I have never been asked out on a date. I have never had a man ask me for my phone number. In school, I never went to a dance. I don't know how to meet people. I don't know how to make friends. I don't know how to talk to people. I guess that is just the way it is supposed to be.

NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp
36-40, F
4 Responses Feb 20, 2010

Never too late :)

So I think I need to clarify on something. I was not trying to complain or gain sympathy by telling these things about myself. I was simply stating Fact. As in the title. I have come to a point in my life where I am ok with these things. They allowed me to become the person I am today. If I had had all those things growing up, I would not be where I am today. I would not have my son. I can't say, for certain, where I would be today. This posting was done in haste. I stopped before I could post these things. You are all right! absolutely! I have found, on EP, that too many groups are one sided...Well they all are, actually. I started joining them and writing about my experiences, which are the exact opposite of the group title. It just seemed to me that there were people looking for help and advice but there were no stories in that group that could help them. Cases-In-Point: " Am In An Abusive Relationship" I joined and shared about the way I got out of the abusive relationship. "Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship" "Am Not Special and You Probably Aren't Either" ..... I joined them all. Then I wrote stories. You wouldn't believe the response I got to some of them! So thank you all for your support and understanding.

Let me show how something works, it works for you and me and everyone.<br />
"I have never been asked out on a date." I will have a date this year. I have spent my whole in preparation for this date and it will be nice and wonderful. I am happy here and await that date. While I wait I will spend two hours a week going to different places where that special person will see me and ask me out on that date.<br />
" I have never had a man ask me for my phone number." I will give my phone number to the man of my choice when he asks for it, and not before. I am worth the wait and he will understand.<br />
" In school, I never went to a dance." I will find a place where people dance for fun. I will talk some of them into teaching me how to do the tricky moves they are doing. I will fit in because I am loveable.<br />
" I don't know how to meet people." I know how to meet people. I will protect myself from being harmed by meeting just anyone any time. I will extend my hand in friendship to one unique person who I find extraordinary each week. I will meet people on my terms.<br />
" I don't know how to make friends." When I meet people I know some will want to be my friend. We will meet for coffee or go to the library or book store to learn more about eachother.<br />
" I don't know how to talk to people." I will say hello to as many people a day as I can. I will listen to how they speak. I will choose my words to express how wonderful I think the world is and how nice the person with me is. I will extend to others what I want in return.<br />
" I guess that is just the way it is supposed to be." I know that is the way it is supposed to be. I am free of my negative thoughts because I can be free of them. I am a positive, wonderful person. I am capable, kind, and loveable.<br />
I have started with a list just as you presented above and wrote affirmations and goals for myself out of it, like I just demonstrated. It is easy to do. The writing part is very easy to do. The next step is to read the list when you feel a negative thought come on and replace it wiht your new positives. You only have to do what you choose to do.<br />
This is what Shirely Temple was talking about when she said we have to "take our frown and turn it upsidedown"<br />

You have met, talked and made friends with people here on ep haven't you? ;-) I have a feeling that you "do" know how to do those things. {{hugs}}