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I Have Relationship Problems

My Boyfriend Wants Friends With Benefits Type Relationship

By: KRA789
Written on May 21st, 2011
Well today me and my boyfriend got in an argument and he says ive been stressing him out with like everything like always wanting to talk to him and what not well basically he was saying he wants a break from everything and i dont really believe in breaks cause wants you leave you cant come back, and well i asked him what i need to do fix all this and he said he wants a more relaxed relationship like a friends with benefits relationship but we will still be dating but that makes me feel like hes only here for what we do together and i dont want that but im so scared to lose him ive never liked someone so much before and i just wish he was the old boy i knew and i dont know what to do. he says he we dont need to talk a lot or anything like that and im so confused and im really scared cause i dont want him to leave me..
By: KRA789
Age: 16-17
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  • PotterHead253
    PotterHead253

    My bf just told me that today... he wants to act like a couple where ever we go. but not be one cause he doesnt wanna get hurt again when i move at the end of june(cause his last gf moved across the country) it hurts alot... i feels as if i have knots in my stomach, and i cant eat. but i love him, and want to be with him everyway possible... anyways yeaa. i know how you feel. just with it for a few weeks and then try to slowly go back to how it use to be, but slowly so he doesnt notice any major changes. and then it could finally maybe be nack to normal.... :/

    Feb 19
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  • darktippedrose
    darktippedrose

    i wouldn't trust it. I have known of lots of ppl who start out in relationships, then open relationships, then a complete break up.


    be very afraid.

    Nov 10, 2012
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  • LoveAK
    LoveAK

    I love you, I want to get married and etc. to friends with benefits... That's where I am at too... Broken into pieces I accepted for now, but I don't think I will be able to continue too long

    Sep 27, 2012
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  • Onlykristelle
    Onlykristelle

    can i just say that your boyfriend is a jerk! friends with benefits?? obviously he does not respect you as a woman. break up with him and find a better man who'll respect you and love you for who you are. dont let him use you because if he finds another girl, he doesnt care if he leaves you because obviously he does not value you at all!!. you should love yourself first and dont let anyone hurt you like that.

    Jun 4, 2012
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  • browspottedow
    browspottedow

    I'm sorry you're dealing with all this. I really, really hate to say this, but sometimes people change , especially teenagers, so don't take it too hard on yourself. You can't control other people. You can only control your life. I know it hurts a lot, but if he doesn't want what you want, maybe it's time to end it. And find someone else who wants to be with you the way you want. I'm not going to lie, you're gonna cry and feel sad for a while, but you will feel better eventually and move on. Tell friends and family what's going on so that they're ready to support you should you two break up. Be strong, and accept only what you feel you deserve! good luck.

    Sep 24, 2011
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