I Feel So Alone

Honestly, you can't take care of anyone! unless you take care of yourself. I'm learning this the hard way. You have to put yourself first as your mother, and sister will never understand the sacrifices you are making. Second, you need to take care of your own family. No matter what you think/believe your mother and sister will find other ways to survive, your own children need you and need you to make yourself important to yourself! I've always taken care of everyone and I am miserable! Please don't make the same mistakes!

first of all, I think you are really an angel for that you take all your family's responsibilities which are not really belong to you alone. But you make it even though it doesn't seem good right now. But I think you may have a try. I think your family must understand you and respect you in the end. But meanwhile, you alway should learn escape for a while to leave some time for other family members to learn a lesson that they own you a lot.

I completely agree that you're an angel for taking all of this stress that you don't deserve. Whatever you sister says, you nor your children deserves this situation. Yours is a situation that has gone completely out of proportion. Where is the father of your children or your sisters? It's completely unfair that you're in such a position.



It's understandable that you feel alone in this situation- it's good that you're expressing yourself and not bottling up your feelings (you're telling us, after all) but you need to reach out to someone in real life.



The others are right, your sister has a serious problem that makes her and her children eligible for a lot of different aid programs where they can get the help they need and you can free up yourself for your own priorities and responsibilities.



I was also raised with the belief that family comes above all responsibility but you have to look at it objectively -you're doing yourself and your children a disservice by taking on too much responsibility.



And I'm really, really sorry for saying this but I think that you're going to have to just dismiss your mother. I'm sorry, that's just my honest-to-God opinion. You're always free to vent on here - to me or to anyone else because you'll find a supportive community here that's always willing to listen (although with other responsibilities, I'll be distant for the most part).



Whatever method you choose, you should also try to find at least 10 minutes to yourself everyday. Whether you just sit down and have a glass of water, meditate, or just try to clear your mind, believe me, this will make a ton of difference in how you feel.

I wish you the best of luck, my friend. Please, feel free to continue venting (hey, it can be your 10 minutes!) and updating EP on how you're doing. If there's anything you'd like to talk about, send me a message.. I don't know when I'll be able to get back to you, but I'll certainly respond as soon as I anything.

Peace and love.

dear ,4 too long, i know you feel responsible for your sis and her children .but my thoughts are do you really want to raise YOUR child in an environment like that,where hatred ,and mayhem goes on everyday. maybe your sister and her kids could benefit from learning to live on their own . some times we hurt people unconsciouslly by not letting them stand on their own. And remember people treat you like you let them treat you. always here for you to vent or just talk .take care of YOURSELF or you wont be able to help anyone else

You are a true angel. I really admire you for looking after your sister and her kids as well as your own. I don't think you should kick them out because I don't think you are the sort of person who could live with that, you obviously have strong family values.



However, I do think you need some support, as mental illness needs proper treatment. I would get your sister to a doctor, admit you need help and they should be able to help her and you. I work with schizophrenics and they need medication, as without it they can become dangerous to themselves and others.



Please ask for help and continue to help your sister and her family. It is nice to know that there are people in this world who are truly selfless and giving. I wish you well for the future.

I am so sorry you are going through this. You are obviously a good person. I understand your feelings of loyalty to your family, and can understand ho hurt you must feel that they treat you like this. My thoughts are with you, and wish you well. Just remember while you are caring for so many, and suffering so much, there are always people on this site who can relate to how you feel, and what you are going through, and are here if you need them. Take care

Thank you so much everyone for just listening. I really appreciate it. I know you guys don't know me but you have made me feel a little better. I am trying to hold my head up. I feel like I am all alone in the world at times. I am trying to be a good person but does that mean I have to be a doormat? Anyway thank you so much I really really needed to vent before I start screaming.

first of all you are a real person , you have a lovely heart for what you are doing to ur family .



I have a comment about what u said :

" my friends tell me to just kick my sis out and deal with my own family "



don't listen to them , they don't have any heart . I'm so sorry about this , but this is the truth . how can leave my sis like this and how i could leave her kids without help . beleive me if u were ur sis she will not leave u and don't pay attention for what did she say to u . she lost her eyes and feel bad .

any way just think about this :

god will not forget this for u and u'll see this



best regard

I feel so bad for you....if i were in youur situation , i dont know what i would have done...you are really brave to manage this all by yourself.....whenever u need to vent , i am there for you....as for your sister and mother....i cant understand how they can be so miserable to you.....my heart goes out to u

if you ask me i think your at that stage where you should just go ''**** em'' and leave did u say you have a kid or are you pregnant with your first? if u have a partner just take him and go, start a new, try and get a job before you leave, i dunno but if that were me id just abandon my family people get so pushed around by family its unfair you need to stick up for yourself, they had their chance and they just give you grief, let them rot, sorry but just reading that i just cant stand it when people take advantage of someone like yourself

i dont know you but i care anytime you need to vent or just want to talk you can come talk to me