I'm Not a Slob

i dont leave my crap lying all over the place. at the same time i dont pick up after my husband either, well at least not daily. i am the only one who does any housework and it is really frustrating. it gets so messy in here that i want to throw everything away and start over. i usually just buck up and deep clean but i'm not good at it. i feel like i'm doing a good job  until i step back and look at my work. it usually leaves me scratching my head like " i thought i just cleaned that"..lol. i think i have add and thats why it takes me so long. i dunno...anyone got any helpful tips on how to clean quickly and efficiantly?

ktsm0m ktsm0m
26-30, F
3 Responses Jul 6, 2007

I started the group, so I'll comment. I related to all of the above.<br />
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I'm actually a very good cleaner. I can be a little on the obsessive compulsive side which means I can hyperfocus on a particular thing I'm cleaning until its clean exactly the way I want. I'm a disgruntled perfectionist, too-which means I'd love things to be clean perfectly if they could be.<br />
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But in all honesty, I live in a messy house. Why? Aside of my full time job, most of the hosework falls on me. I can keep up for awhile and then I just fizzle out and become angry and rebellious that I'm not getting enough help. I'll take a break from the dishes or housework and ask someone else to pick up the slack. My husband usually promises to do dishes for instance only to put it off for a week in which case I get tired of waiting and must do it myself. When I'm more on top of things I'll get through my anger and do them myself a little sooner. Apparently dishes and mowing or the only jobs that really count. He does them once maybe every 2-3 weeks and thinks he should receive lots of kudos, praise, and appreciation for that. I am thankful for what little help I get, but couldn't there be more.<br />
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My daughter is sometimes like a walking hurricane. She had ADHD. She actively makes messes wherever she goes, although we are trying to help her with this. My husband throws newspapers all over the floor. The further the house falls apart the less respect they have for it. My daughter even throws trash on the floor at timse. Its like an uphill battle. I do all the parenting tasks, the laundry, the cooking, the dishes, clean the bathroom, pay the bills, hold down a job, run the errands, buy the groceries, put the food away, do the yard work, water the flowers (my husband does mow from time to time). Dusting? that really doesn't happen too often unless I'm getting ready for inspections or company. The vaccum cleaner breaks on a regular basis. We went through about 4 of them in 2 years.<br />
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Because my husband is jobless we are super poor. When things break we can't fix them. There is not enough storage space, not enough closet space, not enough containers to organize, dressers drawers which have broken and can't be replaced-no money-and it can all be very miserable.<br />
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And when I organize something my daughter can go and undo it all, which makes it very discouraging.<br />
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Ironically, she can be a pretty good cleaner when she wants to be-better than my husband even. she's gettign better about keeping her room neat. the only way I can get her to clean the house is if I tell her her friends can't come over until its cleaned. This works most of the time when she cares.<br />
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My husband can become more helpful on rare occasions when there's a major even like someone important coming over or when I lay down the law. He's kind of ineffcient in his cleaning though, and he just has trouble with working hard. You can expect me to do about 5 hours compared to his 1.<br />
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Help! when will it get better and when will it consistently get better?

Housecleaning is a thankless job - it just goes on and on and on. And, if the whole family doesn't share the chores, the person who is most responsible finds an impossible task. I used to tell my kids on Friday after school that if they wanted to have a fun weekend, they'd have to clean house and help me. That worked. Another think is letting go of clutter - we don't need half the things we think we need. Making room helps with cleaning. I belong to freecycle.org a yahoo group. They are all over the USA and you can offer things there you dont' need anymore and people will come pick them up - you can also put things on there you need and if someone has something to match it - you can pick it up. Clutter is my worst enemy!

I have the same problem with cleaning. I sweep and swifter the floors, turn around, and theres more dirt. I end up giving up on getting it completely clean. I try to sweep at least weekly though, to keep everything manageable. I think thats the only trick, constant light cleaning.