My First Time Here, Seeking Support, Thank You For Listening

I have lived in this apartment for a year and three months, with the same neighbor that whole time. She has always been pretty quiet. But today, starting at 8:30 am and continuing until at least 10 am (when I put in the earplugs), she is playing loud music. She is also accompanying the loud music with loud squealing and loud whoops. I feel like I am at the mercy of other--inconsiderate--people, and it is upsetting me.

I don't really want to go over there and ask her to keep it down because she seems a little unstable. (Hence the earplugs.) I guess the neighbor on her other side and the neighbor below her don't mind this. But they surely can hear it.

Even after a year and three months, you can't count on anything I guess.

It wouldn't bother me so much if I felt kindly toward her. But I don't, because she has mistreated me.

When I first moved in and introduced myself to her, she was super-nice in welcoming me and gave me a hug. But since then, she either avoids me at all costs or is blatantly rude to my face.

For example:

a. If she sees me coming down the street toward her, she will cross to the other side. And if I cross over, she'll cross back! I'm not kidding.

b. If I come face to face with her (like on the stairs), she will intensely glare at me without a word. That's if she makes eye contact.

c. If I say hi or good morning to her, she ignores me.

I don't deserve any of that. I have gone out of my way to be nice to her, and I am an extremely good neighbor. I couldn't be any quieter. So she has no reason to despise me like she apparently does.

I even asked the apartment manager if she's like this with everyone. Apparently she is not like this with the apartment manager. But I don't know how this could be personal, as I haven't done anything to her!

I know this is all small and inconsequential, but it upsets me nonetheless. I don't know what to do with my anger. Life is unfair and one has to accept it, but I'm not sure how to do that.
iesaf iesaf
1 Response Dec 2, 2012

Ignore her and live your life, that's the best advice I can give you.

Suffering for how she treats you is like drinking poison and expecting that she dies from it. So just pretend she doesn't exist - your life will be better ;)

Btw welcome to Experience Project!