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I Hide Part Of Who I Am From My Family

I Hide And It Sucks, Am I The Only One?

By: muzikid9
Written on August 28th, 2012
they say u r supposed to b able to trust your family with anything and everything, i wish that were true. im 15 and im not being a dramatic teenager when i say i just wish they understood me. its awful that i dont trust them enough to tell them most of my deeper thougts. i hide almost all of myself from them, i have secrets and desires that i dont think i could ever tell them. am i the only one like this? i want freedom to be me without judgement from my family or anyone. this probably doesnt make too much sense but anyway because i cant tell them i come on here and let my real self fly. ........for the most part, i think there needs to be a revolution to stop people from having to hide themselves under a cloak from their families or really anybody. does anybody agree?
By: muzikid9
Age: 18-21 , Male
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  • wetarron
    wetarron

    Amazing things come from creative people who think outside of the box. You cannot do things the way your parents did because the is world constantly changing. When you do things differently people tend to judge only because it is not their way. Whats considered to be normal varies upon where you live. Every one has secret thoughts and desires which they don't fully understand. Just be yourself and things will be ok.

    PS I also agree with the comments made by jimsec below

    Jan 4
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  • jimsec
    jimsec

    Your feelings are normal. I'll be 50 in a few weeks, and have a son that is younger than you. The reason that you hide your true self from them is that they have expectations of who you should be. You don't want to be that person, whether it would be better for you or not (I'm not saying it is... just that it doesn't matter if it is). It is part of growing up and becoming an independent person... one who is capable of making his own decisions. And you are both doing it and capable of it. Best thing I can offer you, to satisfy your need to make your decisions and to keep a good relationship with your family, is to be honest with them in a way that expresses concern and consideration for their feelings and expectations. And do give their thoughts consideration... most likely, they want good things for you. After doing that, tell them of your decision for your direction and ask for their support. It is your life and it is you who are responsible for it. Just please don't do foolish things that waste your time (your life). Life is not coming up soon. Life is now, and it happens whether you direct it or not. To add my personal insight... if I'd gone the direction of my family's expectations when I was 20, my life would have likely been easier. That is more difficult than it sounds and not what happened. Still, I'm a good person with some good accomplishments and all of my experiences, good and bad, made me the good man that I am.

    Dec 11, 2012
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  • waleskinder
    waleskinder

    There is this total idea that people think they have to be out front to family and friends about every single thing. It's a total crock. There are things that are private about everyone, and that the way it is and the way it should be. Nobody for real wants to have everyone know everything - that would be whack. So the private ideas and thoughts and things you like are your own fun personal stuff.

    Oct 30, 2012
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  • Razielwolf
    Razielwolf

    I agree. I have still not told most of my family that I'm a furry and hell I'm 27. It's the fear of not being accepted for who u are. Cause if they don't......you still can't take it back.and you can't change who you are.

    Oct 5, 2012
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