Getting Rid Of Negative Thoughts. I Want To Share With You Why I Think There Is Hope.
I shared this in another group, but I think it fits here too. I am not eloquent, nor do I write well. Maybe my thoughts are all over the place..But I still want to share with you something I found tonight.
It seems that no matter how much self-help resources inspire me when I read them, the feeling of happiness and serenity doesn't stay long. My feelings of self-love and acceptance goes away the next day. I would read up articles on mental wellness and inspirational videos about depression, self esteem issues, and social anxiety. I would feel energized and inspired to overcome my struggles with low-self esteem, but the next day, I would be feeling down again. After a while, this got repetitive and even after I took natural stress relief products so to balance the hormones and improve seratonin levels, it did not improve my mood. I felt frustrated and disappointed with myself, until tonight.
I realized that maybe this is because I haven't gotten rid of my ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) No matter how much something I read, watch, or listen inspires me, it will not truly heal me unless I change my long term negative thoughts. Often I do not catch myself thinking these negative thoughts and I feel depressed and unhappy again. Ultimately, my negative thoughts would take over my feelings of inspiration and peace. So I learned that no matter how many inspiring things I find, I believe there aren't any shortcuts when it comes to healing myself. I think there is a solution, however, and that solution is myself. I have to heal myself. And to do that, I have to deal with myself. To face my problems. I can't repress my feelings any longer. In order to deal with these negative emotions and fear, I have to feel them as they come to the surface so that they can weaken and dissipate. I think that we cannot rely entirely on someone else or an external source to pull us through our problems. We should ask for help of course, but ultimately - we are responsible for ourselves. Nobody can change our thinking for us except for ourselves. If we are able to change our thinking, we can find peace.
My favorite quote is a Buddhist saying that goes something like, "There is no east or west in the sky. People create these distinctions and believe them to be true. All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become." In other words, we are what we think. And what we think determines our happiness from the way we see things.
So if you are wondering how to get rid of your negative thoughts, here is what I found:
First I read this: http://www.mkprojects.com/fa_emotions.html
and after I saw videos of Byron Katie's The Work on youtube, I did this: http://www.thework.com/thework.asp
I want to tell you I believe it is possible
Honestly, my intention isn't to advertise, but to share what I think is really helpful. I'm not very good at explaining it and I am not a professional. But I think you dont have to be a professional to heal yourself and and to help others.
After I did this, my chest felt a bit lighter and so I wanted to share this on EP. Hopefully this helps anyone who is also struggling with themselves. It is pretty broad and can help anyone in general. Cheers!