I Just Want to Talk to Someone

I Hate Living In Alaska!

By: debbiebu1

Written on October 17th, 2010

I have lived in Alaska going on 33 Years, when my dad first got transfered here in the Army back in 1978, he was going to come up here do his 3 years build a house in Orlando, FL and retire. Well he did his 3 years, had 1 year left in the military he got transfered to Illinois. My mom and dad drove back to Virginia, (that is were we came from before Alaska) to see friends and my dad could not handle the heat. So anyway I flew down to Virginia and went with them to Illinois and when the time was up my parents said they were going back to Alaska. I told them I did not want to go! My mom told me that if I did not go, then I no longer had parents, not to call, ask for money or anything, that they would disown me. So I did the daughterly thing and came to Alaska. I then met and married the man of my dreams, and we had talk about it and decided to pack up and leave, by this time we had one child. We sold everything we had I quite my government job, and we bought a truck and camper. A friend of my husbands said hey I have 2 weeks worth of work and its good money, my husband said ok. Well that 2 weeks has turned into 24 years. I love my husband and I have begged and pleaded with him to leave but he will not. He is a cabinet maker and a really good one too, and he makes good money. But he will not leave. So it does not matter that I have a very bad back and the long winters kill me, that I get severely depressed all winter long. I don't do nothing in the winter but go to work and home. I cry all the time, I take antidepressents and they still don't work. I have to have surgery on my back again this year. I get so depressed that I don't want to do nothing, then my husband gets on my case about us having nothing in common. I have to medication for the pain in my back, he does no like that, he does not like nothing i do complains about me all the time. I keep telling him get me out of Alaska and things will be different and he says how are they going to be any different then they are here. I said they will I promise. He never knew me outside of Alaska

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Age: 46-50

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14 responses

Madjishu

Obviously not and my quest for a real conversation has really been dragged out with empty responses of cp insincerity

Apr 2
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Madjishu

It shows everyone has 1 like; is that for real?

Apr 2
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Madjishu

Maybe I'm just a New Yorker who really wants to believe in the TV show Northern Exposure. I'm not that naive though.

Apr 2
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Madjishu

I wish I could tell you all that you're not missing and how I would trade places with you because I'm starting to really hate our government. You're the furthest from it so count your blessings. PS I really would like to actually chat with someone from Alaska.

Apr 2
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stuckhere2

You aren't alone, and ultimately you may just have to make the decision to leave. I've been in AK 6 years and I hate it too. People who don't live here don't understand it is like living on a huge island...there's only a few roads and within a year you've pretty much been on all of them. It's not close enough to drive anywhere and expensive to travel any other way. It is dark, cold, grey, and everything is dead 8 months a year. Hope you are out of AK by now (you posted 2.5 years ago) but best wishes to you either way. I hope I will leave someday too. Strange place, Alaska. You do either love it or hate it. The lucky ones who hate it get to leave after just two years!

Mar 23
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honeybee183

I know this was posted so long ago... but I just have to say that I think you're an incredibly strong person to have stayed so long. Clearly you need to be somewhere with someone who will make you feel like the day is worth getting out of bed for. Whether that is in Virginia with your husband, or California with a Fabio look-alike, I think you need to do anything you can to get out of the toxic situation you are in. If your husband really wants to make things work, he'll find a job and follow you wherever you go, but you shouldn't feel like you "owe" it to him to stay. Yes, marriage is important and I don't actually believe that it would be easy to let go of someone who you've been with for so long, but you're only alive once and it's not fair for him to ignore that you're so unhappy.

Apr 23, 2012
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youandmehandinhand

leave

if he loves you, he will come

Feb 14, 2012
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1frozenpopsicle

I have only been in Alaska for 3 years...too long if you ask me. We transfered here from Florida with a promise of a promotion that never came. We are in central Alaska...the only place I imagine more miseralble than 100 miles from anything is in the bush. At least in Anchorage and Wasilla there are places to go and things to do...for those complaining about these places, try living in Delta Junction... where the road from somewhere in the frozen waistland to nowhere meets the road from the real United States to someplace most companies won't ship online orders to because it is not even considered part of the freaken country! And to make matters even more "interesting" I have to pretend to like this place because I work for the freaken city.

Jan 19, 2012
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chaosbynature

the world is not small, get away from where you are and see some of it.

the lie about the world being small annoys me, "it's a small world after all", "he's got the whole world in his hand", please?

Dec 28, 2011
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TEASUNN

ARE you sure you aren't in my mind, writing about me, LOL. I HATE<HATE<HATE living in Alaska , I live out in Wasilla.for 17 years. My husband also says, there no work,"hes a union carpenter", I say to him...So the rest of the country is unemployed?, only people in Alaska work? My daughter graduates high school in 2 years, after that my son and I are, gone baby gone!! I won't pull anyone else in to the Alaskan vortex of misery. If my husband wants to follow his wife and son down to the lower 48 great if not, OH well, Ive had enough of this place, it's true what they say YOU LOVE IT OR HATE IT. Stay strong and know that you are not alone."AT ALL"

Dec 12, 2011
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TEASUNN

ARE you sure you aren't in my mind, writing about me, LOL. I HATE<HATE<HATE living in Alaska , I live out in Wasilla.for 17 years. My husband also says, there no work,"hes a union carpenter", I say to him...So the rest of the country is unemployed?, only people in Alaska work? My daughter graduates high school in 2 years, after that my son and I are, gone baby gone!! I won't pull anyone else in to the Alaskan vortex of misery. If my husband wants to follow his wife and son down to the lower 48 great if not, OH well, Ive had enough of this place, it's true what they say YOU LOVE IT OR HATE IT. Stay strong and know that you are not alone."AT ALL"

Dec 12, 2011
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Barbiegirl92118

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by ********.” — William Gibson

It sounds like you have spent your entire life being forced to do what you don't want to do.

Follow your bliss...leave Alaksa, leave the husband, leave it all and go find yourself!

I am also here trapped in Alaska working very hard to leave ASAP! Hang in there and never ever give up on yourself!

Nov 29, 2011
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Barbiegirl92118

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by ********.” — William Gibson

It sounds like you have spent your entire life being forced to do what you don't want to do.

Follow your bliss...leave Alaksa, leave the husband, leave it all and go find yourself!

I am also here trapped in Alaska working very hard to leave ASAP! Hang in there and never ever give up on yourself!

Nov 29, 2011
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leenjean

Hi We are Eileen and James and we live in Tennessee. We would like to visit Alaska one day. I can see where it would be hard on you living there all the time since you came from Virginia. I am also a transplant- I was raised in Rhode Island but have spent my adult life in Tennessee. Quite an adjustment for me too. We came to your comment in looking for someone to tell us about Alaska. We were wondering how Alaskans viewed Sarah Palin. Have you seen the Northern Lights? I always wanted to ride a dog sled for I like dogs a lot. How big a town do you live in ? Do you have big chain stores? Can you drive to many places? Get back to us if you can? Chiropractic is what we do for our backs. Have you tried it? It has done wonders for us and we are in our 60's. Maybe you should just fly home and stay in Virginia awhile, maybe you will get a new perspective on things. It is good to see different places and experience something different. Take care.

Jan 7, 2011
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