Let It Go?

For the past couple of weeks, I've been wanting to talk to this guy in my psychology class. I want to get to know him better, but I can't bring myself to say anything to him. Whenever I see him, I'll smile and wave at him, but he reacts to me indifferently. He will make eye contact, but nothing more than that.

Lately, I've been getting very anxious around him. If I pass by him, I won't be able to look at him, and I'll get extremely fidgety. If we do make eye contact, all I can do is smile and fidget because I won't know what else to do. My mind goes blank.

I'm pretty convinced he doesn't want anything to do with me. He shows no interest in making any sort of conversation with me even though he seems friendly and outgoing around other people.

...Maybe I've creeped him out without even realizing it. :P

Well, whatever the reason he's acting indifferent towards me, maybe it's hopeless for me to keep on thinking about him. There probably won't be anything between us, and I guess we aren't really compatible, but I wouldn't know that for sure because I don't really know the guy very well in the first place.

Maybe I should just let it go?
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2 Responses Sep 23, 2012

may be you should let it go coz as social anxiety sufferers we tend to think too much of the most basic of human interaction and tend to expect everyone to like us back as much as we do them. but thats not to say there is nothing always of course. in your case, you havnt spoken to the guy so you cant really tell (even if you think you can). becomingmyself puts it beautifully. relax, let go and let the other girls do the hard work you will eventually be seen as confident and self sufficient

exactly! i know this coz i pretty much do the same thing and when a girl shows me some interest (which rarely happens) i cant stop myself from thinking ''she might be the one" im just trying to stop it right now and to also learn and accept that not everyone will like you. even the seemingly most lovable people have people that dont quite like them as much so its fine love.

you dont have that personality and its alright. its hard coz everyone like people like your brother coz they are apparently more fun and your not that out going or cocky but my only consolation is we are different. if a man can find a fellow man more sexually attractive than a woman (and the reverse) then surely it should be fine for there to be the out going, cocky and more reserved people.

I have done that MANY times. There was one guy in one of my classes that I could tell kind of liked me. But as I started to like him back I started getting extremely nervous around him. I think I got so anxious because he never got nervous around me- it was a little intimidating not being in control of the situation. I started saying stupid things and embarrassing myself to the point he wasn't interested in me anymore.
So, I let it go.
And the next semester when I saw him again, I was a new person and I felt completely different around him. I realized he hadn't stopped being interested in me, he just thought I hadn't been interested in him because of the way I had been acting. Truthfully, you never know what someone is thinking. But for some reason letting it go is like a subconscious decision that you are okay and independent being single, and that's usually when guys become interested. I can't tell you how many of my friends found their soul mate right after they just let it go.
Likewise, I've been interested in many guys, but as soon as I stopped trying, they suddenly became interested in me. Some of them have told me the reason they liked me is because I don't throw myself at them. So yes, I'd say letting it go is the best decision :)