Today in English i had to read my essay... So person with social anxiety's WORST NIGHTMARE. I was so nervous, i couldn't sleep. While i was reading, my face got all red and i started to stutter. After i read, i went into the bathroom a shaky and crying mess. Something that people find so simple, is actually the hardest thing for me to overcome.
JustineMusey JustineMusey
18-21, F
10 Responses Apr 16, 2015

Remember, people aren't interested in you. They're interested in what you have to say. When I read something to a group, I try to show a little drama into my reading. That way you don't sound boring.

When I had to do read out loud or be made the center of attention, I would cry later and beat myself up (physically).

When I was in school my assignment was to recite a poem in class. I remember shaking and stuttering so badly that I got embarrassed and ran out of the class. I ran to the bathroom crying and the teacher followed me and sent me to see a school counselor. His advice to me was to visualize people naked. Lol!!!! I always thought that was some crazy advice to give. I am much older now and I still get nervous giving speeches but I'm not as bad. It gets better over time. I try to say positive affirmations just before my speech now. Tell yourself you can do this. Smile and only think positive thoughts. Replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

I was the same way at your age but as you get older it goes away. You don't even have to to work. It seems to fade with age and position.

Ugh I have to take public speaking this summer for my degree. Not looking forward to it.

I know exactly how you feel. Basically, you just have to lower your standards for how well you are trying to read it. Don't try to read it with exceptional fluency, or as fluently as that person in your class who reads it without anxiety whatsoever. It takes practice, but if you keep practicing, you'll gradually notice yourself doing better in these situations, and you won't feel any temptation to try too hard. Be patient with yourself like you would be patient with, say, a child you are (hypothetically) trying to help overcome social anxiety. Don't be harsh on yourself. Seriously, you need to give yourself time to learn to take these things only moderately seriously. By that, I mean, don't read it in a funny accent and dance all around the room; that's not seriously enough. Be just serious enough to, oh, I don't know, tell a friend what you've written. No more formal than that. It takes practice, but you'll get there. Good luck! :)

When I was in school, I was the same way. When I stood up in class to talk about an assignment, I would get paralyzed and completely blank out. Now that I'm older now, I don't care what people think. If you're talking to an audience, think of one person in the audience and pretend he/she is the only one you're talking to and share your assignment info with them. Talking to one is the same as talking to them all, in reality. They're not interested in you. They're interested in what you have to say.

Reminds me of my days in was so bad sometimes I'd purposely not finish the project just so when the teacher called me all I had to say was "didn't do it".....small price to pay for standing infront of the peeps in a visible wreck

It's pretty punishing for people who dislike public speaking to be forced to do it just for the sake of being graded on their "presentation ski?ls".....idea?y it should be you pass your work in seclusivly for equal grading but extra points added per presentation.....

That sucks, that's exactly how I am too. But, I have social anxiety and awkwardness, which sucks. But, after a while, you'll get used to it. Trust me, I used to have it WAY worse. But now, it's not so bad. Hopefully you'll mostly overcome this.

I know EXACTLY how you feel,.