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Just Got Married (only Thrue Papers) & Already Troubles

i got married to a guy after only dating for 6 months...
i know its fast, and i wished i never did it so abruptly.
we fought constantly throughout the whole reltaionshp and did everything we can to make it work.
we thought maybe marriage would fix it, but it didnt, we broke up so many times...
took counseling, breaking up getting back million times..done it all
now were at a point we still fight but we both love eachother and dont wanna give up..

i feel like im talking to a brick wall.

so we breakup again, and we can never last 2 weeks.. we become really sad and cant help but
get back toegther always hoping things will be better..

i dont know what to do.
is there anything i can do in my part to make things better.
anniebear84 anniebear84 26-30 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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ONE YOU NEED TO CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE FIGHTING ABOUT. WHEN A AGREEMENT START TRY TO RESOLVE IT BY NOT YELLING AND SRCEAMING BUT TALK CALMLY. TRY TO NOT FIGHT ABOUT STUPID THINGS. I BELIEVE LOTS OF FIRST TIME MARRAIGES PEOPLE START FIGHTING BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING NEW. ITS LOVING BUT ALSO GETTING ALONG WITH SOMEONE ELSE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. PAY MORE ATTENTION LOVING EACH OTHER THEN FIGHTING. TRY TO HOLD YOUR TOUGH AND SAY SOMETHING DIFFERENT FOR ONCE. PLUS GO TO CHURCH TOGETHER AND ALWAYS READ YOUR BIBLE. ASK GOD TO HELP YOU WITH YOUR MARRIAGE AND HE WILL......

Oh anniebear18, first, write down the things you love about him (he should do it too). Write down the things that are troublesome. Be open and honest about the good and the not so good. Work on the things that are not so good and work on turning those not-so-good qualities around. <br />
What are your strengths? What are his? <br />
Define your roles together. Set boundaries. <br />
Who is the top? Who is the bottom? Understand what that means. Both are necessary and work together. Give and take. Listen more. Be patient, loving, and kind. Don't be too harsh on each other. Keep the lines of communication open. Be honest with each other and yourself. <br />
Give each other space but spend quality time together doing the things you BOTH enjoy. <br />
Hope this helps. Good luck to you both. Wes