I'm not sure if my troubles with making new friends is really a problem or by choice. I use to think of it as a problem, that there was something wrong with me. But through discovering more about my personality type through Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test and subsequently reading a ton of information about my type, I realized it is part of my overall makeup, my hard wiring. I am who I am.
I am an introvert. I recharge my batteries by seeking plenty alone time. I also do not like alot of people and noise. I tend to hold back a part of myself and to observe people for a while before making contact. I also don't trust people and don't even like people for the most part. I love animals, I tolerate people.
There is nothing wrong with me. There is no self help book that could fix me. I am who I am. I now use what info I have learned about my nature, tempermant or personality to make friends, to solve conflicts effectively with whatever personality type I'm dealing with and to appreciate people for who they are and not who I want them to be.
I recommend anyone who struggles with making friends to make friends with yourself first. Learn about your type, your style of communicating and then see what happens. You may naturally start relating to people in a way you never dreamed possible.
It all started last May when I took an on line test at www.HumanMetrics.com. If interested go to the site and follow links to Jung Typeology test. In 10 minutes you will be given 4 numbers and 4 letters for your type. It will give you links to read about your type as well and hopefully you will get hooked like I did and on your way to self discovery, acceptance and eventually hopefully meaningful friendships. Another web site with useful info is personalitypage.com.
Let me know what happens..send me an email as to what type you are, I'm always interested in what types people test as and if they use the info to their benefit!