Independence Through Love And MarriageI never thought I would have been married at 22. I thought I would have been working on a masters degree, starting my career, moved to a bigger and better city. Married, though? I never saw it coming. Even when he told me he was going to propose, I laughed it off and thought it was another false promise that a few ex-boyfriends had made. So, when he got down on one knee in front of my favorite light house and held out the little blue box from Tiffany's I couldn't believe it.
I still can't.
Even now as my new Husband snores lightly next to me, I still feel this sense of awe and disbelief. It's not a bad thing, this feeling; I feel an overwhelming sense of happiness and peace when I think about the fact that I'm now a Wife. A Wife who is still a college student still trying to make her mark on the world.
For a time, I thought that I had to figure everything out by myself. I thought being an independent person meant being alone. I have learned, though, that being independent can still happen even when you find yourself in the most intimate and powerful relationship as marriage. I have an overwhelming sense of freedom and independence in my marriage, with the love and support of my best friend. He encourages me and pushes me to become a better person, writer, student. Without him, I would not have been able to truly understand who I was as an individual person. It's a truly liberating feeling.