I have read so many sad stories about people disliking their parents, and the influence that other people contribute to that dislike.

I just gotta say, and I am sure there are a number of people who agree with me, that when they are gone, they are gone.

I am 43, lost my Dad 3 years ago to cancer, my Mum a year ago to cancer. They were 67 and 66.  I don't want sympathy either, I just hope that what I have felt may help someway for those people who question their parents and their feelings towards them.

My only advice is that (and I know there are circumstances which cannot be justified as to the way a parent treats their children,) don't look at their bad points, look at their good points.  And what I mean by this is is the silly, funny, daft things that they do routinely that may annoy you now, but you will miss so much when they are gone.

For me I miss them madly, but I have only just been able to think of the silly everyday stuff that they used to to and love them for it.  When they were alive I missed the same silly everyday stuff.

It is hard, I know, but I know from experience that when they are gone, it is hard as well but 100% harder.
Kurlysue Kurlysue
41-45, F
Sep 4, 2012