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   I've always had some really nice friends growing up, I actually felt really good with who I hung out with, then as soon as I moved I didn't know anyone at my new school, over all I was being bullied as well, for things that were even true. I gave it time, and I did meet some actually nice people, we would all hang out and go places and do things all the time, it lasted for a while and I felt really happy to have people around me and  then outta no where they stopped talking to me, As soon as I got home schooled (read my story about bullying to understand this part) we were out of contact, and that was the end of that. I never really understood why that occurred, but now I have no one, and overall I'm an only child and it gets super boring, like legit I have no friends at this point. I always think oh its me , it has to be me, I'm such a ******* idiot, No I'm not but I feel that sometimes, and it makes me feel so bad about my self. I just really wish I had someone,a friend, anyone I could talk too,  and for my family of course they care and they feel bad but they don't have all the time in the world to fix it, they recommend going to places and doing things and getting out of the house which I do, but you cant just go up to someone in the streets and go hey wanna be my friend :D lol but the sad part is when I go to after school activities for example, I still cant find a friend, I mean there's nothing wrong with me, and people just look the other way, I'm always friendly and still I always get the door slammed in my face. So sad, people are seriously missing something that could be a real blessing in their life if they met me. Now don't feel bad for me cause that's the least thing I want here, I  just don't get it though, I mean  I hope as time goes on I'll meet some new awesome nice people, Cause this really makes me sad sometimes. Let me know who has been in my shoes before or is currently in the same state as I am now.
Canadianchick94 Canadianchick94 18-21, F 83 Responses Aug 3, 2012

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wow.. well atleast you have over 11K friends here. Never seen a profile with so many friends :)

I feel your pain. Msg me and we can talk.

I have no friends either

I lost a lot of friends a couple years ago because I started to do different things.

I didn't take the same AP classes that they did and we just drifted apart.

It hurt for a long time, and sometimes my parents guilt me for losing all my friends (especially a best friend) but really I had no say in it =/

I'd like to be your friend

It IS other people's loss, but you are too wonderful to not have someone realize it soon.

For sure the same exact thing happened to me except I didn't move
Randomly all my friends just left I don't know why but I will forever blame myself and it makes me feel horrible about myself 😢😕

Maybe a girl got jealous and made up some bad bull crap to get rid of you, or perhaps you have multiple personalities and the other you is hard core b*tch .

Here is an older friend that you can pm as well!

I have no one either, however Sometimes I like it.

Yeah I have had no friends for years there is one couple (im married) that might qualify but its like a couple-couple thing and Im not convinced to would work in anyway outside of this context.... I.e I feel there is no one who wants to know me for who I am..... to be honest I think the only answer is the GET INSPIRED...!
That's right! I think we make friends when we are young SPONTANEOUSLY precisely because we are naturally inspired and open when we are very young....
In order to achieve this state again later on in life (when this crucial phase has ended) you need to get into some kind of activity that you are really good at (if possible) and more importantly something that REALLY INSPIRES YOU. If you do this you will SHINE and people will want to bask in your presence again.

been there . i would do anything for people . they either take advantage of me or look at me like i'm nuts . you are young and pretty friends will come along . you seem to have a gret attitude about yourself . keep it . liking yourself is very important . looks like you have a good friend in your picture ! :-)

I grew up moving a lot, and ended up settling on a dirt road and making friends with the kids my age who all lived on the same road. 4 in all, we pretty much grew up together it's weird. I don't even talk to them anymore, kinda miss them :/ lol. Now all I do is read. But it's all good

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he is always going to be here
AND
no ************ can make you LYAO
like me so please msg me or something
or answer dude.
Plus,
I have a surprise for you.
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Same ordeal...I'll be your friend!

Being home schooled has to be the reason because you don't have any common ground like a classroom. I know that in the states people who home school are creating activities for other homeschooled kids to get together. Dances sports etc. I know sometimes it hard not to feel a certain way even though you know its not true but I've read enough of your profile to know you are not to blame. Its nothing at all about you. Probably just environment and opportunity. God bless you in your searches for friends and love. Life is the great adventure and if it was always easy we would take the great people we meet along the way for granted

Become a friend with yourself before worrying about others. You need to find what you like about yourself, nurture it, and celebrate it. Once you are happy with yourself and confident, that will stand out and people will come around :)

Okay can you explain to me that you say you have no friends but your profile says you have over seven thousand friends?

Please remain open to life. Not all people are a-holes! Once you get through all the bullshit of growing up it does get a lot better. I don't know why parents don't ease their children through this.

Hey if you ever want to chat or vent I'm here, lord knows I vent from time to time too :)

just be yourself and people will come to you if they like you for you, if not, then they are not worth your time.

original people tend to have no friends because they can't compromise their originality to fit in. not won't,can't. most people are sheeple

I feel the exact same way, but I have no friends in my life for a completely different reason. Keep your chin up!! You have youth on your side and a lot of time left. Most people are cruel ******** that only think about themselves. But there are good ones out there. They're just few and far between it seems. Have patients, you will find them, or they will find you. :)

Friends are someone you can rely on when you've in trouble or some bad situations.Friends share happiness and sorrow.From where I come you don't rat on your friends. As I see it quality is more important than quantity.

Honestly I don't know what to tell you. Usually people who have no friends they let that turn into huge amounts of self hate, but you seem almost the opposite. You understand yourself and know that you are nice and would make a great friend. This is just one of those things where you gotta stop looking and worrying. For whatever reason that is the way things are and you just gotta live your life. Once you stop worrying and focusing on doing things you enjoy, others will see that and want to be your friend. It's like the cool kids in high school. They do whatever they want whether it's right or wrong. Everyone else is too scared to be themselves and they see these people doing their own thing and admire them. Once you start being yourself others will look up to you and want to hang out.

I feel that, when I was in college my life was boring, I feel like a robot my routine was home-school-home-school and no chance to go to parties or hang out with anyone. I know that feeling when you meet these people and you feel like a friend to them but they don't care, it's normal. people come and go in your life. Just be happy and be contented with what you have, someday you can travel and meet new people the more you meet people the more you know you can't be unseen. If it's hard to find a friend at the moment, divert your attention to things like drawing, sports or other activities that would lighten you up and put you away from being lonely and sad. The brighter you are, the more people see you.

Be yourself and, in time, you will attract like people who will value you, for you. They are the real friends.

Woe that stinks. I wish I could say I know how you feel but I have always had one or two people I could count on. Maybe at camp you can make some friends.

I know just how u feel I've never really had friends all throughout school I tried my hardest to make friends I acted differently around certain people to try and make friends but I got tired of not being me so I just gave up and poured all my time into work wich is a horribly boreing life but I finally found 1 person I can concider a real friend it took years but it did happen and its great I know that if u just keep ur chin up u will find atleast 1 person that will be a real true friend all it takes is that one to make u feel like ur not alone anymore (well that's what it did for me atleast) but I have faith that someone is out there just waiting to run into u and strike up a conversation

Good for you. I'm glad you have a friend. I have lost a few over the years by not staying in touch.

I feel you....I had friends in school now they don't associate with me... It gets frustrating sometimes cause I want to get out and hang out with someone ..but I understand

I have really close friends and I have friends that I just don't see or talk to outside of school and things. There are some people who will txt or call and ask to hang out or others like mine who wait for u to txt or call to plan stuff out to see them, which is hard when ur a shy person like I am. I know it's tough but once you get one the rest kinda start flowing in and someone will eventually see all ur qualities and want to be ur friend. You will be aight babe especially now that u at a university where people aren't afraid of different but embrace it

That is the worst part about not having friends are the times you want to talk to someone and know one is there. Sometimes I'll just be bored and want to do something and realize that it's just me. I'm the same way where I seem cool and people like me, but I just can't make any real friends. It's weird. As long as you do whatever you feel like not having friends isn't so bad. Friends are cool, but they also bring a lot of drama and stupid problems. Pros and cons of everything I guess.

Forgot to mention all the skills you possess and all the things you've done already, that's a lot more than most your age. I wish I could have experienced some of the things you have. Keep dancing girl! I wish my ex was an honest w herself as you are. Peace and Love!

You're a very smart young lady w a great future ahead. Do your thing and don't let others impact you with there judgements. I have been through a lot during those young years your in. (I'm j a little older than you)There's plenty people here that would like to learn more about you and friendships. Take that confidence you expressed to me and enjoy yourself. You will have plenty of people that would like to support you and see you grow happy as true friends. BTW, you can talk to me directly whenever.

Some people in the world are just uneducated idiots. I was brought up to treat people how you want to be treated. I was bullied at school cause I had glasses and you'd fight everyday literally with someone. Ya didn't tell the teachers back then you stood up for yourself. People learnt to leave me alone after a while and became good friends cause they knew I was just a normal kid under the glasses. Got contact lenses now, soooo much better. Still hate bullys though. Send me a message anytime ya wanna chat. I'll reply asap, just the time difference is in the was but I will get back to you.

You seem to have had it tough. :(

yeah I really did.

I really hope that you are doing better now. I don't wish any bad on anyone. :(

I'm your friend always ;P

well you do now :) ping back ;)

I have been there before

You are a good person, smart and beautiful. Anyone will be lucky to have you as a friend.

I know what you mean. I had friends when I was younger and as I grew older it became harder to meet anyone. I had a old friend stab me in the back we knew each other since kindergarten and I ended up doing 6 months in jail because of him,another friend decided my girlfriend was hot when i was out of town and I lost both of them. I decided people will always let you down because their people! Now I keep everyone at a distance and trust my family and my dogs. Trouble is I would and have helped out so called friends over and over. A person would think I'd learn wouldn't you

I understand. Though I may be rejected I still introduce myself as a possible friend. But friendships with me don't seem to last long, too bad. Now I'm just working with my own company. It isn't all that bad all the time.

Well, it looks like you have lots of friends here! :D

Hey I here ya. I always like giving people a chance and try but I'm very reserved so it has always been hard for me to make new friends

Give it time...each new school or city or move can bring about a new configuration. Also finding more clubs and stuff helps. And finally reach out to others, become interested in them, that usually draws people in. :)

That's horrible! I've never been bullied to the point where I cared, but my heart goes out to you. If you need a friend, I'm here to talk to :) and hey, we are both Canadian, and under 21! We already have things in common.

thank you :)

Hi, You'll find lots of really good friends here on EP.

I hope..

Sure you will. Be careful tomorrow. It's April Fools Day!

I've never had problems making friends but recently all my friends have disappeared and no ones around to talk to or just chill... then I came to the conclusion that I'm supposed to be alone right now, there must be something here that I need to figure out then friends affairs so on will be back or new ones will appear (Y)

Seriously if you ever need a friend to talk to just send me a message ill be there :)

When growing up,, I also found myself in situations where it was a new school, and no friends,, It passes,, you are a pretty dynamic personality,, you will find friends and outlets soon.

Helloooo, Canadian! Sometimes people are very independent and selfish but... Do you know what? I'm Spanish and that means that I'm very friendly!! Maybe that's not because I'm Spanish, hahaha. Would you like to talk sometimes about funny, sillyor stupid things like friends do? If so, feel free to add me on skype ok? skype id: spanishlearningenglish

Well have you tried joining after school activities and club. Does your family go to church join the youth group at school you have the year book club the new paper club. Sometimes things are good the way they are.

Well, I've never had no friends, but I know someone who's like that. I try to be help her out. It's important to have support, remember we're all here to help each other :) I'm pretty sure you can send anyone here a message and they'd be happy to be your friend! As for me, I'm always open to new friends. People can be cruel, but they can nice as well!

Hang on in there. Get on with stuff that you enjoy but keep one eye on making sure everything you like doing isn't a solitary activity. Don't chase friends but don't make it impossible to meet people and it will eventually come good. The best is definitely yet to come.

I know how you feel. Sometimes I want to be friends with certain people and I don't know how to approach them. I just figure there is no point and give up.
You seem so sweet. You deserve to have some good friends....no wait, they deserve to have YOU as a friend :)

thank you, :)

I agree with you pocket. Even on here, I've tried to be social friends with some people and I don't know what I'm doing so wrong that no one ever wants to keep a constant friendship with me. I don't know what's wrong with me. I guess I'm just not cool enough?

hahah I know right ;)

I think the problem is that we are so hard on OURSELVES. We think that the other people don't want to be friends with us...or that something is wrong with us, or they think we are weird or something. Most of the time time we are preventing ourselves from having the friendships that we want.
For me, I always feel like I'm too quiet and they'll think i have nothing interesting to say in conversation.

hmmm true.

Well I've tried and I've been shut down. My problem is recovering from that rejection, because rejection really gets to me. I see all these people on here with great friendships and I long for something like that. I want a friend that I can talk about everything to. I have a lot to say, but no one to listen.

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Maybe you are going after the wrong people, people who are not suited for you. I recommend that you take better charge of your life and become just a little more outgoing and aggressive, and try to meet people who have more in common with you and will accept you as you are. You will develop a new outlook, more centered on your true needs. Read my story "I Have Become Two People".

sorry hun if you ever want to chat hit me up ?

<p>It usually takes time to understand a person fully. It may simple to start a contact with someone but keeping the same thing is more difficult but is highly important.</p>

I will be your friend if you need someone to talk to! You need to meet some older guys that appreciate you. the young ones have so many to chose from they really don't know what they want; which means that they are really lost souls! You wouldn't want to hang out with those who would abandon you at the drop of a hat!

Aww it happend to me once an i dont like to c others like that so i will b ure friend :-)

awww. That just happens sometimes, no matter how cool you are. I think its just situational for the moment and I bet it doesn't stay like that. In the meantime, I'd be glad to be your friend!

Bullshit I will be your friend

hi there dear i am like you not a lot of friend and i am running on lonely most of the time and it is sad that it is like that these day for many people what has happend to are world

I'll be your friend; be glad to chat with you anytime I'm online!

Hello zxcv1994,

I too need friends. Maybe we can chat sometime.

What am I chopped liver?

ill be your friend

always be yourself and never try to change to make people like you. True friendship developes in spit of your differences and not because you are just like someone. Be patient and embrace true friends as they come along

Been there, but like you say they are missing a blessing by not getting to know you. You just remeber you are that wonderful person so it is there loss in not knowing the real you. I felt the same way for the longest time then after college I got out and things changed. It is some much better. There is nothing wrong with you it is everybody else!!!

Completely understand on this one. Ever since college started I always find myself alone. Lucky if I find one of the 2-3 people that actually still talk to me to just talk. Your not alone on this one.

I would be proud to have you as a friend. You are sweet, lovely and fun to talk to. People bully orthers or act like ******** in general because of their own insecurities.. it has nothing to do with you.. unless they're jealous of you.. which would be pretty understandable ;)

IMO, you can totally walk up to someone on the street and ask them to be your friend! Sounds goofy, but if you actually think about it it's really not that strange.. What's the difference if you meet someone at a party or just walking down the road?? I'd stop and talk! Just somethin to think about :)

lol

It's always been the exact same way for me, I even got homeschooling and things happened the same way. Most of the time I just shrug it off when people make it clear that they're not down to socialize with me for whatever reason, thinking "I probably don't need those kinds of people in my life" or that they're the ones missing out, most of the time it works, and most of the time I'm right, but sometimes I start to doubt myself, that maybe it's really somehow my fault so many people choose to have nothing to do with me. All I really need is that one person I can really talk to and I'll be content.

aww I know right :(

That's too bad, you sound like a very nice, intelligent person. If you want to add me, i'll be happy to listen and be your friend. Ttyl

I'm sure it's not you. People are just mean and don't like to let someone new into their group. Me on the other hand, I give everyone a chance. If ya ever want to vent just send me a message and I'll see if I can help. Best of luck, and keep looking up. Once you find the proper friends it will be way worth it. Just remember that many friends will come and go, but true friend last a lifetime.

I had to do my senior year homebound not due to bullies though. I know how it feels to have so called old friends just stop talking. I went to my graduation ceremony at the end of the year and no one said how are you doing or I / we missed you. I felt invisible.

I have similar experience. It's hard to explain sometimes and doesn't really make any sense. I've had long spells of loneliness. The only thing I can say is - I don't believe things stay the same forever, situations don't stay the same forever. Hope you can have some faith in yourself and get through these difficult times. I bet your an amazing person - I'm sure that in time - plenty of people will recognize it. xxx

Been there many times, you will make it thru and be the better person for it ;)

Well, maybe the people in your school just don't like you in general. You seem like a friendly person. :) And I think that once you get out, you'll be able to make some.

I kind know where your coming from though I never went out of my way to try and make friends. I usually come across as being unfriendly and uncaring which couldn't be further the truth but I never really learned how to express myself since I've always kinda been alone. A the few people that do try and be my friends usually get tired of my aloof attitude towards them.

I wish you a world of luck and friends. take care

I have never been bullied or had people just stop talking to me. But like you,I have no friends. Its just way to exhausting. Most girls are drama queens.

I hear you on that one. You're right in that it's not so easy to just "make friends" if people don't reciprocate. I guess all you can do right now is keep being friendly, make an effort to talk to people when you have an opportunity and the friends will come. I guess I should take my own advice, but it's easier to say it than take it. :) <br />
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I wish you luck. :)

thank you :)