Direspectful Adult ChildrenTo make a long story short I have 3 kids son 27, and 2 daughters 22 and 24. Do not have much of relationship with any of them. My son is married with 3 kids of his own and although I did not raise him I tried to be in his life as much as I could. He never calls me I get a text message for mothers day and birthdays if I am lucky. The oldest girl, I am always good enough to call or hang around with she has no guy in her life or it is at her connivance and that is/was not often. She always goes from guy to guy it is like she can not be without a guy and her taste is always for the bad boys. Now she is pregnant with her 1st child fathered by a 23 year old who had his home raided and is on probation for drugs and has more traffic tickets then I can count. I do not even think he has a valid license. Her and I have always butted heads and have gone without speaking many times before. I have told her how I feel about this situation and we got into another fight from everything from the baby shower to I told her that if I had to go to court to have grandparents rights to see my grandchild I would. Then there is the youngest daughter who lives with her boyfriend about 50 miles away but drives past my home on her way to work that just stopped calling or coming around. She recently told my father that she was tired of hearing me complain about her sister or lecturing her about life and I never go visit her. Well after careful consideration this is what I came up with. I know I was not a perfect mother and that I made mistakes, I am only human. That I will not beg for their attention. If it does not come from the heart and is genuine I do not want it. I will no longer be talked to in their smug snotty tones with curled up lips. If they want to be a part of my life they need to make it happen. Not saying kiss my butt however I am the parent. Ask God for help in getting me through every day. I love all of them but I refuse to accept how they make me feel, so if it needs to be we never speak again then at least there won't be the arguing and everyone getting upset.
66howard 41-45 13 Responses 0 Sep 24, 2010