and I have so much less to worry about.
aranarose aranarose 31-35 189 Responses Dec 4, 2010

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Don't you get lonely though?

See, this is why I truly believe that that handy little gadget on every man should become detachable as soon as he gets into any kind of relationship. As far as the skanky "friend," I feel sorry for her spawn, I mean, kid.

:( I'm sorry you've been through so much but don't give up hope on people... There are some decent people left.

hell yes there are! although many times they are hard to find

i know how you feel being betrayed by former freinds because when i had a disorder called trichotilomania, which is were you pull out your hair due to stress, all my friends stoped talking to me accept for one. the brutally honest truth is that there are a lot of backstabing ******* in this world and it is hard to avoid them. but if you look hard enough for a true friend you will find them even though sometimes they are rare. please understand that im not trying to make you change your oppinion on friends but im just being honest with you that not all people are total ******* who want to use you. i litteraly can not express how much pain id be in without my best friend because she is litteraly my only true friend who i can relate to so im just saying that having a friend can be rewarding if they are true, even though it may take time to find them.

Hi! I really admire your decision...it takes lot of courage to decide to be a loner..<br />
I think that everybody has the right to spend life as they see fit... but not if that hurts somebody else..<br />
And i'm still shocked by the amount of people who are remorseless in doing what they please without looking back at the victims they've made..<br />
I can't start undertanding how you feel and i'm sorry somebody hurt you so but i really admire your strength of will! If you want to rant about somebody or just plain complain i'm hear to listen!:)

you wanne have a lol every day add me on facebook <br />
I post stupid stuff everyday <br />
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Rinoa Solo

I'm sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel any better, you are not alone. <br />
I have been betrayed by two of my 'friends' before. The first one and I both loved the same girl, and she played with our minds so we both thought she loved us. And one day my friend just start having a go at me and swearing at me, saying that he cared about her. After that we didn't talk for five months. Luckily, we're friends again; and we are best of friends.<br />
But the other one was worse. After the girl me and the first 'friend' fancied left our school, the other guy just start creating false rumours about me - I think just because he fancied two of my best friends (at the same time) and he didn't want me hanging out with them anymore. And it worked. I haven't hung out with them since, and the 'friend' continues to regularly cyber bully me at certain times. People believed the rumours he created, and I have never felt so betrayed. But it showed me who my true friends are. <br />
I'm sure you do have friends; and I know that I'll be your friends. These experiences can only make us stronger.

there are some good friends and ppl out there, don't lose hope D:

It is so true that a friend who betrays you is no friend. But this only means, that they were not friends to begin with. Seek out only people who can accept you for who you are, do for you with out asking you to do for them, listens to the words you say, shares in the same morality that you do. All else are just out for something you can give them. And yes, there are a lot of those out there.

it really hurts if someone whom we loved and trusted betray us. This things also happened to me. I was almost out of my mind because of the pain I felt. I lost a friend, I lost a husband. I turned my back and started new life,telling myself... I will survive..Cheer up.. there would be more beautiful things ahead of you can happen

Story of my life. Granted I'm only 18. But still, I completely understand. I have lost almost every friend I've had because they all betrayed me. I keep trying to find new friends but I can't. But I don't understand how it's possible to be happy without friends. It just doesn't make sense.

there really ant true friends out there in the world but ya self i my self age 21 have experienced the same thing and dont have any friends but my lil boy and im a guy so well gues thats it just keep doing what ya doing ya will find your true friend one day k.

I'M SORT OF A LONER.I SAY SORT OF BECAUSE I HAVE YOU ALL.

I feel like I have been like you my whole life even as a little girl. I still long for friendships though. If you ever want to talk, please contact me. I am at cwpraisinJC@aol.com<br />
God bless you and yours, hon.<br />
Cindy

I feel ya. I feel like i am always betrayed by my friends too so i don't have many though i wish i had more because it would be nice to have people there for you and to hang out with. However, you have every right to be mad because what your friend did was horrible! but you shouldnt shut yourself out from everyone because not all people are gonna end up being like that.

I feel ya. I feel like i am always betrayed by my friends too so i don't have many though i wish i had more because it would be nice to have people there for you and to hang out with. However, you have every right to be mad because what your friend did was horrible! but you shouldnt shut yourself out from everyone because not all people are gonna end up being like that.

Seems like alot of us out here are like that. But, God didn't make us to be loners and this gets to be a really lonely old world without someone to talk to and share. I totally understand though, really I do. I hope you find peace within yourself. God bless you all! Cindy

P.S. Aranarose, your husband was a JERK for doing that to you! You are better off without him!<br />
Cindy

yeah,that hurts. me too, my best friend betrayed me,so how can i possibly trust any one? i shared my whole life with her,treated her like a sister didn't think that she envy me. now, im anti-social and guarded. very vigilant and cautious when it comes on choosing a friend. i miss her but i wont take the risk to be with her again..

yeah,that hurts. me too, my best friend betrayed me,so how can i possibly trust any one? i shared my whole life with her,treated her like a sister didn't think that she envy me. now, im anti-social and guarded. very vigilant and cautious when it comes on choosing a friend. i miss her but i wont take the risk to be with her again..

aaaw ... sorry hun. People do suck sometimes :(

You can always offer friendship, except do not trust all the way, leave some room of caution. I experience some betrayals but I won't let these random cruelties rob me of my social world.<br />
grim and stern,<br />
xuan

That's horrifying. I have had few friends in my life by choice. I figured if I am not comfortable enough to let my guard down, then everyone will stay acquaintances to me. For this reason I have always only maintained 1-3 friends at most at any given time.

well that person was never realy your freind than. just sucks that you had to find out the hard way! i have had few betrade me like probly all of us have at one time or other. but there are few people that i will trust with my life and they can trust me same way. some times it is tuff like when know ya friends wife cheating and ya have to tell him. but i ask myself if other way around would i want him to tell me . so i did. things like thati beleave only a real friend would. better than everyone knowing but you.

i have had many friends betray me too even at my age and i thought id just keep living my life no friends once to but then i relized that was not the answer being a loner and having no friends may seem less stressful but thats not true ask a scientist! you have to find the right person thats all find someone who will not betray you stay by you and help you with your problems!!it may take tome to find this person but in the end it will be worth it

a Friend will accept you for who you are...a "friend" will use you to their advantage

i hope you find what makes you happy, and i wish you the best

dont worry too much about friends. look for acquaintances with benefits! its much easier. emotional attachment is a bummer.

Sorry to hear that, ive had 1 girl in the past that got pregnant to another guy so i kind of know your pain to a degree. Sorry to hear it even still. *hugs*

i have had exactly the same thing happen to me and i left a large group of my friends because several of them slept with my boyfriends and girlfriends (i'm bisexual) but now i'm with a guy who means the world to me so i promise you it does get better