I Take It to Heart

i hate criticism. i always take it to heart, so i cant deal with it very well. even if its the smallest thing, i'll find it hard to come to terms with it and get over it.

sezy sezy
18-21, F
2 Responses Aug 20, 2007

This is not entirely a bad thing... it can motivate you to do better and to be better....then as you grow older you will learn to moderate your feelings and because you have always been striving to be better you get better results of your hard work...and you will actually end up doing better not because of the criticism but because it has become an natural thing for you to do...and you wont be using criticism to make you do better anymore...<br />
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Psychologically finding criticism difficult to handle can stem from 2 things... one is the need to please which is related to feeling unloved...and the other is a low self esteem...stemming from not feeling you are ever good enough...something we pick up in childhood... You can lessen both these by telling yourself physically in the mirror each day... "I am lovable" repeat it out loud a few time every morning...and whenever you remember to, say it silently in your mind over and over while you are walking or working.....and your world will change.. :)<br />
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Best wishes..

when I was growing up I was always being criticized by my family almost every one thought I wouldn't amount to anything wouldn't graduate from high school would have kids by the time I was 15 and so much other stuff but here I am @ 25 I don't have kids and I graduated high school in 2001 and went on to college of course my life isn't exactly what I thought it would be at this age but at least I'm getting there don't let criticism hold you back from anything take it in stride to help you work harder at achieving your goals that's what I did.