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I guess compared to some people here, my social anxiety is relatively mild. I can deal with people in an academic or professional setting, when I have to. I'm a full-time student atm, so I can cope pretty well. As soon as the setting turns personal, however, I turn into a mess. I start shivering, get light-headed, I usually can't meet anyone's eyes, and I start obsessing about everything that could go wrong and what the other person thinks of me.

Social anxiety has affected my life. I've only had a couple "friends" who were more like acquaintances. I've never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, and I've never even kissed anyone. Most of the time I stay at home.
Rennn Rennn
22-25, M
3 Responses Feb 4, 2013

I think my husband is that way too. We knew each other back in grade school, and he started talking to me online. When we were getting ready for our first date he told me he couldn't eat. I even talked to him on the phone while he was driving to pick me up. :P I thought it was cute. He had a few close friends, but didn't ever show interest in meeting any of mine.
Then he joined the military. He's so much more confident now! I'm actually jealous sometimes... In boot camp they break you down and build you up. Give you a huge sense of pride. I don't know if you've ever considered it, but I think it'd be really good for you.

I can totally relate. I’m similar, when it comes to socializing. I usually can’t deal with prolonged eye contact with people I am unfamiliar with; I tend to start looking elsewhere. My social anxiety is not terrible, but it does keep me from going to certain social gatherings at times, to avoid the feelings of anxiety. Have you tried to seek out some form of help to help with your anxieties?

I'm seeing a therapist, but even he says that to improve I need to form relationships and friendships with people. I don't know where to start. :/

Yeah, my sister suggested I try therapy to calm my anxieties; however I don’t see how that would help. I don’t have trouble with forming friendships; my anxiety mostly is with being surrounded by large groups of people I don’t know. Try joining a club on campus that sparks your interest. It is usually relatively much easier to start conversations and form friendships with people you share interests with, even with anxiety problems. I started volunteering several years back, it was helpful for me, since it forced me to interact with people I don’t know.

Feel the same! I can be around people, but can't get on a more deeper level with them. It sucks becaus eit prevents me from doing a lot of things with certain people and events I wish I could do. Staying home is also unfortunately my cup of tea. Every time I go out it's a hassle being around people and feeling so insecure around them. This is hence why I just rather stay home and be alone with myself or family, who are the only people I could be comfortable around