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Going Out

Been finding it hard recently to go out. I spent about a month in my room at uni. not doing much and feeling sorry for myself and not talking to anyone really. I used to lock the door when I heard someone come home and wouldn't go to the kitchen or bathroom if I knew people were around in case I saw them as didn't feel like talking. Feeling a bit better now but I think I have got into a routine of staying in a stressing about work and so still not enjoying life greatly...I have moments of ups and downs by always worry that if I go out I won't enjoy myself and won't be able to talk to people...so I don't...then I worry because I didn't go out...tis a nasty circle.

nic719 nic719 21-25, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2006

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I know what your going through even if I joined cross country and Student Run LA, I am always home.

Try getting involved with a sport and become a member of the team. Somthing u think u would enjoy and be good at.

I have done the same thing many times! I lost the man who was the best thing that ever happened to me. When we were dating, I felt so inadequate, and self-conscious that I would hide, and not answer the door when he came over. I felt I wasn't good enough for him and his friends. I felt like his friends were always talking about me. I was just scared! I don't know why. I just didn't know how to handle someone like him, so I lost him.<br />
I still pretend I'm not home when people come over. I don't answer the phone. I hate talking on the phone. I don't have anything to say. I feel like people are judging me all the time. If I have to go somewhere, and I don't have the perfect thing that feels just right, I freak out. I cry, try on everything I have, which isn't much, and if at all possible just won't go. I hate this! I know I shouldn't care what other people think, but I can't help it. I'm not happy with myself, and I feel like people are judging me all the time.

This almost exactly describes me! I HATE answering the phone or even worse; making phone calls. When I was younger I would have my Mom or other family members make calls for me. I stammer over my words when talking to people, and if I have to go somewhere, I do the same thing- I freak out over what to wear, and if I don't feel completely comfortable I feel like an ***, I always feel like everyone is staring at me judging me, when truthfully I'm sure they've got other things on their mind. I'll try on everything I own too, and I don't have much! Sorry to hear this "disease" had taken hold of you too, yet somehow I find it comforting to know that someone, somewhere knows exactly how I feel. Thanks for sharing:)

That sucks and I know how you feel it just feels better staying in your little cocoon right? cause its safe

I have been going through this too...and now it's getting a bit off hand...my mom kinda noticed it but didn't do anything about it...she thought I was just anti social...but I'm really not....and sometimes its terrible....I have even hidden from family members when they came to visit...I just locked myself in my room....when I just didn't feel like talking...

I have had depression since my daughter was born 6 years ago, and thats when it all started, I wouldnt go outside alone at all, terrified people are talking about me or something awfull will happen, and now 6 years later I am still the same, its so bad that if anybody knocks I hide, and pretend im not in as Im to scared to face whoever it is, it is litrally ruling my life, and unless I am with a friend I will not go out full stop. and even if i do if there are alot of people about I just want to go home where i feel safe, its a horrible feeling. If anybody else has been the same way or is now, I would appreciate any help or advice. Thanks for reading :)

Personally I've been a painfully shy girl as a teenager, as I was only interested in studies and talking to a selected few people.<br />
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But like someone said it gets easier as you grow up!<br />
When you start your professional life or studies you realise that life is VAST and being over shy just ruins it!<br />
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I started by taking small steps.....like saying hello to a stranger every now and then...and then in my classes talking to somene new sitting beside me....<br />
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and that is how you should start...by taking small steps....if you need more advice...just give me a message<br />
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Love,<br />
Leona

I KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH AS I HAVE IT MYSELF, IT GETS EASIER AS YOU GET OLDER , I NO THATS NO CONSOLATIION SO MAYBE IT TIME TO DO SOMETHIN ABOUT IT. SITTIN DOWN WORRYING ISNT GOIN TO SOLVE ANYTHING AT ALL DID IT FOR LONG ENOUGH MYSELF. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!