I Really Have No Life

I am alone, again, browsing the internet.  It seems to be my only connection to other people.  I am intelligent, educated, attractive but I really have no one in my life except my family.  I am single in my 40's and have no children.  I have a career and that seems to be the only way I feel validated.  I am not sure how I have come to this point but it is really sad and I dont know how much longer I can stand it.

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11 Responses Feb 12, 2010

I am a 39 year old going through a divorce, raising 4kids and working 45 hours a week. The husband left me and the kids in another state for a year and stupid me thought we could try it, even though there were no family or friends or any support. 6 months after we moved he filed so i couldn't take kids and move to another state. I have no one except my kids. I am sad and lonely and tired...repeat..

35 going through a divorce. I lost my best friend of 15 years to divorce and realized he was never a friend to begin with. That was hard to deal with. I have many friends in Arizona which is also where my family lives but absolutely no one in Texas, which is where Im stuck until the custody battle is over (its been 7 months and looking like 5 more to go at least). I realize it could be worse and I could have no one but honestly talking on the phone to someone once a week for 20 minutes really doesnt cut it. It seems the only people that are interested in hanging out with me are only interested in a romantic relationship, which I am NOT ready for right now. Anyway, best of luck to all of you. It doesnt make me feel any better knowing there are others out there like me. Just makes me empathize with the rest of you.

I have no friends and i have to walk for my diabetes but i can not do that any more because last year some people tried to set me a light and a fue weeks ago some people telled me but thay was going to rape me.So i am a 20 year old man who's a diabetic and hard of sight just hirt in side.So i am hear if you want to talk about your hirt feelings.

I can totally empathize with your story. But I have to add my opinion to some peoples notion that having only one or two people in your life is the same as having no one. If you decide to compare yourself to those who have large extended families and endless social connections then having only one S.O. might seem pretty lonely. I think a problem all of us in this world seem to share is what we perceive as better next door...pasture is greener and all that.

well reading these comments makes me relise i am not on my own - i thought i was the only one who had no friends

I am 46, my kids are all living on thier own, I am a single female and just don't know where to meet people my own age.

Hi all,<br />
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I am 39, have 2 kids and a good husband. Yet Isometimes feel desperately lonely. I seem to have lost all of my friends over the years; fall-out's, growing apart or it seemed they just stopped being any way interested. I have now 2 so called friends left. I introduced them to each other and they get on so well, they have started doing things together without inviting me. When we do lunch, they have nothing to say until I leave the room, then they chat, laugh etc. I really feel they would prefer I wasn't there.<br />
I am stuck between holding on to this situation as these 2 are the only social connection I have left, and giving up and just stop seeing them altogether because it makes me very unhappy. My situation is probably not as bad as some people on here, as I do have a marriage and children, but I definitely know that that's not the end-all-be-all; you need friends.<br />
I too and someone who has always found it quite challenging to hold on to friends or to make new ones; I think I come across too independent and people always think I have it all...which ofcourse is not true. Loneliness seems to run through my life like a never ending theme-song.

I'm 31 and single. I've given up partying, alcohol and immature relationships. This is the first time in my life I'm alone and nothing seems to interest me anymore. Totally disillusioned. Is this what growing up is like?

I'm 16 but I'm headed there. No life whatsoever and I doubt I can do anything about it.

Yep, I'm in the same situation as you. I'm a married forty-something with no kids and a lack of friendships. I have a lot of good acquaintances, but not really anyone I can just hang out with and have fun with besides my husband. Most women my age have kids and I don't and that seems to be a big gulf that divides us. Friendships have always been a little more challenging for me than for others because I'm a bit introverted and it takes me a while to trust someone enough to open up to them, but in the last few years my social situation has just gotten abysmal. I don't know if it's this way for you, but I've recently started wondering if there's just something wrong with me that I can't see but others can that is keeping them away from me. I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes I just feel like a total loser even though I know I'm not. Hang in there, honey. I hope things get better for you and you meet some good people that will give you the friendship you're craving.

all of you can be my friend..... I don't know what that's worth to you... but I can't imagine me coming on here and not saying something... I hope you take me up on the offer<br />
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I don't know any of you... but a thousand times I love you