Oh My Shyness...

it's horrible.. I'm sooo nervous around people.. I start saying stupid things then and laugh the whole time because I'm so insecure about what I say and so I just laugh to make it seem like a joke or something...
I feel so uncomfortable with people I hardly know.. I'm also not comfortable around people I know but it's not that bad.. I'm so afraid to ask people.. I always think then, that I should already know what I'm going to ask and so often don't dare to ask questions...
Recently my boss asked my sister (which works at the same company as I do(only for a month)) if I'm afraid of her.. I'm not really.. I just talk either nothing or just bullshit. (in this case it was "saying nothing").
I also speak very quiet then because I hope they don't understand but If I wouldn't say anything I'd feel uncomfortable too...
People are just freaking me out..
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4 Responses Jul 8, 2007

You're very welcome. <br />
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Don't ever forget that you are an amzing jewel. Remind yourself of that right as you wake up, and just before going to sleep. <br />
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It's not conceited, it is connecting to your true being.<br />
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And if you don't yet believe it, ask for some recommendations, (books and otherwise,) as I'll share some with you. <br />
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From another Broken Hearted Warrior.<br />
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sf

You know, in some ways this shyness that i think we all feel, as humans, is beautiful and amazingly tender.<br />
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there is a raw, open, TOUCHABLE part of us that is what makes the magic in the world. It may be painful, it may be embarrassing, it may make us want to hide, but it is what the great poets and painters and visionaries of our world tribe all share that assures us we are part of a divine continuum.<br />
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For us to be able to appreciate anything brilliant, it means that brilliance shines in us. <br />
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When anything in the world touches us deeply, it means we are aware of our "soft spot." So many people are not even aware of it. <br />
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The next step after discovering this tender part, what we may call shyness, is to enter it. By entering it, and looking around inside our tender shy being, we can begin to make friends with ourselves. When that begins to happen, we no longer feel embarrassed about being a human being. <br />
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We discover our natural inheritance is this broken heart, this beautiful broken tender jewel. <br />
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This is what will change the world within us, and without us.<br />
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And I must say we are all so brave and daring to share these experiences with each other. Keep going. Love is Power. <br />
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SF

sounds just like me, I have a very weird type of shyness tho, I am uncomfortable around certain people, like my boyfriends friends and his family so I am quiet all the time, they hardly ever hear me talk, they even asked my boyfriend if I ever talk. I tend to blush a lot too, it's bugging me so much. But<br />
when it comes to guys, I sometimes like to meet new people, I love to flirt even tho I'm sooooo shy I have never had problems getting a boyfriend I'm more comfortable around guys then girls for some reason

You sound just like me, it is very horrible. I am always very nervous around people too and it can be my own family and I still feel that way. I tend to smile and laugh a lot to and I always feel like I am going to say something stupid. Sometimes people always wonder why I smile a lot, but sometimes I do that when I am really feeling shy. Sometimes I do like to smile, but I blush a lot.