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Why?

I have loads of questions that no one answers. All I want to do is understand WHY?
amigoodenough amigoodenough 36-40, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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I think SilentCrusader thinks that suffering is a good thing. Celebrating our loss so we can see how good our lives are? <br />
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Why should anyone suffer? Do we tell a mother who has lost her children in a road accident that its good to suffer so you can appreciate what you've got or maybe a child who has watched her mother (or father) brutally beaten everyday of its childhood so he/she can see how good life is and so on.......<br />
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I'm sorry but I totally disagree.

I read the message you sent me, and I am truly sorry for the pain you have endured. I too have felt great loss, and many more that I know. Not to diminish your plight in the least, but I can't think of one person that I know that does not suffer from one trauma or another (present company included). I recently watched my newborn baby almost die every day for nearly six months, while babies with fetal alcohol syndrom go home to their alcoholic parents. We did everything right, and he still got sick. My wife and I lost almost everything because we had to basically live at the hospital. You are looking for answers that only you can find. I know that this is an outlet for your pain, and if i'm getting too personal than I will leave you be - I honestly do want to try and help you though. My brother recently tried to kill himself, and mother has cancer. Everyone lives with pain. We have to. If we don't try and learn from it, if we let it control us, then we have suffered for no reason at all. Why, you ask? The reason my friend, is so that we can appreciate what we have.

Also, if you feel the need to be an individual, the best advice I can give is to just be a good person - god knows there aren't many left in this world!

It's okay to be depressed, it really is. It's a natural part of the human condition. You have to use that depression as a stepping stone to elevate yourself. Correct me if i'm wrong, but you're most likely depressed because there is something missing from your life. Your body / soul (whatever you want to call it), is crying out for that missing piece inside. If it's love or affection you crave, this can be found in more ways than by physical partnership. The road to happiness starts with you. Most people don't know who they are and live they're entire lives withdrawn. They are afraid to act on anything because they fear rejection. You have to do something to make yourself happier. Responsibility is actually very helpful. If you are depended upon, it will give you a feeling of empowerment. I know it sounds cheezy, but a really good way to lift your spirits is to volunteer. Helping those less fortunate than us is a reminder of our position in life, and our responsibility to our fellow man. Getting a pet is a good idea too, that teaches us commitment. I write!! This is my outlet, and I hope that I can influence you somehow. If I can, please let me know, I'm counting on you as well! LOL.

I'll PM you Smokey

What's on your mind FP? I tend to be a poor speaker, but good listener.

I pretty much feel like no one listens to me but they expect me to listen to them, which I do time and time again. I guess I kind of hope one day they realise that friendship is a two way thing and one day they may be there for me or am I trying to live in an imaginary world again.<br />
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Thank you Silent Crusader, that is so kind of you.

I pretty much feel like no one listens to me but they expect me to listen to them, which I do time and time again. I guess I kind of hope one day they realise that friendship is a two way thing and one day they may be there for me or am I trying to live in an imaginary world again.<br />
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Thank you Silent Crusader, that is so kind of you.

In my experience, people don't really want to listen, they are usually thinking of what to say next about themselves while you are talking. It's sad really. The answer is humility. If you can see through their ego, let them finish, and actually listen to them too, then you will have your answers. A lot can also be learned by listening to how someone says something, and why.<br />
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P.S. If you ever need someone to listen to you, or maybe ask your questions to, I am more than willing to try and help you find your answers. I'll check up on this page later, and feel free to look at my "experiences" if you like.

I ask the question because no one makes any sense to me.<br />
I ask the question because I genuinely don't know the answer.<br />
Most of the time I don't ask, when I should then I'm left in the dark again.