Two Faced People Are My Biggest Pet Peeve

and my family is full of two faced people. i hate talking to anyone of my family members, they are all too willing to talk sh-t about whichever relative is not around at the moment. i just know the second i'm gone, i'm the one they are talking about next. the only family member i can even stand to be around, besides my kids and husband, is my father. when we hang out we never mention the rest of the family, which is good, we both have an understanding about the way our family is. we cant change it, but if we around eachother we sure as hell dont discuss it. i avoid all family functions because of this. i hate being thrown into such a horrible atmosphere of backstabbing. i just dont understand it. how can you be so nice to someones face and so hurtful the second their back is turned. if i dont like someone, i just cut off all ties with them, kinda like i did with my family. its a much healthier decision, i think. i refuse to become like that.