I believe the way to a solution or compromise is through discussion and debate. I think a discussion becomes an argument when you start avoiding answering questions by throwing the question back in the asker's face in the form of an accusation, when you start bringing up things that have nothing to do with the current issue, when you start name calling, and other such things. I have never seen my parents argue. I have seen them have a disagreement but not an argument. When I was in my late 20's to early 30's I was at home all the time and the only raised voice I ever head was when one of them would order the cat off the table or the dog off the sofa, things like that. My mom let my dad do his things, which most of the time was golfing. My dad let my mom do her things, scrapbook club, singing club, whatever. They both had jobs. At home my mom usually did the cooking, but my dad was doing things like mowing the lawn, fixing something, taking out the trash, doing the taxes on the computer. My dad never sat idly around while my mom did all the work at home after getting home from work. Then I get stuck with a stupid husband that does nothing except leave trash all over the floor and expect me to put it in the trash can.