Trust Issues!!

All the relationships i had , they all cheated on me

Now  i have a bf of two years, i also hear he cheated on me like twice

 and i heard from people, that if a person have been cheated before,their most likely to be cheated on the future.
Is that right?

and from now on, i been having this trust issues, that eveytime my bf tells me something, i dont believe him. or with other people too.

We had problems with this before, and eventhough i told him i got over it, i still can't

what do you guys think i should do?

AkikocollilyluJ AkikocollilyluJ
18-21, F
1 Response Aug 3, 2010

I think that unfortunately, once someone cheats on you, it's impossible for things to go back to the way they were. I tried to make a relationship work when I was cheated on, and it seems like it just doesn't work, or didn't for me anyway. I want to be able to trust the person I'm with, and even if he never does cheat on you again, there's always going to be that doubt in your mind. I hated the impulse to go through his pockets or his phone, but I felt compelled to because I didn't want to be the idiot who was being cheated on but was clueless. No matter how hard I tried, I never felt like I could trust him again after that, and I feel like I wasted 4 years of my life trying to "get over it". I think that the hardest part about it is that feeling of the wool being pulled over your eyes by someone you care about. It makes you want to make sure that it doesn't happen again, and it'll drive you completely nuts. Unfortunately, I think that the only way to preserve your sanity and for you to not feel like an insecure person who has to second guess everything your boyfriend says or does, the best thing to do is to move on without him. I just feel like if he cheated on you once, or twice, or however many times, he will more than likely do it again, and that would be horrible to spend the rest of your life with someone you won't ever truly trust. I hope that things work out for you, and I hate that you're going through this situation, but you have to think about what's best for you, and it doesn't sound like he is it.