I Don't Know My Husband Anymore :(

Just a little background, I met my husband when I was 18, and fell in love almost immediately. He was 21, and already had a past and a lot of baggage. Being so nieve and young I didn't care. He was my first everything; my first love, my first adult relationship and my first and only "partner". We married a year and half later right before my 20th birthday. I thought that he was the love of my life and that he was everything I could ever hope for in a man. I thought that through it all, he would always love and adore me for me... Talk about young and dumb! Nearly 7 years later, and 2 1/2 kids later, his true colors are showing. He punishes me for whatever his mother has done to him or for what his ex has done. His mom and ex are similar. They cheat on every guy they're with, get pregnant and try to say its someone else's kid (my dumb husband was 15 when he fell for that, and he never thought to get a paternity test. The dumb ***** finally told him when the kid was 6.). Today he's starting a new a job, and I'm so proud of him! I was trying to get his clothes ready for him and realized he no clean whites. So I started sorting the laundry so his clothes would be washed and clean by the time he goes to work. He wakes up sees what I'm doing and starts yelling at me. One thing leads to another and with in 30 minutes of pointless arguing he's succeeded in telling me I'm a quitter who has never finished anything, I'm an incompetent mother who can't take care of my kids and I need counseling for being emotional... I know he doesn't mean it and none of it is true, but it still hurts. Is it stupid to think that the man I fell in love with is still there beneath all of that anger? I don't know what I did wrong, and I don't know what to do anymore...
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May 14, 2012