I Need Some Opinions

I've been struggling the past year about an awesome guy. I've known this guy for about 4 years now and the feelings that I have for him came like a wave when my last year in college started.

Him and I really hit it off. We like the same things, we have the same major, we like the same music, and we know how to make each other laugh. He is so giving, never asking anything from me in return. He also seems very interested in what's been going on with my life. He has helped me get through the worse of times when I was in a depressive episode. To make it even worse, he's in a fraternity with me right now. The real kicker is that he has been dating a girl who is absolutely crazy for about 3 years now. They are on and off; right now, they are doing well, but the last 2 years were weird for them.

Anyway, he confuses me. When we were in the same room, I have caught him staring at me a couple of times. Whenever him and I go out to a bar, he gets all touchy-feely with me when he's had some drinks. It just seems to come out when he's drunk. He takes his shirt off, he tries to lick my neck, he hugs me for long periods of time. I've heard that whenever he and his gf are having a bad period of time, he always seems to get drunk and make out with guys multiple times and apparently it got really hot and heavy. I was also told that he was given a bj by one of the guys he made out with. I asked him about it, and he said it was a mistake.

I know what feelings I have for him need to go away. He is off limits, but at the same time, I can't shake the feelings away. It hurts every time I see him, yet it feels good every time I see him. What do you think, is he hiding something? What should I do??
gayboy1122 gayboy1122
22-25, M
5 Responses Jan 17, 2013

******* keep your distance from him. No one like a gay guy coming at you. I suggest take your time off from him. See what he might have with the girl. And start making friends more. Don't just stick to one guy. Have another friend to hangout with when he's with her or when he's too busy being drunk.

Next time he gets drunk and makes a move on you, let him go for it! I was in your situation twice with straight guys when I was in my 20's. Now I am 50 and I regret never taking those chances. I ran into one of them five years ago. He was married with grown children and miserable. He confided in me that he didn't have the courage to be his true self. He secretly loved me deeply and would have moved away with me if I had only asked. We did end up in bed that evening and it was just like we were 20 years old again! I haven't seen him since. I heard he got divorced.

uhm yes he is definitely hiding something. You don't become someone new when you are drunk you become more yourself. You can either tell him or regret it the rest of your life. If he takes it bad at least you will know. good luck buddy

When you have feelings for someone, they just don't up and disappear easily. I wouldn't say he is exactly hiding something. But, that he needs to maybe not get drunk because that is no excuse for him doing what he has been doing. It's hard to say what you should do. My honest opinion though is that there is someone out there much better for you, who would treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Tell him what you think!!He probably has the same feelings for you and he may be just araid to admit it!;)