My Triggers Vs His Triggers

My husband and I were married for 19 years, divorced and then remarried. He grew up with an alcoholic father as well as witnessed major injuries to others. I had a mother that neglected me, tried to kill herself in front of me, abandoned me and physically and emotionally abused me.
The problem is my h will do things that set off my triggers (I get hysterical, hyperventilate and overwhelming need to hide or run away. He can't handle be accused of things he has done ie: lying, cheating, dismissing me. He gets angry and yells and cold shoulders or says he will leave. Which are triggers for me. Endless circle. So frustrating.
HurtandNoOneCares HurtandNoOneCares
46-50
Jan 15, 2013