I Am In Love With a Man That Is Not My Husband .....

I HAVE KNOWN THIS MAN FOR  THE SAME AMOUNT OF TIME I  HAVE BEEN MARRIED I MET WHEN I WAS MARRIED TO MY 1ST HUSBAND AND  NOW I AM REMARRIED TO A DIFFERENT MAN AND HE HAS CONTACTED ME AGAIN AND I AM FALLING INLOVE ALLL OVER AGAIN . I REALLY DONT WANT TO DO THIS BUT I FIND MYSELF WANTING THIS MAN MORE AND MORE .... WHY OH WHY ? I LOVE MY HUSBAND VERY MUCH .. BUT I THINK MAYBE  THE OTHER DUDE IS JUST SAYING WHAT I WANT TO HEAR FROM MY CURRENT HUSBAND , IF YOU DONT GET IT AT HOME YOU LOOK FOR IT ELSE WHERE ... YA THINK ?
queenpin queenpin
31-35, F
12 Responses Oct 17, 2006

The sooner you talk to your husband about this, the better off you'll be. Cheating is never the answer.

if you cheat on your husband... why did you marry him again? bcuz you loved him right? so why the hell are you still married to him if your gonna go for another guy? just tell him about this other guy that you "like" and if he gets mad, just try to work it out with him and hopefully get your damn marriage back in track. You have to at least try to make your marriage work but if you aren't up to the challenge of that then just divorce and go **** all of the guys that tell you sweet nothings...

You love your husband? You must be crazy to write such a thing to thousands of people. Its obvious you don't love your husband. Have the courage to either end the relationship and save your husband the pain of finding out you cheated on him or try to fix it. I can inform you that I say FIGHT for your husband. FIGHT for your family. You will eventually regret making the mistake of being with this other guy. He is nothing but a dream. Its obvious that you are infatuated with this other guy but trust when I say that the reality is worse than the dream.

In my opinion, everyone has flirts and fantasies about someone that they "like" but if your in a marriage you need to keep your feet on the ground and realize that what you THINK you want, probably wont be as good as it sounded. Can you imagine your embarrassment if you spouse found out? The hurt? It is all just fantasies and if you act on possible sexual encounters then you will never find someone to spend your life with. There is always going to be this girl/guy that is hot, or treats you nice or even an old friend that suddenly seems like more, but when you get married to someone you are saying "HEY< I love YOU, I want to be with YOU, no one else no matter how tempting". If you can't handle this then DON"T get married.

I am a maried man, in love with a maried woman who is in love with me. Both our marriages are probably beyond repair but we can't seem to leave. She has two children who are the most important part of her life. I have no children, but care deeply for the welfare of my wife. The woman I love, I have know much longer than my wife...we just shoot into each others lives it seems when we need each other..hopeless romantic...just cant get it right

Wow, that sounds very similar time my deal, except he has known his wife longer then me, we are not having an affair, but emotionally we are very connected, but try to do the right thing. he does help me stayed married, because he is my light when things are dim. he doesnt even know it

My take is if the woman is happy what does it matter if you know or don't know, her happiness will show on her face.<br />
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I can see your point in being hurt if she is not sexually submissive to you and ignores you, in that case, anyone would be hurt and I am sorry if that is the case. I am just talking out loud, everyone is different, in my case I rather not have my husband know it.. <br />
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I won't label such activities as cheating if no one gets hurt. Think of this as living the life happily and making the marriage work at the same time.<br />
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I am sorry it's been hurting you for 40 years..

AS A MAN THAT HAS CHEATED AND BEEN CHEATED ON. I CAN TELL YOU THE BEST WAY IS TO TALK TO YOU SPOUSE. HE MAY BE UPSET AT FIRST BUT LIKE MYSELF, LIKE YOU, YOU JUST WANT A LITTLE LOVING FROM SOMEONE NEW. WE OPENED OUR MARRIGE YEARS AGO AND I DIDNT HURT WHEN SHE WENT OUT TO GET A LITTLE STRANGE AND I KNEW ABOUT IT. BUT I STILL THINK ABOUT AND HURT WHEN I THINK ABOUT HER CHEATING WHILE I WAS AT WORK AND SHE WAS GETTING IT IN OUR BED LIKE I SAID IT STILL HURTS AND THAT WAS 40 YEARS AGO..

I disagree with cuckyboy. <br />
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You go right on.. Do what your heart wants to do..<br />
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All it matters is your happiness.. no one else has to give you permission to be happy<br />
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Read some of my stories.. you will know what I mean.

yea I think you need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. tell him you need some lovin.<br />
if he ignores you, then you won't feel as bad if you cheat. <br />
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or maybe talk to him about swinging and get into that. that way, you can eventually be with the guy you've been thinking about.

How about being FAITHFUL to the commitment you have made. Women like you are a disgrace to marraige and should not be allowed to marry. If you are having problems with your spouse then TALK TO HIM WORK IT OUT that is the whole point of being married. Your husband should be the only one for you. Marraiges are hard work, and nothing that comes easy is worth having. It would be easy to have an AFFAIR. But that is not right. Some things are just wrong, and cheating is one of them. If you aren't going to keep your legs shut, then please PLEASE do not get married after this marraige fails, because marraige is something sacred, and is not to be entered into lightly. I am not religious or anything, I just can't understand why more women dont take thier marraiges more seriosly. Is having an ****** with another man really worth detroying the life you have built together? Yes, it is sex, but really, thats all it boils down to is sex. get a grip--there is more to life than sex, and any woman who says diffrently needs to pick up a book and grow some brain cells. I could just go with the crowd and say "wohoo girl, go get cha' some....cheat on your husband.....wohoo" but that would not be the RIGHT thing to do... now would it. In a world of gray, somethings ARE black and white. Being the way you are being is not right. Come on man--grow up.

I THINK YOUR RIGHT.HE'S SAYING ALL THOSE SWEET NOTHING'S YOU WANNA HEAR FROM YA HUSBAND.REST ASSURED HE WILL CHANGE HIS TUNE WHEN U GIVE UP THE GOODS

Your last comment is something I've been hearing for years... from men. They forget our needs are just as important as THEIRS!! I say, " What's good for the gander is good for the goose!"