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I Have Relationship Problems

Unappreciated...

By: justkaramel920
Written on August 14th, 2011
My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now and we've had problems literally from the start. Since realizing things wouldn't be perfect, it's been on and off with things getting a little more extreme every time. Recently, I've realized that things have gotten better, that I could just cut arguments short, early on before it got worse, sleep on it and she'd be happy to talk to me the next morning. I thought I found a real solution, or a temporary one. After arguing until 5am last night (this happens every so often), I realized things might not be getting better after all. Everyone tells me she seems uninterested or unimpressed by my efforts to cheer her up, or act cheerful myself around her (though I find it tough the way she treats me...). Yet when someone else comes by shes all smiles. After almost a year of this torture is it time to hang it up? She threatens to break up with me constantly but after awhile I feel immune to her threats...though sometimes I wonder if it's really what she wants...it's difficult to explain the situation, only because I feel it's so ridiculous myself and that I never thought my girlfriend would act this way...I just feel unappreciated for everything I do...what do I do...take the jump?
By: justkaramel920
Age: 18-21 , Male
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8 responses
  • browspottedow
    browspottedow

    stay strong, dude! love stimulates the same areas in your brain that is responsible for drug addictions, so that's normal that you feel this inexplicable strong attraction, and normal to experience withdrawals from someone, just like a drug. there's nothing wrong with that, except you want to reserve that for the RIGHT person, and I have a feeling it isn't her. sorry. be sure to continue doing the things in your life that you would normally do if you had not known her, and be sure to have friends around and socialize, they may offer support and different perspectives too.

    Sep 25, 2011
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  • browspottedow
    browspottedow

    wow, sorry for all the grammatical errors, hope you can still make out my points.

    Sep 24, 2011
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  • browspottedow
    browspottedow

    This sounds like emotional abuse. Whether it's because she's going through something herself that she doesn't even know, like depression, or it's intentional, it doesn't matter, this is not working out right now. You need to look out for yourself too and preserve your own sanity, that's no one else's job and yours. There are number of ways you can go about this. For instance, give yourself a time limit, maybe if things don't improve in one month, it's time to jump ship. Look into talking to a counselor, maybe together with her. give yourself some space away from her to think clearly and objective if it's a good, healthy idea for you to be with her. I think it's great for someone your age to make a true effort to be committed to someone. Whether this ends up well or not, I hope it'll be a beneficial learning experience for you. I've learned what I DON"T like or want from my failed relationships. And sometimes it's good to know what you don't want too. Good luck.

    Sep 24, 2011
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    • justkaramel920
      justkaramel920

      thanks for your comment, and dont worry i can clearly make out what you are trying to say, and thank you for that, I keep telling myself this is all a learning experience but its a weird attraction that won't let me break free...i feel like I'm afraid to hurt her...or even myself. I do realize this is a terrible relationship yet there are so many factors tied in that I'm afraid to let go..maybe even for my own good...

      Sep 24, 2011
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  • tiffineyhamami
    tiffineyhamami

    This was my first time posting or reply to a question.... LOL.. I am pretty young too. ( 32) maybe that is not young to you..i have no idea.. Do you feel like you are taken for granted? It is up to you nobody else. friends/ girlfriend...YOU.. If you don't feel like it's worth it. move on... there are tons of women who would love a man like you!!!! :)

    Aug 14, 2011
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    • justkaramel920
      justkaramel920

      lol oh, how...somewhat a coincidence? haha, yes i would still consider that young though i am still much younger..heh, but thanks for the advice; people always tell me that its my decision but...i guess id like to have something else to rely on in case i make the wrong decision...but thanks again!

      Aug 15, 2011
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  • tiffineyhamami
    tiffineyhamami

    Do you love her?? I mean real love.. If you do work it out, she may be depressed, or something else. My husband divorced me after 10 years because I was going through something. It really messed me up. You sound like a great guy, so look in your heart and see if it's worth it

    Aug 14, 2011
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    • justkaramel920
      justkaramel920

      thank you...this is actually my first time posting up here as i was referred to a friend...but there was something warm and welcoming about your response thank you

      also i feel like I'm too 'young' for real love, but i can say i am fully committed to her though she tends to act otherwise...the way im treated sometimes I feel like Its not worth it, as many of my friends constantly tell me im being taken for granted...thank you again though

      Aug 14, 2011
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