I've Never Had An ******

How embarrassing is that? I've never told a real life person because I know they would think I was nuts!

I've faked it for so many years and just don't know how to "let go" and have one. My husband has no sex drive whatsoever and it's rare we even make love. He has taken Viagra and we have tried different medications but he **** instantly and things just end. He doesn't try to help me to have an ****** or anything. I think he is just so disappointed in his own short comings that he just doesn't want to bother.

I use vibrators and ********** almost daily but usually just get bored or even more frustrated. I don't know what's wrong with me that I just stop myself? I can feel myself building up to something but it just never happens or I just stop trying. I've done a lot of thinking about it and I think I'm just such a control freak that I'm afraid to let go and experience the unknown.

Sheena Sheena
41-45, F
4 Responses May 28, 2007

Pressure!<br />
The more you expect it, the less likely it is? Male; granted, but I have read that some women go through life without ever experiencing ******; others just have to look at something arousing and have one. Everyone is different. Ultimately, it has to be about being satisfied.

Foreplay s very important in sex. my wife hiad that problem until went down on her and never came bac up againi. she **** n streams and loves the feelng of my tounge.

Have you tried to use supplements or herbs to increase your sex drive? Sentia was effective for me.

I am attracted to my husband, but the man just has no sex drive at all. I guess I should be used to it by now but he really needs therapy or something so he can find out why or what he is so afraid of. On the rare occassion we do attempt to have sex, it is over within a minute or two. <br />
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I just wish I could have one even by myself so that I would finally know what the big deal is even about!

OMG ... I'm not alone... I am the same age and I swear our stories are identical. I feel like there is something wrong with me cause I can't even get myself off, I lose interest as well cause I feel the build up but... Nothing
I have never told anyone until now.