Strange Timing


Why is it when I'm in a relationship then I start fantasizing about all sorts of naughty stuff - sex with much older men, checking out sex clubs, etc.  

I won't and don't act on any of this cause I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend. Yet whenever I'm single and completely free to act out any fantasy then I don't.  

Then sure thing next time I'm in a relationship the same cravings pop up.

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5 Responses Mar 16, 2009

I know exactly how you feel, the same thing happens to me too!

Sounds like the sexual pendulum swinging back and forth. Security and safety vs temptation. It’s a natural thing. It’s safer to fantasize within the boundaries of a secure environment; namely a relationship. <br />
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Temptation is always there; never really goes away. Giving in to temptation is another matter. The cravings are real, go ahead and fantasize I say. As an older man, I’m bettin’ that’s what he’s doing. People have been doing it for thousands of years.<br />
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My ex from CA and I looked forward to watching really good **** while in flagrante delicto each time. She fantasized more than I did. But we had an unspoken understanding that we wouldn’t actually follow through with them. <br />
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I did follow through on one though. Don’t know if it counts. I streaked once in front of a radio station and then ran. Like those guys who run naked at football events. Somehow nudist parks, events or colonies tempt me greatly. It’s funny. Who has not thought of being nude in public once in their lives?

When you don't have any extra money, you see 100 things you want to buy. Then as soon as you have extra money, you can't find a thing you want. <br />
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Roleplay is great fun .... exploring your fantasies is fun .... But sometimes a fantasy should stay a fantasy .... keeps it alive and fresh

Sounds like a "grass is always greener" thing. You always want what you can't have. It's human nature. That doesn't make it right to act out on it though.

gosh wish i knew cause i'm like that