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I Have Shared My Crossdressing With A Few Women

There are a few women that know about my crossdressing. My wife knows, of course, but there are a few others. Mostly ex-girlfriends. From the time I entered college, the girls I dated with whom I had somewhat serious relationships all learned of my crossdressing.

It's interestiing, because all of them accepted my CDing to some extent. A couple of girls found it "interesting" and were curious to see it. Of course, after seeing me in a dress, pantyhose and high heels once or twice, they got past the curiosity element, and were not exactly excited to see me dress up.

One girl I dated was a bit kinkier, and enjoyed it more. But she and I just didn't quite click, and so the relationship didn't last long.

My wife is understanding and accepting, but my CDing is not a turn on for her.

I have also shared my CDing with a few women that are friends.

Two of them were accepting. One friend is amused by it all. She likes seeing my legs in hose, and has even borrowed my heels a couple of times. Another female friend was curious to see me totally enfemme, but wanted to share that experience at a hotel room. The problem was that we're both married, and I was not interested in having sex with her and cheating on our spouses.

Two of my friends were less than acceptings. I was opening up to one friend and told her about the time I dressed as a girl for Halloween. She asked if I had worn pantyhose. I said yes I had. She then gave me a big, "Eeeeeewwwwww!" That was enough for me not to finish the story and fess up about my CDing. I shared the Halloween story with another friend, who told me in a very repulsed manner, "that is SOOOO gay!" She stopped talking to me after that, so we are no longer friends.

I know it's a tough thing for CDs to share their secret with people. It's something that we all wish we could be much more open about. But so many people can't handle it. It's a tactical thing to tell someone when you aren't sure how they will react. You hope they will accept it, but if they don't, you hope that they will honor your secret. It's not that I am worried about losing a friend by telling someone, as much as I fear what would happen if they began telling everyone else about it.
BizSuitStacy BizSuitStacy 46-50, T 6 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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I Also closet CD for years until my wife caught me. She actually likes it and has become part of our life. I would never leave the house and could NEVER tell anyone else. Well, anyone I know, as I just told everyone on this site...

That's great you and your wife enjoy it together!

I am a closet crossdresser. I told my wife that I used to do it, but she didn't like it, so I hide it from her, unfortunately. I also have never told friends or coworkers. I almost did one day, though.
I was walking to work early one morning when I saw a well-dressed woman walking toward me. As we approached each other, I saw that she was not a woman! I just smiled, but didn't say anything. At work, I told a coworker, who is a few years younger than me and attractive. She thought it was great! I asked why and she said, "Any guy who would do something like that has guts. I love crossdressers!" I asked her what she would do if she were to find out her husband is a crossdresser and she said it wouldn't bother her, but she wouldn't be turned on by it, either.
I decided I shouldn't tell her because of that, and because I knew she would probably tell other coworkers. But I sure did think about telling her!

I like your experience of seeing the "well dressed woman!" I had a similar experience at the airport. I had just gone thru the security line, and was putting my shoes back on. I noticed a woman in pantyhose putting her heels back on. I thought, "gee...nice to see a woman in pantyhose these days." Then, I got a closer look...not a woman. I smiled at her, but she just seemed uncomfortable. Maybe she knew I had figured her out.

I was completely secret untill 4 years ago. My marriage was a bit rough. Somehow I ended up in another womans apartment, wearing her heels. We were both drunk and couldn't quite remember how. She was really accepting, she was great about it. She gave me that little nudge I needed to have the confidence to tell more people.
My wife has been the tricky one, but I think she worries too much.
I have told 3 female friends and 2 of their partners. The girls were great, they want to dress me up and get me out there. One even donated some old shoes. The guys were less enthusiastic, but still kinda accepting in a funny masculine way.
The one person I really want to tell is my mummy, but how do you approach that one?

I'm not sure exactly. Mothers are very accepting for the most part. My recommendation would be to be very honest with her. Sit her down, tell her you have something important to talk about. If and when you tell her, be prepared for all the questions she is likely to ask (you know the standards..."are you gay? do you want to be a woman? etc.")

It's funny, isn't it? I mean, it seems so "normal" to me. It's who I am. Really, who gives a crap what somebody wants to wear? But I know better than to unload this on strangers. Except here at EP, where it's all strangers. I feel more accepted as an electronic creation among anonymous posters than I do in so-called real life, even with my wife, who simply pretends she never saw me in that dress.

It is funny - really - when you get right down to it. They are flippin's clothes for crying out loud. So what do we do? Create EP versions of ourselves. Oh well...

Oh well! It's better to be here than be nowhere. Life as a crossdresser before the Internet was far lonelier!

I completely agree Jennifer!

Well now, THAT was a long conversation! lol

Indeed. LOL

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You are much braver than I. I've told no one except my therapist. My wife knows a little but not to the extent. At least she did not run out the room screaming.

That's a good start and as you said, at least your wife did run away from you.

You are so wright, though I told a few people I know that I wear dresses, I still find it difficult to tell. I fear the most of telling men about it, telling women is easier, they seem to accept it easier then men do. The ones I told didn't seem to matter about it, it was alright to them.

I've never told a man either. I feel more comfortable telling women. I'm not attracted to men, and would not want a guy to get the impression I wanted sex because I shared with him that I am a CD.