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I Am a Grown Woman With No Friends . . .

In a short while I will be 31 years old and I have no friends. If I had to ask someone for help at this very moment, there is no one I could call. However, I know lots of people on both professional and personal levels but not a single individual from these groups EVER asks to include me in anything they do.


Why? I'm not sure. I am personable and people enjoy talking with me and asking for advice very often . . .


I have often felt that the Gods hated me and that I am being punished for something I did in a former life . . . but I don't believe that - I'm just trying to rationalize and give myself SOME kind of answer to nullify my sense of hopelessness . . .


Growing-up I had no friends either. I would make friends and then two weeks later I would get treated like I had the plague. If someone took an interest in me, it was generally to get something from me. For example, two weeks before my birthday everyone in 3rd grade became my friend when they found out I was going to a local theme park and that I could invite whomever I wanted. The next day I was the fat kid again and those who attended threw rocks at me on the playground. Events like this plagued my childhood until I gave-up at the age of 13 and didn't care anymore . . . even though I secretly did.


Where was my family in all this? Well, my mother was busy working and when after-school rolled around I had toys thrown at me as a substitute for her attention and love. After a long day at work, she needed space . . . Thusly, this resulted in her not seeing my lonliness nor my lack of friends in general. During school vacations she would tell (yell at) me to go outside and play with my friends . . . So, I wandered about the neighborhood alone with my thoughts and doing nothing.


When I got to high school I stuck to myself. I was not the Goth chick, the nerd, the creepy girl, nor ever involved in anything cool/illegal. I just didn't exist . . .


I struggled after high school because all that neglect and lack of mentorship from my mother, and the lack of socialization with my peers caused me to not know how to function in life. I was in the top 4% of a 2-AAAAA school but I couldn't balance a checkbook and couldn't find a job to save my life . . . Which caused me to spiral into an existential depression (of sorts . . . more like confusion) and I flunked out of college not knowing who I was or what I wanted to do in life . . . Making my family disappointed with me and my lack of direction . . .


Years later I lucked-out (figuratively speaking) and found a job at a speedbar . . . They hired anyone with an IQ over 30 and preffered young girls who didn't know anybetter. I witnessed the lowest forms of human nature: sexual and physical assault, drunkeness, theft, and even murder . . . the bar manager shot an unarmed kid 9 times . . . the kid bled out infront of me and the manager never saw a day in prison . . . Why? Cause I was the onlyone standing within 30ft of the event and I was the only one who told the truth about what happened . . . but my statement didn't "match" the other 9 employees' statements - who were more than 60ft away in a scrambling crowd . . . I was out of a job less than a month later. Go figure . . .


I was jobless for 6 months and a "total embarrassment" to my recently widowed (second marriage) mother with a job and Master's degree . . . but I found work again as a cook - hired by a guy who didn't know his *** from a hole in the wall. I was the only woman in a kitchen filled with black male ex-convicts . . . If I dropped something, I didn't dare reach for it and I couldn't go into the walk-in if one of them was in there . . . I found these things out the hard way . . . The guys I worked next to hated my guts. He reminded me of all the good-looking boys that would pick on me throughout grade school and kick me cause I was an easy target (fat and slow). I quit that job shortly after being sprayed in the face with EasyOff by that guy, and the manager telling me that I was "complaining a little too much for someone who wanted to keep their job".


Keep in mind that all this time I have no one to talk to, no one to smile with and no one that makes me feel human on any level. I have become a thing . . . unloved by my mother and treated worse than a rabid stray dog by those that I meet and work with. I write in a diary . . . but I soon stop because I find pages missing, and whilst cleaning my mother's room (to earn my keep at 23) I find them under her bed as I am changing the linens. She has written nasty comments over everything she doesn't like on those pages, and on the back she has written her own tirade of fury . . . Not even a blank book is a good friend.


I find a new job quickly and am able to save enough money to move-out five months later. I am around nicer people in the kitchen but my managers treated me like a slave, and I feel more isolated. Life goes on and I barely make bills, eating Ramen Noodles and praying for love . . . because I have to be suffering for something, right? I spend all my free time dreaming of love and imagining what life will be like when I can afford to go back to college - which in truth, is not appearing to ever be a possibility at this point. I meet a few people at work that will talk to me outside of work and I meet some others in a group at a local UU Church . . . but no one calls me and they only want me around if I can do something for them. I feel alone in a crowd . . . and I don't see th purpose of living as my 24th year comes to a close.


Why? Why would the Universe make a child so aware and so full of faith, and then give them no real family, no friends, allow them to be exposed to everything they know is dangerous, and to be ostracized from every event in life without having committed a single "crime" against anyone? But then again, why do kids die of cancer and AIDS . . .


Every night I would go to sleep begging that I would stop breathing in my sleep . . . I was tired of the misery.


I agree to help be a number in a 4th of July group headed to Canyon (though I know I am just doing it to make others happy), and I meet the love of my life - a young pup barely able to vote, but he is sweet and he loves me . . . I feel as if I have never been alone in my life and I am grateful for every minute and kiss he has given me over the past 5 years . . . AND he helped me go back to school – I graduate this December with my BFA.


But, I still have no friends and all of his friends (of which there were more than could be counted at one point) have stopped talking to him. Why? We don't know. We are happy healthy and spiritual people who make those around us laugh . . . but no one wants to "be friends" or come over to play cards . . . we live in a city with 250,000+ people living in it and we are exposed to an average of 40+ people a day, most of whom are in the same field we are both studying at college . . . and we have no friends.


We thought for a while that it was because we have kids, and that people treat you like you have the plague when you have kids . . . None of my hubby's friends have kids and very few are in long-term relationships. The few people I talked with from work have dropped-off the face of the planet, or moved far away. My mother, who now pretends that she was the best mother ever (postmetapausal), moved nearly 400 miles away and rarely visits her grandchildren. I always think of Bill Cosby when I look at her: “This is not the woman I grew up with; this is an old person trying to get into Heaven.” My mother-in-law, who used to come over at least 3 times a week, comes over once every two weeks and only for 5 minutes. She lives five minutes away and never spends time with her grandkids . . . My mother has developed a heart condition and only recently has taken interest in visiting more . . . but she is the only one who comes over to the house for any extend amount of time (more than 10 minutes).


I feel like a prisoner of my own home . . . and my kids suffer because I don't have friends with kids. I can't afford to send them to daycare - hubby and I are both college students working part-time jobs to support everyone . . .


What makes things worse is that the hub of our old circle of "friends" lives next door. We see many of the people whom we have known in our lives come and go next door, and even hang-out in the back yard for parties and ritual but no one ever takes two seconds to say "hi" . . . It’s like a boyfriend breaking-up with you by giving you the cold-shoulder and pretending you are dead. The kids see these people too . . . My two eldest know some of the people next door and yell-out for them when they see them . . . only to get ignored, or told that they are unable to visit with them right now . . .


I hate these people now . . . how dare they?


My husband and I don't think that it’s us, or the fact that we have kids anymore . . . We think its cause everyone we used to know are worthless and terrible "friends" . . . terrible people on many levels too . . . We believe that people are just like this in the area we live in and we cannot wait to move. We live in a weird, conservative area that has strange customs (like there is not a single butcher shop in this city – you get your meat cut at Walmart (?!)). . . We want to move to St.Paul, MN and be around more earthy liberal types where I know people are human . . . A move is no guarantee but we need it.


I am so on edge and lonely right now . . . Tomorrow morning my eldest son will start Pre-K and at the Open House this past week, I saw how different he was . . . I saw how easily he could be misunderstood, or mislabeled by these backwater Neanderthals . . . I don't want my life for him, or to see him ostracized for being that unique kid that no one takes the time to love . . . I am so terrified for him - my baby . . .


I sometimes think that there is a hex over me . . . a taint that affects those around me and that by being with me, my husband chooses a social-less life and that my kids will be affected by my "curse" . . .


I just wish that I had someone to talk to (besides my husband), someone to invite over for coffee, someone who had kids for my children to play with in the park or have come to their Birthday parties . . . I wish we could have parties and play cards with SOMEONE . . .


I am expecting our fourth child in January, and it is a girl . . . I am terrified again, because I look at my daughter Uille - who looks and acts just like me - and I see a sweet little girl . . . I lose a little faith cause I don't see why anyone/thing would give her that life I had . . . and I in no way want her to experience her life alone . . . without knowing friendship. She and her sister and her big brothers will always have me & Dada to love them and to talk to, but it is hard having nothing beyond what happens between blood . . . Its hard surviving grade-school and going to high school without ever having gone to the prom or been invited over to a friend's house to play . . . Cause I know firsthand.


I love my family, I love my husband and I am grateful for having been given the chance to spend my life with each of them . . . I just want more for us. Something that shouldn't have to be begged for: Companionship.


WynsomeGreen WynsomeGreen 31-35, F 126 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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Hello, I think there are a lot of people who feel exactly the same way as you do. I can sure tell from what you have written that you are a very worthwhile person who most should be honored to call friend. Also, I believe that you are a very good writer, and I found your writing very interesting. Have you ever thought of writing a book? I mean this honestly and sincerely. Jesus Loves you.

It is because you are gifted. Look it up. You may never meet a kindred spirit or another female who understands you, and you will always feel left out. They see you differently than you see yourself. It is the price you and maybe all of your children will pay for being gifted. Luckily alot of kids are being born this way and your kids will have a much better chance at friends than you will.

I am a 42 yr.old black female that has recently found out that my husband has cheating on my with my step daughter. I took her and her mother in gave them a place to lay their head. And my husband pay her for sex. I've given everything I have for 20 years to this person. Four children and with our four grandchildren that we love. How do you come back from that? But I can say this everybody sometimes feels lonely in a crowded room. Because ppl don't take notice to the quality of love and compassion anymore. Find a local spot and network. I have ppl a round me all the time. A most of the time I find that as long as I have something to offer their like bees until I need support. A friend is priceless to have. But they will come with a price if you let the wrong ones in to the peace that you have now without the drama. Quiet day will be longed for. So good luck with that cause I have cared for all walks of life straight, gay, black, white, Lebanese, Indian, you name it it. But I still find backstabbing people. I loved them and they tried to destory me because I was good hearted. I'm so lost!!

The Word of God says that in the last days the "love" of most will grow cold. People even killing their own children. Well, I know it isn't a totally new idea, but still shocking to me. Very sad. Even in your current pain you reached out to another who is hurting. I can tell that you are a special friend. God bless you.

I am so in the same boat as you are. I am so confused, I feel as if I have stepped inside of the Twilight Zone. I actually had a best best Best Friend (so I thought) almost like a sister to me just start not talking to me like we use to. We would talk all day everyday and all of a sudden she started not really dealing with me anymore. I am still so confused and hurt.

Over the past few years I have become kinda sorta anti, I have been hurt repeatedly by people...but I miss having someone to talk to!!! Now I only have my husband. I feel as if when we got married i warped into another type of friends (that I thought were my friends) disappeared.

I want a friend so badly, to talk to and shop with...but it seems that women are different the older you get. They change, it's always a competition, or they end up being jealous of some blessing or SOMETHING you have.

I hate this

But everytime I get down for not having a friend

The song "WHAT A FRIEND WE HAVE IN JESUS" comes to my mind and I get comfort form that.

Yes, indeed Nikki. What a friend we have in Jesus Christ. His love never fails us. Amen.

I'm the same, but 17, no friends, everytime I make a friend, they end up bullying me, ignoring me, or moving away. I also live in a weird area, where nasty people all know each other and when they get to know a nice person like me, I am belittled, barely any shops and basically everyone Is on hard drugs and stares all the time. I went to school, I even remember standing in the playground at primary school feeling indifferent to everyone else, like I wasn't really here and no one could see me, and no one to play with. Also, I was bullied all throughout junior school yr 4- to end of secondary school-yr 11, I realised I am different to everyone else, shy, sensitive, cant make eye contact too long without getting nervous. There would be a few random months at school where I would be all jokey and people took the **** and thought I had something wrong with me. Now, I've given up on trying to make friends, I done volunteering, joined clubs to get myself out there and also just got a job interview, but I barely went to school in the last year, because of how bad the bullying got, I was pretty much nearly pushed down some steps by one bully and the other bully was in the way and pretended to be like all shocked. I am so depressed, I want to run away, but I don't have any outlet, no friends, barely any family and no money so I stay in every day, only go out to the supermarket, or for a walk, sometimes I want to die, but am too scared to, I have been to school counselling and been to the actual doctors but I couldent get to camhs so I'm basically screwed. I should be at college, making friends, going out like a normal teenager, but I had no choice but to find work cos my family have no money, so I cant even join a club or anything to get out and socialise...

I'm 37 now, married, pretty, outgoing, was always popular. I got sick a few years ago and since I missed people kids' birthday parties; I have been labeled as a misfit and disrespectful. Yeah, I have an autoimmune disease but you're bratty little kids need presents and money, so that's all that matters. Since the time I got sick. I have been progressively getting better over the past year. Managing my illness well with medication. I work full time, I'm a great wife but I have not one real friend in the world. No one wants to hang out with me. Mostly, I am positive it's because I don't have children, this makes me a black sheep. I'm not invited to anything with other women now. I'd hate to be the bearer of bad news ladies but I've gone into pre-menopause and I can't have kids anyway. Guess they can't deal with that. So, my husband has friends. We moved by his friends actually and he goes out with them for football. He has a social life. I do not. Luckily I'm introverted and fatigued a lot from having Hashimotos disease so I'm content at home watching a movie or reading. I really truly am. The only thing that really ****** mer off is how everyone just up and dumped me because I couldn't (and in their eyes, wouldn't) go out getting drunk with them anymore. This has awarded me no friends. I really feel better off at this point. I pretty much hate humanity.

im 45 and im in the same boat

I don't regret wrapping myself up in my husband and children over the years--I just regret not understanding that there was also room for friends.

So...lets be friends.

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at least you have a husband and family... i am single, turning 31 in a few weeks and i have no boyfriend, no friends, no job. i am going to school and the people there only talk to me when they need help with something. i get lonely when i see them going to lunch break together or talking together at the end of the day. i just want to say, at least be grateful for what you have because some people have less than you.

I don't have any friends either. I gave a great boyfriend and we've lived together 9 years. But he can't handle everything emotionally. I have no family. I am depressed all the time. Don't know how to make a friend as a 30 year old female. I work from home so 99% of the time the only person I talk to is my boyfriend.

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Hi Wynsome Green,
I just happened across your post from 5 years ago. How are things with you and your family? Has the situation improved? I hope so.

Hi, it is unfortunate that your mom was the way she was when you grew up. Here is the thing, you are here, you made it, on your own. You must always be positive even in the mist of horrible things which do happen. You have LOVE, appreciate the husband and the children. When we marry at twenty or so and begin to raise a family and in addition you are going to school there is not much ME time left. Spend time with each child, your husband and study, allow time for your self and GOD and don't forget your mother. YOU can do it. Join the PTA, a local church, the girls and boys club, help at a local shelter there is so much need, time to GIVE back!

I have no any girlfriend. I am 33 y.o handsome boy but I have no any girl friend I want a g.f any one interested than contact me. Age does not metter up to 40 y.o. long term relation ship mail amitinfra9 adtharate gmail dot com. Hellooo I am very serious only serious women

I no this is old but I wanted to speak on it. I had a similar life. But with me I did have close friends at different times in my growing up life. At childhood I had a friend for 3 yrs that end then I was alone for awhile had another friend for a few yrs.then that end it was a cycle. Which I will come back to this another time. I realize by 17-18 I had change alot. In middle school people was close to me because they fear me. I some how got in protective mode and just learn to talk up for myself .all in elementary I was quiet and sweet and had a few friends but I was too quiet with hormone issues. People come for me and I come back but I was just too quiet. Middle school I was all for myself had a **** you attitude. I mean people hated me for no reason in 6 grade and I learn not to give a dam by 7th ..I was like by many but I think people just admired the fact that I said how I feel but secretly they hated me because they couldnt do what I do ...later on I learn that people didnt like me at all they just wanted to be like me. I dont no but in middle school I just kind of taught myself to not trust anyone and to protect myself with my quick mouth. I realize every time I let my guard down I was bitten. So I told myself dont trust anyone.I enjoy middle school somewhat because people respect me and I didnt mine standing alone. I will say I was so much mentally older then my time that I kind of felt stuck in life. In middle school people would say I was like a mother because everybody came to me with there problems.

I also had home issue me and my mom was close but in middle and partly high I was lift taking care of baby sister alot. Didnt also talk about elementary my brother issue with him fight on me.
By high school mostly in 10grade I change again I became more humble I only had 2close friends but the more I became humble and just let my guard down the more people change around me. I mean jealous and sneaky friends and I learned that that most of my life there were females that just could stand me for no reason. I had my guard up for so long that I didnt realize the hate because I never give people the chance.

By 20-22 no friends at all. My guard came down and I mean people came for attack. Why my guard came down was because I was working on how to trust in let go. I allow myself to be humble with my father,friends,also jobs. I thought in my mind if I live my life so close in I will be alone. I also told myself Dammm u shut yourself off from people u no u care about but u cant even feel at times. There was times I was scared to feel.

Well like I said when i let go people came for me. I lose friends I had for years because of jealousy. I did meet a lovely man by 22 I fell in love with. Humbling myself taught me how to allow love from a man.

I am almost 30, I havent had a close friendship since 21. My social skills are terrible. I work , have boyfriend time and that it. At work I am quiet and every job I had up too 21 and now
females dont like me. Its weird and a pattern. There some I met they friendly but in a nasty nice way.then its the ones who nice to me only when they see me with something they want. The problem comes when I see bad and I shut down and only be polite. Then the problem acure I mean payback time. I had one girl ok not speak to me wgen she wanted to research something for her or any information she didnt have knowledge on.any other time u around her at work and she didn't even speak. I said ok I am not helping her with anything else, keeping things work related only, and add I caught her talking about me to another coworker. We when I stop doing thing for her it was on , she spread rumors, lied on me, she turn other coworkers a against me. The girl went crazy. EVERY job or new coworkers its like this. One girl is mad at me because I dont talk much. I am not mean I just speak nicely and keep it work related she go to other coworkers saying she don't like me when they ask her why she says because I dont talk at all. This lady in her dam 40s. She came to me one time and said to me after a deep conversation about animals, family and life stuff. That she had to go home in ask her boyfriend about me because she dont understand me, then a aweek later she repeated our conversation to other coworkers. Smh.... so yes I dont understand people...

I guess I am passionate about this topic because I too have trouble with gaining friends...I am very stubborn .. I will not take bad friends to have fake friends.. in my early twenties I took bullshit from 2 best friends because we knew each other for awhile...not today. I no I am a good person . Sometimes I feel like I am in the wronge place or time. I think differently then most. Ok I am ending this...I left alot of details out but its all the same, I dont have friends. ..I just push along in live my life.I do get depress when I can call a girlfriend to vent to about girl stuff. Or when I want to shop have a friend to shop with. ..but I keep my head up ...and stick to the things I love to do alone.

it's june 2014 now..are you still in the same situation?

Hello. I'm going to keep this short: My advice... Well first, there is NOTHING wrong with your personality, you are very kind and inspirational :) it's sad that everyone you have met have been so terrible :( i can't believe that would happen, and that no one would acknoledge you and spend some time. I have no experience like that, since I am still very young. To get to the point, it's nice for you to share your story, this story of yours can help stop bullying ( when you were a child) and i know how you can inspire even more... there is this website, it is called Youtube - where you can post videos and anybody can watch online. First, you need to share this story to a director (or such) by emailing your post. That can make a video about your story and hopefully inspire hundreds a people through youtube. You would be like... a motivational speaker like a very inspirational woman on Youtube, her name is Lizzie she is called "the ugliest woman in the world" she was bullied for her appearance , i advise you to look up her on youtube, and watch her speech. <br />
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i know this was back in 2009 (i just found out) but I hope i helped and gave you helpful advice and a suggestion :)<br />
i am in sixth grade. i like giving advice to people... and well i am 12.<br />
say hi to your eldest son (who is probaly in sixth grade by now) and your other children. :)

*the director can make a inspirational story about you through a video...which can be a speech, interview, short documentary, animation, etc (the possiblities are endless) how can you contact them? well, for now , i do no know exactly, but search on google for now... no i am not that unhelpful LOL search at good websites as well. My example: search something like " i want to share my story of bullying because of my weight" or if you want to contact somebody : " therapists, people to talk to... so i can share my story"

but for now i am sorry if this extended response is not helpful, i do not know a lot of organizations that can help.
again lizzie's speech on youtube (Lizzie Velasquez)
you can also subscribe to her channel if you like i guess ;) haha

well, hope you read this, and hoped i helped. :)

Support groups and therapists can help reach out your story :)

Lizzie is awesome! I've "liked" her page, but I haven't seen any new posts of late. She is a wonderful example for all.

I know how you feel. If I knew you as a child I would have stuck by your side and been your friend.

I feel the same way. I would have too!

I want to start out saying I am sorry you all have gone through this and I too have suffered as you! I don't think I have had it as bad as some of you, but have experienced a life with no friends and it is a hard life!

We are all human we want to be liked and have people to share our lives with. Growing up I had a mother who was a narcissist and never satisfied she would marry and get divorced soon after, so due to that we never stayed in the same place for to long and I believe I never had a chance with a foundation like that. She was very self absorbed and was an ignoring mother. I was left to fend for myself and was an only child. By her 3rd marriage we kind of settled down in suburbia and I was there long enough to make a few friends. I think I had 1 really close friend and 3-4 friends through that person, but like any childhood friendship it faded as we got into high school and I was kind of left in the dust. I then was unhappy and probably depressed and did everything I could to get out of there. I graduated a year early and moved to NYC. In NYC I joined the party scene and made so called "friends" really quickly, but never would hang out with any of them during the day, it was always at night at the clubs. After 2 years of this I got worn out and sought more of a college experience.

I moved to Florida and went to college, but never could develop a close friend. I would have what I call "situational friends" people I would talk to in a certain class, or event, but would never see or hang out with them outside that situation. After college I moved out to LA and again met several situational friends, but soon I had some family troubles and moved back to where I was from. I then concentrated on dating and meeting men. I finally met my husband and we were totally evolved with each other. We got married and then decided hey we need some friends! Well where do people meet friends now days? We joined meetups and tried to meet couple friends, but it was extremely hard. Either he would not like the husband or the otherway around. I soon became pregnant with my 1st and that took priority over making friends. After my son was born I jumped into some mommy groups, but for some reason women in those groups are very closed off. I try to talk to them and be friendly, but never get anything in return. I feel like they are nice and talk to me during the meetup, but never are interested in doing anything outside the group. They NEVER ask me to do anything, or ask for my number. I kind of feel like when I host playdates not as many come to my events, but when others host there is always tons of people there.

My husband and I have had issues with out families. They are nonresistant in our lives and don't have anything to do with out children. We have tried moving which has helped and now I have a little girl, but it is still the same. I meet "situational" acquaintances, but not one real friend. No one to call up during a time of need, no one to do things with.

My husband is even worse, he will just look at the person and think they are rude. I try a little harder than him, but still do not have any results. We have tried church groups and that is even worse. It seems like everyone kind of goes for their own personal relationship with god, but does not have interest in making friends. Where is the fellowship that churches promote?

I too believe I have a curse on me. I am nice, friendly, loyal, not horrible looking, but never seem to make friends. So I am in the same boat as all of you! I also fear for my children as well!

Although I personally believe a person's personal relationship with Jesus and God is most important, I very much agree that we all crave the human friendship and fellowship. I too feel very awkward at church. Sometimes I'd prefer to sit in the car while my husband and kids worship, or not go at all. Terrible feeling.

I am unsure if this is a dead thread or not but I will reply anyway, I am for the most part shocked because I fall into a similar boat as the one you are in.
As a child I had two workaholic parents (who are literally only happy when they are working, I inherited this trait) who though they gave me things, took me places, and in their free time did spend time with me still did not recognize how lonely I was. I had friends till about age 8.5, and by friends I mean people I would trust to guard me while I was having a seizure and not take advantage; then we moved far up north and my life started to mirror your story. I was made fun of for everything I did, the few people I had who were "friends" I felt may have hung out with me due to feeling sorry. My peers isolated me, bullied me, and traumatized me for being "too thin, too fat, epileptic, too smart, too weird, having an accent, being short, having a big head, being from Texas, being from Austin Texas, being from a city, and more or less for daring to exist".

I stopped "existing" to my peers in the form of being someone that mattered at age 11, middle and high school were horrible and I had no support system, no friends, and what I went through makes me believe that High School should be renamed Hell School. I should note that lack of friends meant I was picked on by everyone, including the band kids and when a certain event occurred around age 11 I broke and spent the next 14 years trying to put myself back together with no help or support from friends. Until very recently I either had no friends or kept getting "friends" who were not friends, at almost 26 my social network is almost entirely online; my real life friends I can count on one hand and 3 fingers (they contact me regularly). However these friends are generally working, or dealing with their so's and/or children, so hanging out with me is hard to plan for and I am not sure how they really feel about the idea; I only managed to find them in the last year.

I found them in college, not church (I am actually sort of spooked of churchgoing folks for a reason), not the ymca, not the gym, not the park, not a coffee shop, not a club but college. However if you have net met friends in college yet I am going to tell you something amazing, online friends count.

Yes those friends you made playing a MMO, chatting in a chat room, going on forums they are real friends even if they live far away.
Because the fact is friends are people who care about you, support you, like you for who you are, and want to hang out with you even if they can't due to issues of distance or time. I have been hurt more often by "friends" who are fake in real life than my online mates, in fact many of my online friends know me better than my real life ones. They have also known me longer, I have one that has stuck around for four years now and I can always count on to be there and understands that I am busy but I will always come back and if this friends needs me I will support him/her. I have others who will stick by me and I stick by them, and that is what friends do.

Jesus Christ nothing else to say on the subject get saved go to a church and become a Christian that is how I found friends.

Iam 26. When I was 19 I was jumped by a group of girls. My truck had been keyed...several times...A best friend of 11 yrs treated me very badly when a guy she had interest in, told her he was interested in me...she threatened me: end friendship. A friend between us, said she was was wrong for doing that to me...eventually she ditched me for the bad friend because ...we'll I don't know. I have been mistreated by woman In my family and friends. WOMAN Are lost. They picked up many traits from men...fighting / hostility/loose sexual partners. Men do not respect us. Other woman do not respect us. For this I believe women have lost their way....friends I keep at a safe distance....there are no true friends...I was a true friend i am just an acquaintance ...I prefer this. Friends are extinct. They all want something...and if they don't get it??? They take revenge and throw your good name in the happy with family.

Your words really resonate with me. Girls have lost their way, i like how you phrased that.

I met a girl while with a group of friends, and because I was so much as standing near a guy that she was interested in (at the time, her prospective bf was there), she was just scowling at me.

I don't have any real friends (I do not count online "friends") I am almost 40, I thought I had a friend, but she was treating me like crap, so I'm out. My husband is my friend, we are together (with our children, too)a lot. We love each other, laugh at each other's dumb jokes, I knit special things for him, he treats me well. I had an epiphany: I don't make or keep female friends at all easily. I'm an introvert, I enjoy being alone sometimes. *shrug* I'm done trying.

I know this is an old post, but i just wanted to say that you are lucky to have a family and children that love you. I'm 34 years old. I have no friends. I've never had a relationship. And i am truly alone. I never leave the house. I have nowhere to go. No one to see. My only contact with the world outside is via the internet. Take comfort in what you already have. It's more than some people will ever have in their lifetime. And you are so lucky to have it. Don't ignore it and miss it, simply because you are looking for more. Things could be so much worse, trust me. I hope you and your family are well x

It's lovely and genuine how you found kind words for someone else even though you're in pain.

Maybe we can be friends because I too I am 44 yo with no friends. Well I have a phone friend but that's not really the same so if you would like we can be friends. Reply soon and call me at 206-424-4443 or anybody here for that matter if your needing a friend bye

i am like friends, or partner. i do get to leave the house though. it's lonely. sometimes i cry about it. so people who have a husband and family should really feel blessed

Hey, in our culture is almost like your situation. Once we are in a relationship (means having a boyfriends or husband) we will fully focused on it. Having friends to talk to is not that important anymore we can talk to our boyfriends/ husband almost anything. I don't mean that we cannot have friends or we don't need friends. It is just when you are in a relationship you simply don't have much time to spare for them. Furthermore, if your boyfriends is not the same circle of friends with yours.Well since you mentioned you don't have friends than I don't need to blah so much here about the "complicatedness" of friends charts. Anything that puzzle you please search GOOGLE. Just to add on.. long whine a bit here ..Most of the time your friend will change according to your age and the place you are in so please stop thinking of everlasting friendship or soul friends stuff. You can do better with your own and with your husband. At the age of 30 years old is really old enough to be independence and make your own decision and make plan for your life. Family comes first. You only need friends that will brings you benefit**. C'mon this is a reality world. Friends will not give you advice that really can helps you solve your problem or having the 100% heart to hear your whining they have their own problem to solved too they do not have any interest to listen to your problem or give you any brilliant advice! Don't expect that! Be happy that you are alive and you can watch all the funny stuff happens everyday. Appreciate with who you are and what you have. God bless you and be happy that you are married and have kids to accompany you! What else do you want ?? you already have it all!

You suffer from abandonment issues from childhood. Lack of nurturing, neediness, ect. It's a viscous cycle. You keep beating yourself up and put up defenses that protect you. On top of that you end up in situations that you know are going to reinforce your insecurities about yourself. Read journey from abandonment to healing. Great book. Let down your defenses. I talk from experience.

I want to thank Nicole for the post she made on how Dr Adams helped her in bringing back her lover before christmas. At first when i saw the posting i was so happy and in the other hand so scared,That this might not be real, Then i decided to give it a try in which i contacted Dr Adams and told him how my lover left me for another lady for the past 3years and i have been lonely and depressed without him,So i told him if he has helped anyone called Nicole and he said yes, that was the lady he helped in bringing back her lover before christmas. I said good and i told him that if he can help me in bringing back my own lover,He laughed and said once i have contacted him that my problem will be solved. He said that my lover will be back to me within 24hours and do an unexpected thing for me. i said really, Truly when the 24hours was completed i got a text from someone saying am sorry then i decided to call the number i saw it was my lover smith voice. I was so happy he was begging me on phone, That he is ready to do anything that will make me happy in life,So i told him to come over which he did,As he was coming he came with a brand new Car as gift i was so happy and made me had access to his account to prove to me that he is not going to leave me for another lady,Am so happy today and am also thanking Nicole for posting this early. Dr Adams you are truly a man of your word. He can also solve any kind of problems in this world. Friends you can contact Dr Adams on his private Email dradamsjohnsoncentre12@gmail . com

It all started earlier this year when my mother Natalie Capaldi was seeing Mr. Peter Nottle (her Bariatric Surgeon) down at his rooms in Williamstown and she was having a lot of issues with her bowel. Mr Nottle prescribed my mother with a bunch of strong prescription laxatives in the hope of it clearing her bowels cleanly. She tried all of the laxatives under the sun, she also had colon irrigation sessions performed where I took her down to have 10x 30 minute sessions and that ultimately only cleared part of her lower bowel and the rest was still stuck inside her upper colon and was told by them that it only cleared part of the lower part of the colon and she was to go to a colon specialist to clear the remainder of her upper bowel facets. Mr Nottle then requested that she have a colonoscopy down at Altona Endoscopy Centre to hopefully determine the reason why she was having these bowel issues. Once there they gave my mum the appropriate bowel prep, however, since my mum had already tried all of the strongest prescribed laxatives available she knew that their bowel prep would not make a modicum of difference in releasing her upper bowel. They then proceeded with the colonoscopy and to no avail were not able to find any results as all of the facets and matter were still encompassed inside my mum's upper colon, so no results were produced. We then went back to Mr. Peter Nottle(my mum's Bariatric Surgeon) and he then thought that he would try a soapy water enema flush which he thought would clear all of her upper bowel. He tried every avenue to try and fix my mum's colon issue. He knew a Nurse by the name of Burnedette who works @ the Alfred Hospital in Prahran, she deals with colon irriigations/enemas and we went and saw her and she gave my mum a soapy enema flush and once again to no avail my mum was not able to open her bowels to get rid of the rest of the facets stuck in her upper bowel. We then once again went back to Peter Nottle who was out of options on his part as he doesn't really specialise with this sort of stuff so he then referred my mum to Doctor Jin Cho (the Colorectal Specialist) @ the Western Health hospital in Footscray who should be able to assist my mum better. Mr Nottle did all he could do.

I then rang the Western Health hospital to orgainise an ambulance to pick up mum & I to go and see Mr Cho(mum's Colorectal Specialist) as my mum can't walk and get public transport to the hospital, she has to use an ambulance to get her to and from there whenever she has appointments as she is in a lot of pain and needs to be on a stretcher. Upon meeting my mum @ the Outpatients department earlier this year we explained to Mr. Cho that my mum has tried all of the strongest laxatives that Mr Nottle had prescribed, we explained how she went through 10 sessions of colon irrigations and after all of this she still hasn't cleared her upper bowel. As Mr Cho doesn't know my mum at this point (as we just met that day) he thought it would be best to start all over again and run sum tests along with some laxatives to see what it could do, even though my mum had told him that she had already tried all of that he insisted to retry them again and go from there. He then admitted my mum that afternoon into a ward at the Western Health hospital in Footscray to try more laxatives and to run a few tests to see how things went. At the initial consultation he said he would like to find the best possible cure for my mum's colon issue and said that if she was to have surgery that he wanted to conduct all of the relevant tests first to determine which type of surgery he was going to perform in order to correct this issue. My mum mentioned that she would like to have the stoma bag operation as she feels this would be the best way to avoid all of the strain on her lower bowel. Mr Cho said see how we go with all the tests first and hopefully after all of them have been conducted and reviewed that he would have a better picture and understanding of what my mum is going through. After about a week in hospital and running various tests and what have you Mr Cho said there was nothing he could do for her while she was in hospital to fix this issue, she will need to be discharged for the time being until he (Mr Cho) follows up on some more tests my mum can do. Mr Cho then contacted us to return to the Western Health, we went by ambulance once again and he then prepped my mum to have a series of tests, namely another colonoscopy (despite the first one failing), a small and large bowel study & finally after some months later he got her to have a desiccating proctagram which he told my mum that this would be the last test to determine why she has been going through all of these bowel problems.

About one month and a half after my mum had the desiccating proctagram we were once again brought by ambulance to the Outpatients department @ Western Health Footscray to once again meet with Mr Cho to discuss ALL of the test results my mum conducted over the course of the year, nearly 12 long months of tests and finally Mr Cho had come up with a solution. By this stage we were told that the lazy bowel we once suspected my mum had was really a badly bent pelvic floor muscle which prevents my mum in opening her bowels properly and effectively. Happiness settled in when Mr Cho presented my mum with two solutions to fix this issue with her bent pelvic floor muscle. The first was to realign and straighten the floor muscle itself in surgery and she could then continue using her bowel or the other option which my mum really opted for was for the stoma bag operation. Mr Cho asked my mum which she preferred to which she replied the stoma bag operation as she was worried if he did the straightening of the pelvic floor muscle that this may once again become bent and she would need to revisit Mr Cho to have this corrected once again. Upon hearing this and with Mr Cho's lady assistant present he then drew up the elective surgery consent form for my mum to sign. She then signed the legal consent form for her to be put on the elective surgery list in front of Mr Cho and his assistant. Prior to this appointment I will importantly mention that Mr Cho in fact in anticipating my mum going for the stoma bag operation got her to see a stoma nurse in hospital at one of the previous outpatient appointments and she gave my mum a pack containing a DVD, some vital information about the stoma bag operation as well as some sample stoma bags to take home. He was very pleased when we motioned to Mr Cho that it was good that we saw the stoma nurse prior to this appointment in reference to the stoma bag operation and Mr Cho once again echoed that they had to conduct ALL of the relevant tests in order to determine which procedure would be best for my mum's colon well being. She signed the form in front of them (both Mr Cho and his assistant) as I said, we were brought back by ambulance and about a week later we got a letter from the hospital confirming that my mum has been placed on the waiting list, however, after close examination of the letter we saw that Mr Cho had put my mum on category 3 which is the non-urgent category, at the last appointment that we saw Mr Cho he said that the cancer patients would have to be operated on first and said that he would prefer doing the operation on my mum himself as he has gotten to know my mum throughout the duration of the year conducting and reviewing the tests, however, he also said that if my mum would like another surgeon to perform the surgery that she could elect to get one and it would be done much sooner. Since my mum is in a lot of pain and needs to have this operation a lot sooner I rang up the hospital and got in touch with Shane Smith who is the Patient Liason Officer who supposedly supposed to take care of all patients complaints and issues. I spoke to Shane in reference to the category 3 issue that Mr Cho had put her on and explained to him that my mum is in a lot of pain and has endured nearly a whole year of tests to get her to get the stoma bag operation and asked Shane if he could speak with the head of the colorectal unit who is Ian Faragar and he could speak to him in fastening the time for my mum to have the operation. I explained to Shane the amount of pain my mum was and is still in and how she is bed ridden and can't move around much and is struggling in going to the toilet and for him to explain to Ian to tell him if he can override Mr Cho's category 3 placement and in getting my mum to come in for surgery sooner. I left him my number he said to leave it with him and he will see what he can do.

About one week later I get the phone call back from Shane expecting him to give me some good news about the speed up for my mum's surgery, instead he informs me that he had a lengthy talk to Ian Faragar (the community advisor)in reference to my mum's surgery and he informed Shane(the hospital liaison)that my mum (without proper grounds mind you) has been removed from the elective surgery list to have the stoma bag operation as they all (from our knowledge behind Mr Cho's(Mum's Colorectal Surgeon) back also discussed it between all of the colorectal doctors and Shane(hospital liaison) said that they felt in their opinion without even meeting my mum, knowing about her condition that she didn't need it as they have had a lot of years of experience in these cases and felt that despite us telling Mr Cho and Shane that my mum is in a lot of pain and can't move, she even had to quit her gym) she should go to a continence clinic in Sunshine and there they will do pelvic floor exercises to help 'loosen' my mum's bowels. All of this after all the reports state that my mum is not in a physical state to be doing any type of exercise. Mr Peter Nottle himself instructed my mum to cease from going to the gym, she is really in bad way physically and they had the gumption to send my mum in all the physical pain she is in to a exercise colon clinic to 'help fix her issues.' I explained all of this to Shane to which he answered that it was out of his hands and there was nothing he can do. He said we can try and go to another hospital and get a 'second opinion'. After all the tests and finally Mr Cho comes up with the solution of the stoma bag operation, my mum signs the consent form to be put on the list and is swiftly removed just because somebody had an opinion about my mum, knowing they don't even know her and know what she is going through.

Update: On Thursday the 19th of December, '13 we were once again brought back to the hospital by ambulance to see Mr. Cho about everything that has happened to my mum. What we didn't know is that Shane Smith was also going to be in the room with Mr. Cho. We went in to see both of them asking them for reasons why ,y mum was taken off the waiting list without proper grounds. For the record I taped this conversation that day and have it on my iPhone for you to listen to at some point. Anyway we went in and saw them and the first thing they did was put the full blame on me. Because my mum's condition had been worsening since we saw Mr. Cho at the last appointment were my mum signed the legal consent to be put on the waiting list I brought it upon myself to try and get in touch with Mr Cho to explain that my mum's condition has worsened and every person I spoke to kept throwing me around to different people associated with Mr Cho, I spoke to a nurse who was on the same ward of where Mr Cho operates, I spoke to her about my mum's condition, I asked if she could explain all of this to Mr Cho and when he is free could he please give me a call so I can explain this all to him. After a few days of not hearing from Mr Cho I re rang the hospital to try and get to that nurse again to follow up about our conversation, I couldn't get in touch with her so they put me through to Mr Cho's registrar and I explained it all to him about my mum and he said he will see what he could do about the circumstance and said that he will ty and get Mr Cho to call me. I didn't hear back from Mr Cho in the end but all I was doing was explaining how serious my mum's condition was to that nurse and Mr Cho's registrar but at the appointment on the 19th of December, '13 Mr Cho said 'I was a nighty boy' and that I have been 'causing trouble' of all the phone calls I was making to the hospital about trying to explain to them how serious my mum's condition is and of they can do anything to try and help her to get her surgery sooner and according to Mr Cho he says that that was 'annoying' when all I was doing was defending my mum trying to explain to them how serious her condition hasn't gotten and they took that as an offence, mind you Mr Cho had been saying that he was going to 'look after' my mum and not to worry about anything. According to Mr Cho he said that because I was 'causing trouble' with all the calls that they have re reviewed my mum's case and have come to the decision that because I kept making calls (I only made a few because I was concerned about my mum's condition and only wanted to bring it to their attention, not be annoying) Mr Cho said that the whole team re viewed it and looked at all the tests and said that they felt that she didn't need the operation and it wouldn't benefit her despite Mr Cho being in full agreement to perform the operation at our last outpatients appointment. They then said that the discussion was over and asked my mum and I to leave, basically washing their hands of my mum's case.

Me Natalie of 53yrs of age & my son Peter of 28yrs of age don't have close family members to turn to. I have suffered 4 more than a year with a Bent Pelvic Floor Muscle that I can't push out my stools properly & I am bedridden &. disabled & my 28yr old son Peter is living with me here in Australia & is my Carer. Even both of us have been trying 2 find good Christian friends have been very difficult to find them because the so called Christians make every excuses that they are busy & have work commitments as well as their church commitments & so on & so on.we have been Isolated true born Christians for 8yrs without any family or friends knowing we exist. We have prayed about this situation as well as reading the Bible but no-one intervened. WHERE HAS CHRISTIANITY GONE TODAY? Bible without our brothers & sisters is DEAD.

We both are feeling increased stress and anxiety over this situation.

Despairingly blaming the so called Believers for our inability to meet our unrealistic needs.

We are feeling everything is out of control, and don't see a way out because of Christian's lack of support.

We are feeling loss of energy and constant feeling of exhaustion, emotionally and physically.

We are feeling helpless, hopeless, or on the verge of tears often.

I Natalie have a great loss of interest in my appearance and grooming because of my illness.

We both have change in sleep patterns & sleeplessness as staying up all night.

We both are scattered in our thinking & inability to concentrate, & trapped in constantly circular thinking.

Feeling increasingly very hurt by the way Christians have treated us.

Very isolated & being rejected 4 help because of so called Christian's excuses being busy & not having the time 2 help us etc...

Not having any energy walking because of my situation.
Inability to relax.

I'm having increasing thoughts of death

Its affecting my health & well-being.


2. The Carnal Christian “Brothers, I could not

“No one from my church visited me & my son in our time of need."

Everyone needs a little help at sometime in their life. Why have these so called Christians judge at our point of crisis?

I have helped many people through tough times in their life in my Christian walk. It has now come to my tough time. I am struggling to find the strength to carry on, and are any of the so called Christian people have helped in my lifetime there to offer help to me? No!

We live in a selfish society where everyone only cares about themselves. I am very disheartened to think that there is no-one willing to help me & my son. I have begged for help but no one listens. Even though I have prayed about this many times.

Truly, the "love of money" is the root of the so called Christian's evil. Most so-called "Christian" publishers and "Christian" TV producers dip their sails in compromise to make more money. Most Christians have been "inoculated." They listen to Christian words put to the devil’s music and call it “Christian Rock." But when it comes to a brother & sister's needs they handball u 2 the Bible & say "Jesus will help you."

This whole mess has become a big money-making machine; it’s all about money. You can’t listen to a so-called "Christian" radio/TV program without someone trying to sell you something. All these new perversions of the Bible on the market are all copyrighted. This alone should show you the nature of their business—money, money, money.

What's Behind the Church Walls?

Where is the believer's light on CHRISTIANITY?

One of the biggest problems with Christians today is that they are hiding their light within the church walls (in a "secret place" as mentioned in Luke 11:33). "Secret place" simply means "hidden place". Why would a person light a candle and then cover it? Or in today's thinking, why would you turn on a lamp and then cover it with a box? It is just as ridiculous for a child of God to hide their light from the world. Most believers know the Biblical teaching of the candle being hid under the bushel, but the true meaning just doesn't register. There are churches all across Australia that meet a couple times a week behind closed doors and the local community has NO IDEA what the church believes. Their candle (light) is well hid.

Most Churches operate like the occult

Do you know what the definition of "occult" is?

OCCULT: Become concealed or hidden from view or have its light extinguished

I hate to say it, but it needs to be said...most churches operate more like occult organizations than they do local New Testament churches. Church members all across America think they only go to church to "worship" God. Show me that in the Bible. Believers are supposed to worship God at all times. Australian churches have fallen into the lie of the devil that believers shouldn't FORCE their beliefs upon other people. This is simply not true. Christians are supposed to stand up against the evil doers...

"Who will rise up for me against the evildoers? or who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity?" -Psalm 94:16

"Who will rise up for me against the evildoers? or who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity?" -Psalm 94:16

I am saying that most churches operate like the occult. Most communities across Australia know as much about their local church as they do. I believe that every community in Australia should know clearly what their local New Testament church stands for and believes. Will this make some people angry? Of course, but that should not be a factor because God has commanded believers to stand up against evil and iniquity.

Christian Churches today are mainly concerned about making money and going through the religious motions, but their candle is well hidden. When God says in 2nd Timothy 3:12, "Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution." If you are not experiencing persecution in this apostate world, then you are not living godly in Christ Jesus.

A Christ-honoring Church Stirs Things Up with the Truth

The early church in the Book of Acts was rocking the boat. They were making people angry by preaching the truth. Some people were martyred, willing to die for the cause of Christ. In acts 19:19 many who had been involved with the occult brought their "curious arts" and burned them in a bonfire. The worth of the books and items were 50,000 pieces of silver (about $48,000 in today's value, and millions in Bible times). A piece of silver was a day's wage in the New Testament.

The local idol makers were so enraged at Paul, that the other believers had to keep him from the angry mob waiting to tear him to pieces (Acts 19:30). This is what the truth does friend, it puts the beer companies out of business. It puts the pornographic perverts out of business. It shuts down the taverns and ***** houses. The truth cleans up the community. It cause women to keep their babies instead of murdering them. It puts the Rosary makers out of business. It puts the palm readers, Tarot card readers, and psychics out of business. It puts the Godless video game makers out of business. It puts Godless Hollywood and Devilish Walt Disney out of business. It puts the gambling casinos out of business. The truth puts the ***** joints and nightclubs out of business. Praise God, when Jesus returns at the Second Coming, He will put all these evil people out of business!!!

Please notice that the early believers didn't just preach a salvation message. The Apostle Paul preached about all the things concerning the kingdom of God (Acts 19:8). I actually had a preacher tell me, that when I came to his church, he only wanted me to preach a "salvation message." He didn't like me teaching that all modern Bibles are corrupt. He didn't like when I preached against liquor. He didn't like when I preached against bars and nightclubs. He didn't like when I exposed the lies of Roman Catholicism. And he hated when I preached with zeal and fervor. He actually accused me of shouting at the people from the pulpit. I was shouting at anybody, I was zealously proclaiming the truth with excitement. I don't know about you, but I get exciting knowing that I have found the truth in Christ Jesus.

Until Christ returns, believers are responsible to stand against the evils of their day (Psalm 94:16). The truth will make people angry. The truth will cause others to come to God in repentance. The truth is emotional. The truth demands an answer. The truth cannot be ignored forever. The truth is the truth! 2nd Thessalonians 2:10 tells us that we should receive the love of the truth. Do you love the truth? Now, You don't like to know of bad things, but you need to know the truth. You must know the truth!

A lot of so called Believers are Preaching Lies

So many Christians have their own concepts of what the Bible teaches. Obviously, some are correct and others are very wrong. Truth is intolerant! 2 + 2 = 4. You can sincerely believe that 2 + 2 = 5, but you are dead wrong. There is no compromise, there is no diversity. The modern-day neo-evangelical church preaches a watered-down gospel, but little else. This is the crowd that says it really doesn't matter which Bible you use. They don't fuss over MAJOR doctrinal differences such as the blood of Jesus, etc. Basically, they are a liability to the name of Christ.

Most Christians Don't Care About the Truth

The problem with many Christians is that they either don't care about the truth or they don't preach the truth outside of the church walls. It's critical that Australian churches get riled up about the truth and proclaim it uncompromisingly and without apology. The problem with most Christians is that they're at ease on Zion, complacent in their salvation...

"How shall they escape, if they neglect so great salvation..." -Hebrews 2:3

God saved believers to do more than fill up 18 inches of pew. The problem with most Christians today is that they're "sitting on the premises" instead of "standing on the promises." The world needs the true people of God not only ministering the word but the DOER by putting it into practice such as physically helping people in need of housework & other chores or support them in their CRISIS etc...

I am in so many tears ,& I need your support in what I need 2 do in this situation. I am still communicating with our Lord Jesus, but he is not 2 blame it's the so called Christian's hearts that have hardened & made that CHOICE in not helping me & my son in our CRISIS !

Unfortunately, there are many needy people in this planet such as me & my son,some with very complicated problem situations involving emotional and physical issues leading to a lifetime of baggage; some requiring professional help.

Australia unfortunately has plenty of so called pastors who can lead from a platform through teaching and preaching but do little else to connect with their people throughout the week. It seems to me that the church has developed most of its programs around “come to us” in stead of the mandate to “go and multiply”? Multiply leaders who will go outside the walls of the church 168 hours each week to meet people such as me & my son where they can meet our needs, but NO their JOBS & CHURCH CONFERENCES etc are their main focus instead if the NEEDY !!!

My son & I have been trying to get across that people such as ourselves need to be called or ministered to some way throughout the week. My son & I have been going through a life crises, several all at once, and did not feel support from all the so called Christian Churches in Australia in which my son & I were previously attending. Someone would ask how my son & I are & I would say I'm in pieces, but they didn’t seem to care enough to follow up. My son & I were yearning for someone, anyone, to connect with, period, and especially emotional support throughout the week in what my son & I are going thru, but the so called Christians are blind to when my son & I are in need. I think unless you’ve been in those shoes, you don’t know what to do. Love is the key. Love as Jesus did. And Jesus didn’t only love on Sundays when churches have SUNDAY Services . He didn’t even wait for people to “come” to him. He went “out” to the people. Why aren't Christians coming out 2 visit the people in need instead if making excuses they are BUSY or have other commitments?

"There is a generation, whose teeth are as swords, and their jaw teeth as knives, to devour the poor from off the earth, and the needy from among men." —Proverb 30:14

My son & I need your support here, & a lot of your advice how our so called Australian Christians won't come out to visit me & my son, even though my son had told them that I can't move & in a lot of pain & bedridden they didn't give a dam !!!

Plz don't even try 2 pray 4 us as we have prayed on our situation 4 over 2 yrs & don't even bother giving me any of your bible scriptures so that u will wash your hands from me & my son as in God's word it says if your brother or sister is in crisis u need 2 give support not only thru the Bible & Prayer but in ACTION!! FAITH WITHOUT WORKS SUCH AS PUTTING INTO PRACTICE IS SIMPLY DEAD!!!!

Christian Support dosen't exist anymore, so plz give us good advice what my son & I need 2 do, as we are both very isolated here on our own with no family or friends as people in our area stick 2 themselves & don't care, but opening a Bible & only praying 2 God isn't enough 4 me & my son as God tells us we also need the fellowship of our brothers & sisters, but where are they? Even though my son has called every church in Australia not one Christian has come forward from the will of God 2 help us even though my son told them that I'm bedridden they didn't give a dam & made every excuse 2 get out of it.

Please, you are our last resort in how 2 go about this situation in getting Christians coming 2 our house 4 MORAL SUPPORT as well as SPIRITUAL SUPPORT such as praying with us & spending quality time with us etc. Does that mean that if u are born again & are isolated fully with no one caring about u that my son & I will go 2 hell, even though we are still SAVED? Because that's how I feel right now, & very isolated & I still talk 2 God, but God to me isn't enough without the Christians by my side, but I can't force them if they don't want 2 be my friend & I asked The Lord the same thing about why Christians choose not 2 help or support us in our time of CRISES.

Without becoming very emotional....that was beautifully stated!! I have felt your pain for many years. I am 46 and have 3 children; 23, 20, 11... lived in the same city for 24 years and really do not have anyone I can call a true friend. We have had some (3) but they move away....take on another life form....or just grow apart. Most people we call a friend or acknowledge as such is just by association anymore.

We raised our children by ourselves, we do not have family anywhere near by. During this journey we decided to foster children. We started with 2 foster children in the first 3 months and just could not say "no" and found ourselves with 3 biological children and 6 grew to a staggering 9 children for six years. We loved it!!! Who needed friends when you had an army of little people that needed you and loved you for who you were. We attempted to adopt twice during that 6 year period, but it just was not in gods plans. We are no longer foster...about 2 1/2 years now. We now only have our 11yr old left in the nest. We stay in touch with our older foster children and expect to hear from the younger ones once technology allows it.
I loved your story!!! I really needed a good read to night and I never thought I would have found it this way. I am actually looking at going back into the work force after being home all these years and having hurdle after hurdle in this economy. So I went online to inquire about accounting courses, but was feeling silly and Googled...what should I do when I grow up @ 47....It linked me to your story....Thank you for taking the time to share such an intimate piece of your life.

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