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My Dear Best Friend Has Cancer

I am so scared and confused.  My dearest best friend just got diagnosed with cancer.  I just got off the phone with her and I don't know what to talk about sometimes because I am so choked up and scared.  If there is anyone out there that has gone thru this- please help me a long with your opinion.  It was just a couple weeks ago that we were walking around town talking and celebrating my birthday.  She has had back pain for 3 months and when they went in to do surgery, they found a mass on her spine which is malignant and is cancer and maybe breast cancer.  She says that she is trying to stay positive and I totally agree with that because she also has a wonderful loving husband and a beautiful 6 yr old daughter.  I am positive to that she will get over this but, I don't mean to be scared- but, I am.  I also don't mean to be selfish but, I feel like I am lost and don't have anyone to talk to like I do her and do things with.  I know that seems bad and I am not a bad person but, it is true.  Help- Tanylee in Florida

Tanyalee Tanyalee 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2009

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I don't think ur a bad person my best friend just found out she has cancer she has 4 girls and the thing thats passing throw my head is those girls and that I wouldn't have any one if some thing happen to her she is lile a sister to me and I tell her every thing I feel like a bad person cuz I don't know how to be strong for her every time I think about her i cry

hello my best friend has also got cancer so I one hundred percent no what your going through, you just need to be there for her and when she needs a shoulder to cry on be there. I felt upset because I couldn't do anything about it, but you just need to make sure you look at the bright side and to keep thinking that she is going to make it and fight it, just please don't make the same mistake I did and bottle it up for ages because at the end of the day its not just them it hurts its your nearest if you need to cry or get upset then cry its a scary time for everyone, just be there and do your best and talk to your friend about how you feel because when I opened up to mine it helped a lot because at the end of the day your best friend knows everything about you and you tell them everything so why stop when there ill it does help, it is a hard subject but she needs to understand how you feel, I hope your ok and your friend comes out of this the better end and remember people out there who are going through what you are.

hello my best friend has also got cancer so I one hundred percent no what your going through, you just need to be there for her and when she needs a shoulder to cry on be there. I felt upset because I couldn't do anything about it, but you just need to make sure you look at the bright side and to keep thinking that she is going to make it and fight it, just please don't make the same mistake I did and bottle it up for ages because at the end of the day its not just them it hurts its your nearest if you need to cry or get upset then cry its a scary time for everyone, just be there and do your best and talk to your friend about how you feel because when I opened up to mine it helped a lot because at the end of the day your best friend knows everything about you and you tell them everything so why stop when there ill it does help, it is a hard subject but she needs to understand how you feel, I hope your ok and your friend comes out of this the better end and remember people out there who are going through what you are.

I lost my mom to brain cancer, and now my best friend's dad is fighting the same thing. Cancer is hard for all involved -- family and friends suffer greatly too. I am thoroughly convinced that attitude plays a huge role in beating cancer. The best thing you can do is to stay positive, and help her believe she can beat it. There's a really great site that has cancer survivors stories of the day they were diagnosed that helped my friend a lot. The site is www.thedayifoundout.com <br />
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Some of the people were told they had a little as three months to live. Even though they're of all different ages and backgrounds, they all seem to share the same never-quit attitude. <br />
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Hope it helps. Hang in there and be strong. Your friend really needs you now.