Disappearing Dudes; An EP Phenomenon?One of the good things about EP is that I have been able to meet many people from varying backgrounds who hail from all over the world. One interesting aspect of this is that I have met some cool guys on EP who I get along well with and with whom I have become friends with. All of them live distant from me but, if I had an opportunity, I would gladly drink a beer with any of the guys in my circle. I consider each of them "a friend". With this in mind, imagine my surprise when I began to notice that some of my EP guy friends would disappear right before my very eyes.
At first I had no idea where they were going. I figured they were simply busy with real life issues and chose to spend less time here. But then, I began to notice a trend. Nearly every time one of my buddies disappeared, he had met a charming lady just weeks or months before who he seemed to be getting along really well with. Then, over time, I would notice that my friend would share fewer and fewer stories on EP even though he seemed to be logged in as often as before. Pretty soon, the new stories would cease altogether. Next, I noticed that my bud is no longer posting on my white board or commenting on my stories. Even my occasional PM talking about the funny facts about Chuck Norris goes unanswered for days. By the way, did you know that Chuck Norris needs a concealed weapons permit to put his hands in his pockets? But I digress.
Where has my buddy gone? Has he been abducted by aliens? No, he has simply entered stage 1 of the "phenomenon". I play it cool, though, because I don't want to seem like a third wheel. There's just no future in it. So I wait it out to see where it goes. More often than not, one of the two (my buddy or his new EP girlfriend) will leave a post some time after stage 1 begins which hints that one of them is traveling to a new place where they have never been to before (hint, hint). This causes my antennae go up suddenly. "Ah ha!" I exclaim to myself. I knew it! He's being charmed by [insert charming lady username here]..
Game on! She's headed out to see him or him to see her. This is stage 2. If all goes well, then stage 3 usually happens rather quickly. This is whenever one or the other of them relocates and gives the real world relationship a try. At this point, my buddy has not logged in to EP for weeks. It's as if he has literally disappeared.
Really, I've been here only 8 months, but I've seen this happen enough that I feel as if I could write an EP manual entry for it. You know, something like "5 things to do when your circle begins losing guy friends". Yet, who am I to complain if two people find love on EP? Should I be the one who stands in the way of a budding relationship? Should I heap loads of "man shame" on him for succumbing to a woman's charms? No, dear friends. I will not be "that guy". Ok, well, I actually am "ThatGuy' but you understand what I am saying. I prefer to play the wing man for my buddy. I want him to have a good time and be happy (and of course, to rock that lady's world). And, damn it, if it means that I have one less guy friend to talk with about chicks, football, my favorite beer and Chuck Norris, then so be it. It's how I am made. I'm a giver.
Allow me to close with a pathetic appeal. Listen.... you ladies obviously have all the power. We "buddies" cannot compete. But, I appeal to you ladies who have stolen my buddies in the past and those of you who will steal my buddies in the future. Will you do me one favor? When the football playoffs begin, can you allow him some free time away so we can chat it up about our favorite teams? That would be great. The playoffs start next week. Thanks in advance. :):)
thatguy1970 41-45, M 12 Responses 14 Jan 3, 2012