Cuckold Vs Hotwife

I became familiar with Experience Project awhile back when i googled cuckold and hotwife and ended up here.

Why did I google those words? Because my husband had broached the subject, and I, probably like most wives, thought he was crazy.

But I played along with it during sex, talking about his fantasy and, about former lovers, about guys I found hot, etc. So lately I've been curious, and started reading more on the internet about the subjects. To my surprise I found articles in mainstream publications as well as at least one book written on the subject. So I started becoming more and more curious about just how widespread this fantasy or actual participation in a lifestyle really is. Now I believe that the fantasy in one form or another is very common in men.

So what is the definition of cuckold. Its a term that goes way back centuries. Shakespeare used it a couple of times. It referred to a married man who's wife cheated, usually without his knowledge. Today common usage is more about a man who's wife has sex with other men and the husband experiences some form of humiliation. So another term has come into use, hotwife. This is a woman who has sex with other men, with her husband's permission, but there is not the humiliation involved. In both cases the husband remains faithful to the wife.

So why am I stating what most of you probably already know? Because I would like to start a dialog with some people about the subject. I'm not sure how to go about it, I've been a member of Experience Project for quite awhile but never really participated.

So if you are a man with one of these fantasies, or a woman or man or couple who have actually practiced the lifestyle, or maybe a woman who cheated and found her husband was OK with it, I would love to hear from you.

I might post this in different experiences so as to get the most contacts.
KellyTravels KellyTravels
36-40, F
7 Responses Sep 3, 2013

It can be a lot of fun as long as you have a strong relationship with a lot of trust. I thought I was strange when I had cuckold fantasies, bit like you discovered it is actually quite common.

I love the idea of a hot wife. Check out my true story for a glimpse into our life.

Gosh, I could just repost Bmjackson's response.
My wife Ann has been a HotWife for over 30 years now, and still counting! Ann's many HotWife adventures are a source of sexual pleasure for both of us.
Ann typically finds a guy and they have several "dates" before she moves on to again find that thrill of a new guy, new experience. That said, Ann has had many long term boyfriends, and one man she fell in love with and has been her poly-lover for over 20 years.
Ann has gone on many, many overnights/weekends with her boyfriends, and several weeklong vacations with her lover.
And loves the freedom to get to know and physically experience other men, and we both enjoy sharing the 'naughty', sensual, erotic, and outright sexual nature of her HotWife adventures.
Overall, Ann's HotWife adventures have brought us closer as a loving couple . . . strange, huh!

My wife and I aren't into all the sissy stuff, but she has a boyfriend of sorts that she enjoys once a week or so. And yes, I'm JUST hers, for the most part. She's a loving attentive and sweet wife, and an available and adventurous girlfriend. If you love a woman, you should want her to have the best of both worlds, even when twinges of jealousy creep in here and there.

My fantasy and allowing my wife to be a hot wife kind of went a little different than I had planned. Early in our marriage I told my wfe, now ex wife, that I wouldn't be upset if I ever found out she was cheating. I was trying to say that I wanted her to do so in my presence, but it didn't quite turn out that She said she thought it weird I would say something like that, and said she would never do so.

However, that would change after our second child, and we had an IUD placed. I accidently discovered this while doing laundry and came across dried *** in her panties. I was nervous and thrilled and turned on all at once. I knew it had to be a man from her work. Within a month I found a letter from her man, and he needed to break it off cuz he said it could ruin his reputation at work, and he heard rumors she was seeing other guys at work.

Suddenly I had a wife that was wanting to prove her sexiness after two children and fulfilling her desires with multiple men. She would deny it all. But I stayed true and said I wasn't upset I just wanted to know about it. I never told her that I found out through her panties, and only that I knew by the letter. She quit that job due to this saying she felt harassed at work, and the rumors were made up by jealous people.

She would continue cheating at her next place of employment, and with people we knew. I would know about who she was with, and then would find her panties the next day, and I always kept it to myself.

I haven't had this experience yet but looking forward to it. Me an my girlfriend have been planning on her giving a ******* with or without me present. She hasn't done it yet but I'm looking forward to this happening but it seems there's always a hang up. She doesn't want it to be any of my friends, none of hers and it just continues in a circle. Maybe one day we'll meet a guy she feels cool going down on.

Hey there! I am the husband of a "Hotwife". We have an open relationship, but I'd say we participate in the HW lifestyle more than anything. It's far easier for her to meet and eventually hook up than it is for me. Currently she has 3 guys that she'll meet up with every now and then. They agree on a time and place and meet up for strictly sex. She had a boyfriend for almost 8 years. Of course they were in love as well, which I was ok with. He was someone I trusted as did she. Anyway, I'm not much into the whole "humiliation" thing and neither is she. If she has "plans" I'll help her pick out outfits .. or rub lotion on her legs. Sometimes I'll go down on her to get the juices flowing ( no pun intended ... well maybe ). But that's usually for me because I find it an extreme turn on to feel like I'm helping her be in the mood. She's had over nighters with her BF and I would watch her get ready and pack ...and once she was dressed and ready to go, she would always dress in sexy, not slutty attire, to make it easy for a quickie when she would get to the hotel or house, I would just lay there and look at her, feel her legs and get myself off. And that was her way of making me feel good till she got home the next day. When I finished, shed kiss me bye and leave.

I do fantasize on occasion of her having a bf over to spend the weekend with us and I would sleep in the guest bedroom .. fix them food... Get them drinks when they're exhausted from so much sex.. etc. but that hasn't happened .. YET. I also fantasize about cleaning them both up after they've had sex. Or even my wife asking me to give her bf a ******* to make him hard for her. I'm not gay, more bi-curious. So that's about as much of the humiliation thing I'd go for.

Sorry for the rant. So, I get turned on by her having sex with other men ... but I don't want her to put me down in front of them . I think that's the main difference of the two.

And by all means ... Go for it. Make sure you include your hubby in every aspect. Let him be a part of it as much as possible. There's no greater anticipation of waiting on your wife to get home after a "date". And YES, the 1st thing I do is go down on her to taste her. It's called a "********" .. And it is so incredibly HOT to taste the two of them together. Her "friends" have no idea and I don't want them to know. She doesn't swallow, but loves the idea of me cleaning her up and then having "sloppy seconds".

Good luck and please let me know if I can offer any more perspective!