"I Just Want to Find Someone That Will Love Me"

It would really be nice to find someone that loves me. I mean someone that really cares for me and does not have alterior motives. I don't want to be pursued to find out that he only wants to make someone else jealous! Or because he is looking to shack up with someone! What ever happened to getting to know someone and falling in love? I sometimes feel like I am going to be alone forever. I am so tired of finding these guys who seem to be on the rebound from another relationship. They tell you they are over their ex but then the truth comes out that they are not. Then I start to feel like a third wheel! I would just like to meet someone who is not on the rebound and has no emotional strings to anyone else! At my age most guys are either married, unavailable, gay or on the rebound! How do you find a single guy who is emotionally available? I don't date married men or men with girlfriends but I sure seem to find the ones who are trying to get over someone else. Then I play the part of a friend until they decide they want to go out with me. This has all happened to me recently and I am so frustrated and at the end of my rope. I even prayed that God would send a Christain man my way. Well he came my way and we went out and I discover he is still not over his ex. He went to church today and she goes to his church. I have not heard from him all day! He told me he was over her and now it does not appear that way at all. I am so confused and disappointed! I really had feelings for this guy and now I am feeling kind of foolish!
cmost cmost
36-40, F
7 Responses Jun 10, 2007

I hope we could see if we are to be together. Let's talk I hope. Kit

If you just like christians, that lowers your options entirally.<br />
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There are tons of good men out there, and alot of em arn't christian.<br />
I'm not saying christians arn't good people (one of the nicest person i have seen is christian) I just mean alot of nice people are athiest or buddest, hindu, etc<br />
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Going just after christians and losing intrest if they are not (If you do not do that, please forgive my mistake) Isn't the best idea to do.<br />
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I'm a athiest, and I'm a perfectly good person, and so are my parents, who are athiest.<br />
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I hope this helped.

Me too credibility! That's the way it should be or at least that's how I feel!

me too.i feel like having someone that will love me no matter any situation

i forgot ... i'm sorry you're feeling like you are ... don't worry with it ... he's not worth your grief and he knew it to begin with - could be why he's not calling or whatever - he's embarrassed perhaps?

i'm with bono on this one - i did the same thing (making the list and then dating someone different from what i'd ever dated before) ... has worked out splendidly thus far.

Make a list out to the universe of what exactly you want. Make this list as detailed as you possibly can make it. I went from loving my children as his own to must like U2. By the time I was done, I had over 230 items on my list and my husband has the majority of what was listed. Second, whatever guy you've been attracted to in the past (the one that makes you go, "hmmmm...I want a piece of that,") run as fast as you can from. Go out with the opposite of what you find attractive and give that guy a serious chance. People have the tendency to be attracted to the same type of person over and over again, which causes them to attract the same type of person over and over again. So make a list, stop really looking, and go out with the opposite of what you think you want.