(empowerment) You Are Not Crazy - Recognizing That You've Been The Victim Of Abuse

These are two links I found invaluable for understanding and escaping from the dynamics of abuse, as well as identifying abusive people and situations in general.

Abusers will almost always try and convince their victims that they're the ones doing something wrong and "causing" the abuse. It's sometimes hard to tell who the abuser is, since covert abusers will cause overt "crazy" behavior in their victims - making the victims look like the "bad guy" while they maintaining their squeaky-clean image. These sites help to clearly identify the traits, roles, etc of the victim, and of the abuser.

http://www.youarenotcrazy.com/

http://www.angelfire.com/vt/rcwn/Pagesixteen.html
MovingForward28 MovingForward28
26-30, M
4 Responses Aug 3, 2010

"Some of the informations seems intended to antagonize the victim." - Most of the information is intended to antagonize abusers, not victims. In what ways do you see it as antagonizing the victim?<br />
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"I don't think it mentioned what "overt crazy" behavior was or gave an example that I recall." - Those were my words, not the site's words - and the 2nd site talks in detail about "crazy making" behavior and gives clear information about the sorts of abusive behaviors that make a person feel and act crazily.

I don't think it mentioned what "overt crazy" behavior was or gave an example that I recall.

Some of the informations seems intended to antagonize the victim.

Thank you! I am going to visit them now!