Does It Get Better?

I'm looking back now at a three year relationship (including break-ups in-between) that i thought i would never get over. Today, i am the happiest, strongest and most independent i have ever been. Before my life was plagued for so long with nostalgia and memories of him that my entire life was stifled. I couldn't move forward in any way, and i felt completely hopeless. I think time was a good antidote but i think that we women are often under-estimating the powers of our brain. Once i made a conscious decision in every aspect of my life to treat myself better than he did, and tell myself i deserved more, not only did those stifling feelings of heartache begin to disappear, but new, positive people entered into my life. Looking back at it now, the best way i can describe it is that i was blind. Couldn't see ahead, or behind or around me. And one day it felt like that blindfold had been lifted and i could see everything. Every moment was precious, every relationship was precious and i could enjoy may day without being plagued with thoughts of him. I must tell you it gets better. I promise you it does. You can't even fathom how good it gets when you can look back from where you've come and stand taller and stronger. It is one of the most character building and fulfilling things i've ever had to go though. And i don't regret a moment of it. I hope this has helped. :)

To Leviosa, hugs to you girl. I understand your pain. I am currently 2 weeks NC, with a man that I spent 2 years of my life with. We were perfect, or so I thought. Only something wasn't perfect in this equation. He left and never looked back. The reality is; these men can move on and not look back because they never invested anything with us to begin with. We were used. I look at my situation as a learning experience, and don't get me wrong it's not easy. I wake up everyday missing him, but I miss ME more. Try to focus on yourself now! You probably allowed him to use and abuse you too ...it's time to take the power back, use some of the strength that you muster right now to feel important. Remember, God didn't make you as a piece of trash. Don't let this man treat you as such ... I'm here to talk :)

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I'm am so sorry and I'm in the same boat. I can't seem to understand why men can just move on without even looking back. Us women seem to collect every emotion and every moment spent with them and rerun it a thousand times looking for some kind of answer to give us closure. Why? That is the question. Why can they just move on and leave us an emotional reck? Why do we allow them to effect us this way? I don't know. I too want this hellish hurt to go away. I want to be happy..I want to love myself instead on relying on a man. Why do they have to hurt us so bad? I'm sorry for the way you feel, but your not alone. They say nothing but time helps. And time is killing me. I hope you feel better soon.