I Have No Friends, No Social LifeI am 40 years old, I have no job, no money and my health is bad.
My joints hurt whenever I do any physical effort.
Unfortunately there is no treatment for that, except avoiding such activities.
Although I am quite unhappy about my current situation, I can now mostly overcome the bad feelings linked to that.
I have learned to accept myself the way I am.
I keep on fighting against all the obstacles everyday trying to make my life better, without forgetting however that I have limited capabilities and I can do only limited things.
I think I've found the right balance.
I am in a steady relationship with a very nice lady, quite older than me, so I don’t look for dating or sex.
What I miss the most however is a social life.
I have no friends at all and I cannot have them.
It seems that everything is connected.
I am nice person, I always look for contacts, I always make the first step, I start talking to people and I never complain about myself. I always show my bright side.
I am clean, I take care of my appearance and I shower and shave everyday.
Sometimes it seems to work at the beginning, I meet some new people and I have the feeling that a friendship begins.
Then unfortunately I can almost never keep it up: either I cannot go with them to this or that place because it is too expensive for me, or I cannot going with them practicing this or that activity because of my bad health.
But I don't say to them the real reasons and I have to find every time a new excuse.
At the end they get annoyed.
My house is always open, and I always invite them for a coffee or something, but they never come, I have the feeling they find this a waste of time.
I live in Europe and sometimes I wonder if this is a typical European attitude.
Is it different in other parts of the world?
Or, what am I doing wrong?
Rodd 36-40, M 12 Responses 4 Aug 8, 2007