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Introvert Trying To Meet New People

I'm 36. In the past I always made friends though work, and school. I am now a boss and can't make friends with employees. I also am working online for my current degree. I don't like the bar/club scene and I am not one to walk up to people and just say hi. I've decided to seek therapy and right now having a hard time finding one. All my past friends have seemed to move on, they've coupled up, have kids, moved away or we just lost touch. I guess everyone with social anxiety suffers the same paradox. You want to meet people, but you don't know how to start the ball rolling. Just another brother here struggling with the same thing.
BigHryRomeo BigHryRomeo 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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I notice this post is from a while ago. How has your life progressed since then? I'm pretty new to the website and wondered how you use it to help. Funny how it is so much easier to talk to strangers than people you know.

I guess the judging factor is out the window and you can let people see the "real" you. Like you, I don't have many friends. Ashamed of my life I guess.

Hey twisten-

Sorry I was slow to respond. It's been a busy week. As I said below my career is going great. But I still don't have much of a personal life. At this point, I just want to settle down with someone more so then the need for friends. But friends wouldn't hurt either.

I am sorry you are having a rough time meeting friends too. IT sounds like you need to figure out what you want in your relationship before you can move on.

must be tough to be a boss with SA. do you have to conduct meetings and stuff? if so how do you handle that?

I can separate business from my personal life. I keep it all business, my co-workers and employees don't know much about me. I am good at leading and am comfortable talking to co workers about work. I don't have a problem in meetings and other business factors.

Just different for me in other social situations like bars and clubs.

ahh well lucky you. SA affects ALL areas of my life unfortunately. and work is where it affects me the most.

Sorry to hear. Everyone has issues at verrying degrees. That can be rough. I just feel "in my element" at work. Being successful in my career is important to me.

I am sure you will overcome it soon ^ ^ Just don't be too hard to yourself.